alright this problem is probably one to be answered by a pyschologist or whatnot but ive been having a hell of a time getting my girl to orgasm.

the girls i was with before her had no problem getting off, but for the last year and a half with this one, things have been really rough. now before someone tries to send me the link to the oral sex guide thread or w/e, i know what im doing. or at least i think i do. i mean the biggest problem we have i can see in two respects.

first, she wont masturbate on her own, some girls dont want to do it...shes one of them. im thinking that has a large relationship to our problem.

second, whenever ive gone down on her she'll only let me for do so for 5 minutes or so, which has never been enough time do get anything done. and jesus i mean ive made such an effort to try everything i can and check my ass to make sure im not hurting her or anything, shes not much help when we talk about it because she tells me it just starts to feel too good and she wants me to stop.

also, its not a problem of how excited she is. the majority of the time i wont touch her till shes soaked however, at this point im not really sure where to go.

and im her first anything sexually really so theres no reference to what has worked for her. shes really never got off ever before. and my technique has been not to go for the gold immediately orally, but to build up to it. stay away from the clit for a least a few minutes or so. follow the ABC's rule/ ice cream. wait till shes really into before i use fingers/go for the clit. and she hasnt complained about it all, she just always stops me saying shes on overload.

any thoughts on this? it could be me, but im thinking its a larger problem.

second, whenever ive gone down on her she'll only let me for do so for 5 minutes or so, which has never been enough time do get anything done.

I'm thinking this is where most of your advice will be directed.

It sounds like she's really nervous. There's a significant portion (by this i mean it at least registers as a percentage) of women that are too afraid that they'll fart/piss themselves if they orgasm to actually cum with someone else.

Try this. Tie her down, and when she asks you to stop eating her out, don't.

Also, I've been witha girl that'd never cum with anyone else regardless of what they've done.

My ex has a tremendous mental block around this too. As in she refuses to let anyone bring her to orgasm. Masturbation will do it for her, but she can't let anyone else do it. Some girls are just to nervous / effed in the head to let themselves.

So don't worry about it.

Are you still with her? Maybe you should make her please herself in front of you. She won't want to do it at first, but say that it would be very beneficial to you and her so that you can know how she "ticks." I wouldn't be able to do this, but its the only solution I have.

It's not the girls, it's society that makes people think they are "weird" or "different" because sex feels good.

I would tell her to start masturbating on her own, just run a bath for her, go out and get some nice bath salts and shit, run a bath, put some music on, and then tell her you are going to the store to pick up something to make for dinner or lunch, whatever.

Make sure you are gone for at least an hour to an hour and a half. If she is unable to climax by herself, what makes you think she is comfortable doing it with you?

She probably feels ashamed, so see if this helps her break through her mental block that sexual pleasure is "bad". This probably wont' happen overnight, do the same routine maybe once or twice a week.

Before you run the bath, maybe turn her on a bit, kiss her a little, rub on her a little bit, lots of physical contact, but nothing that sexual. Then leave to go to the store and let her take a bath, it will work itself out.

I had same problem.

Has she always had this problem? If so, it's probably the result of some sort of psychosexual trauma that she's experienced in the past, and the only solution is to be very patient with her and try to get her to talk about it, gently ask if she's ever been mistreated sexually/physically. 99% of the time that is the case.

If she can't make herself orgasm, you can't either

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she wont masturbate period. according to her that would be like opening pandoras box, and she doesnt want it to become a habit. i dont know, i think thats where most the of the problem is.

the problem as she describes it is she wants to get there, but everytime its near she tells she doesnt know why but it wont happen. we've been really close many times according to her. she had a really normal upbringing, and lives a relatively coushy life, doesnt mean there wasnt something wierd there, though i dont really think thats the case. according to her she hadnt done anything sexually before me besides kissing.

ill talk to her more, im thinking this isnt a problem for the gyno but that may help. thanks for the suggestions/insight.

Why would a gyno help? Your bitch sounds retarded. Refuses to masturbate? I would fucking drop her.

Why would a gyno help? Your bitch sounds retarded. Refuses to masturbate? I would fucking drop her.

Why drop her? Hes getting his rocks off. If his bitch wants to be retarded and think masturbation summons the devil, thats her problem. Just keep fucking her, but stop caring that she can't cum.

Why drop her? Hes getting his rocks off. If his bitch wants to be retarded and think masturbation summons the devil, thats her problem. Just keep fucking her, but stop caring that she can't cum.

True, but how good could the sex really be if the girl is too uncomfortable with her body to touch her own pussy?

it's her own mental blockade. if she can't sit down and get herself off, you won't be able to either. for girls it's about letting go and being free. FREE!

or u hve a lil weenie fag8

you edo have alittle weenie. lmao.

Honestly, it sounds like you are a pussy. If she tells you to stop...dont. What sick twisted bitch would tell you to stop if she is on the path to an orgasm? Seriously, just tell her to STFU and sit there. If she refuses and seriously gets angry that you dont stop, just fuckin use her as a cum-hole. Who cares after that? If she doesnt want to orgasm, fuck it.

yeah you see well theres this little thing called love which stops me from doing that. sure, if i didnt give two shits about her that would be easy but thats not the case.

and i really fucking doubt that me forcing my way into her after shes maxed out is going to get anything accomplished. its not my orgasm after all and i dont stand to gain immediate benefit from her getting off so if shes not comfortable why the fuck would i want to force it?

fuck off.

alright, well had her tell me if anything out of the ordinary happened to her when she was younger and it turns out some kid did quasi-rape her when she was younger.(no intercourse, just fingering/forced oral.) a trip to the psychologist is in order im thinking.

i REALLY want to hurt this kid.

"Don't make me cum! 'Cause then I'll get really hung up on you!" :( :)

Perhaps you shouldn't worry too much about using techniques that elongate the process, so much as just getting straight to the clit. I believe you said you knew what you were doing, so I'd bet you could give an orgasm in under 5 minutes. Just try using your fingers on her clit while you're kissing and all of that.

If she still tries to stop you when she starts building up, you'll just have to convince her to trust you and relax.

Certainly she doesn't want to NEVER have an orgasm. And I'm sure both of you know it's all in her head, so just talk about it and there shouldn't be any reason for her not to let you show her this nice part of the human experience.