Well the other day my girlfriend (who is about 8 inches shorter than me...may play some sort of a role) and I (who are both fairly young and virgins) finally decided to try having sex. We had run through about half an hour of foreplay and such and both of us were ready to go...figuratively speaking of course...

So when the time came, she took a position on top of me, but for the love of all that was holy, I just couldnt get it in there. So we tried a different position, and still it just didnt work. So we tried the original one again, and after some fiddling around, i finally got it part way in, but it began to hurt for her...

Well i dont know if this is all normal or not...certainly doesnt seem that way from everything that ive heard (i expected a little bit of awkwardness, but not like this). Im wondering is if we just need practice and stick it out per say until it finally does become second nature, or if we need a complete overhaul in what were doing. Like I said, I always thought that things would run just sort of smoothly, even for the first time.

Thanks for all mature replies.

You need more foreplay. 2+ hours for your first time will ensure she's good and wet. Finger her first.

Also, you're going to probably have to break down the door. That is, you're going to break the hymen, there will be lots of pain and blood. Enjoy.

Honestly, it was more like an hour of foreplay, i did in fact finger her for quite a while and strangely enough she was going on about how wet she was

If this wasnt the case then i wouldnt be posting. But i had done everything correctly up until the intercourse part and thats why im so confused and pretty much embarrassed.

Im oh so glad though that us two are on the same page and are very close. Shit, if it was with any other girl i would never hear the end of it considering the embarrassment.

2 hours of foreplay????????? That's a bit of overkill dontcha think?????

this really isnt uncommon. what you need is some lube

Considering were both 16...from what i hear lube isnt exactly necessary.

and please no comments on the age....

Considering were both 16...from what i hear lube isnt exactly necessary.

and please no comments on the age....

how does that have anything to do with it? if it doesnt go in then you need lube its not like theres a force field in there.

Maybe you got the wrong hole?

You just gotta go for the push and storm the gates! Once you're in, go slowly and gently until she can get warmed up.

its not like theres a force field in there.

There's not? :(

how does that have anything to do with it? if it doesnt go in then you need lube its not like theres a force field in there.

gaw. i feel like such a dumbass when it comes to this. Im honestly just afraid im doing some deafly wrong.

Nonetheless, lube just feels too weird and unnatural. Is it really that impossible to have sex the first time and not have to use a myriad of tools to get it done? god this is the one function we were born to do, why the fuck is it so complicated?

just go get some fuckin lube it's not a big deal. it might even mean that you have a large penis. and if you really dont want to go buy lube then you can just use hand lotion or something. and smearing a little goo on your penis is not a myriad of tools its not like i'm recommending forcepts

Put in her butt.This.

Since i havent got the answer i was looking for, I'll ask another couple straight forward ones.

Is this normal? Did any of you experience this your first time? Should i be worried or be justified in my embarrassment?

yes it's normal. yes it happened to me many times with girls who haven't been fucked much. no theres no reason for you to be embarrassed.

Thank you, it means alot.

I think what you're supposed to do...
Get your dick inside of her pussy..slowly going in and out so she will be comfortable. Maybe for like 5 minutes or so.

Then JAM it to break her hymen. Make sure you only do this once.

Correct me if I'm wrong.

Haha
I went out with my first serious boyfriend for 2 years
and we never had sex because of this.
My new boyfriend was more gentle in trying to get it in

and now I can fornicate normally.

She needs to go on top, and sit on it. It WILL be sore, but it goes away after it is fully in. Just be patient and once the head is in start to thrust a bitty and it will be fine

1st of all, chill out. You're getting all worked up for nothing and that won't help at all. You'll get nervous and probably lose your erection.

I think the best for your first time is her on top. She can control how deep she wants it in, speed and etc. Just lots of foreplay and have fun!

P.S. I didn't find it that quickly my first time around either. In fact, it was lower than I thought. ;D

Have fun! :D

This was the correct answer.

It wouldn't go in cos you need to LEARN TO FUCKING LAUGH.

Both of you.

OMG an hour of foreplay? Let me guess, you even looked at your watch to check?

Sex Is Too Serious To Be Taken Seriously.

Both virgins? Bound to be a bit 'intense', both a bit on edge and worried.

Lighten the fuck up.

Next time tickle her til she pisses herself or at least make a joke when it won't go in.

HahHah!

This IS totse at It's very best, Maybe someone should start a thread on the "first time I actually really did it, for real, no fibs, just the facts"

First time will hurt her and it will be hard to get it in without doing so. Just go slow to try and minimise the pain.
I know everyones saying she should go on top, but my first time I found it easier missionary, that way he was doing the thrusting as something always stopped me going all the way as it really was painful. Just listen to her.

Unless it's the wrong hole, then she's probably just really tight or you're just overly large.

Whichever the case, lube it up and take it slow.

Oh and

tell her to RELAX too!

gotta break her in dude. maybe get drunk before hand, THAT ALWAYS MAKES SEX GO SMOOTHER especially when you have to take her Vcard

Yes, the same thing happened to me for my first time. I barely remember because I was drunk, but it was a lot lower and harder to find than I thought it would be.

Would you just fucking understand that if you're breaking her hymen, its going to hurt her for a while, end of story.

This exact thing happened to me the first time. Except it ended with a surprise appearance from my mom and her boyfriend.

I disagree with the 'more foreplay' thing. LESS foreplay, but more intense. 20 min to half an hour of undressing and fingering/fondling. As soon as she's wet and you're hard get to it!

I think the problem is that because og the whole virginity thing you feel expected to 'take it slow' and 'make it special'. Don't. It wont be special if you can't even do it right.

I'm going to have to disagree with you for once.

Quickie's are fun and all, but if you have the time, invest in some foreplay. Maybe 2 hours is excessive, but if it is her first time (and yours) you might as well stretch it out as long as you can. Believe me, it's really fucking sweet when you spend an hour and have barely undressed the other person. It just makes it so much more intense when you do.

I'm going to have to disagree with you for once.

Quickie's are fun and all, but if you have the time, invest in some foreplay. Maybe 2 hours is excessive, but if it is her first time (and yours) you might as well stretch it out as long as you can. Believe me, it's really fucking sweet when you spend an hour and have barely undressed the other person. It just makes it so much more intense when you do.

True, but this only works if you are good/experienced with foreplay. Otherwise you end up awkward, unsure and generally bored. I guess it's a good way to practice though.

1 quick tap is all u need
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foreplay is tearing off her panties. i dunno what you were doing wrong buddy, try aiming? maybe she has a intact hymen? just muscle through that and you will be fine, she wont though, it ll sting from what i had to listen to.

put it in her but

If you punch the vaginal passage from behind it loosens her up and it will all go smoother, so I recommend you put it in her butt.

This was the correct answer.

It wouldn't go in cos you need to LEARN TO FUCKING LAUGH.

Both of you.

OMG an hour of foreplay? Let me guess, you even looked at your watch to check?

Sex Is Too Serious To Be Taken Seriously.

Both virgins? Bound to be a bit 'intense', both a bit on edge and worried.

Lighten the fuck up.

Next time tickle her til she pisses herself or at least make a joke when it won't go in.

Fuck, this. It's annoying to see how seriously people take sex...

You're just having fun, man. Play around. Tickle. Joke. HAVE.FUN!

Considering were both 16...from what i hear lube isnt exactly necessary.

and please no comments on the age....

Your age has nothing to do with it. If anything, she's 16 and a virgin and her pussy is tight as hell and you're going to need to lube up to get in there. Easy as that. Anyway, you heard wrong. And also, as you're fiddling around with your penis trying to get it in her and everything... have her guide it in with her hands. I don't know how to get her to do that... but if she's intelligent and sees that you're not getting in, she can reach down and help.

You said Vcard.

Inb4jackketch

1 single slam.

Meh, just take your time. Shes young, don't hurt her or you might put her off sex for awhile.

my mommy said if a man touches me down thar then i should tell on him
but my uncle tommy said its our little secret

Pfft... sometimes I still can't get it in :p

Yep, it doesn't always go smoothly. I get that problem sometimes, you just need to sort out angles and whathaveyou. It just seems like a bigger deal because you don't know what to do or expect yet.

Don't stress about it. You're fine. And you don't need lube. There is a time and a place for lube (many times and many places), but this isn't one of them.

This happened to me. The next day I bought 'Durex tingle' and it worked. Use some lube man, don't be a pussy to buy it.

his girlfriend is probably a ten year old lying about her age.

Then JAM it to break her hymen. Make sure you only do this once.

Correct me if I'm wrong.


You're right if you want some serious lulz during sex, but wrong otherwise.

My first time, one of the girls (it was a threesome, and no, I'm not bullshitting) was so small I just couldn't get it in, period. We tried for hours, her screaming but saying "look, this has got to happen eventually, just DO IT," and me pushing as hard as I possibly could with no results.

Don't worry, some are just too small. Take it as a compliment to your manhood.