See I'm in a relationship an I've never had this problem before. I enjoy sex most people do but I want it like every day. I mean there is very little that I would rather do. It's fun it's free (seeing as I'm poor. and before you say it cause i know the smart ass replies of totse i am not selling my ass for money. it will not solve both problems.) and it strengthens the bond between couples. When we first got together i said that I wanted a relationship not just a fuck thing so we started to hang out more but the sex was the same. Like we'd hang out watch a movie fuck and then finish the movie. It didn't take any more demands on either of us and it was really really nice. Now it's at the point where I'm lucky if I get it once a month. And that's anything. I mean i enjoy doing things like give head and I don't even mind if i get nothing out of it during one session but now it's like we're friends and the more i say you do understand you're making your girlfriend beg to give you head or comments like that the more that i think he is with drawling from me. But when we're out together he's like look at that chick and shit like that. I don't think I'm demanding too much. I'm not hideously ugly so I know it's not my appearance and why date someone your not attracted to (obviously it's not the money) is it so much to ask to have sex or to even let me touch him? Opinions....

That sounds pretty weird... Have you considered the fact he could be cheating on you/gay/asexual/no longer likes you but it waiting for someone better to come along?

Cheating comes to mind, but he might be stressed or have a lot on his plate or some other semi-acceptable excuse.

Best of luck.

Sex tends to drop off in many long term relationships.

Trouble is: you have to have the real relationships with real people & real people tend to be different than they are in fantasy. A lot more work for one. When a person is only acting out stuff in your head they are not near as difficult to deal with.

Scientists have been saying of recent that the 'chemicals' of love have different phases & the 'rosy glow' of 'love' is very influenced by these chems. Maybe they're wearing off with him?

Would...would you like to sit on my lap & tell me all 'bout it? :p j/k in fact bj/k :p

See I thought it might be stress but this is going on for like 4 months. This is not a recent thing and for the first month I didn't say anything. I thought he might be going through a thing cause that time was rather stressful for us so when I asked him about it he said he didn't want to have sex when he was trying to fix things in his life. But we have an open relationship and he keeps asking to bring other girls into the relationship which i don't mind a threesome cause girls are hot but I'm his girl friend he says he loves me. If he wants to fuck another chick that's fine by me just tell me and make sure she's clean and he's protected. I'm not a demanding girl friend i don't make him do anything and if a couple days go by and he doesn't see me he's already like why aren't you coming around. If he didn't want to be together I think he would make up excuses for me not to come around. It's like he's totally devoted to me except he doesn't want to have sex. I'm confused. And he's not bad looking girls are always flirting with him and smiling at him so it's not like if he wanted something else relationship wise he couldn't have it.

I think he wants a new piece. I'm not trying to sound crude or anything but thats what it sounds like to me. Have you told hime how you feel? Does he know about your thoughts on other girls?

Yes he knows. He knows hta tI don't care as long as he tells me but it's like he wants a normal relationship just no sex. And not to be a bitch but I really like sex and don't know if I'd give it up.

If you're in an open relationship, why don't you just go out, and fuck other guys?

Because sex is better when emotions are involved.

This thread is pointless without pics.

He's either: Gay CheatingTake your pick.

Because sex is better when emotions are involved.

Then why is it an open relationship? So he can go fuck around while you wait?

Stupid idea.

Like we'd hang out watch a movie fuck and then finish the movie.

That's exactly how relationships should be. Why does shit always seem to complicate them?

As for your boyfriend...I dunno I'd be pretty pissed off. It's quite insulting when it comes down to it.

Sounds like he got bored with you, and bored with the sex. If he is making comments like that to you in public, maybe it is time to find a new boyfriend?

See I thought it might be stress but this is going on for like 4 months. This is not a recent thing and for the first month I didn't say anything. I thought he might be going through a thing cause that time was rather stressful for us so when I asked him about it he said he didn't want to have sex when he was trying to fix things in his life. But we have an open relationship and he keeps asking to bring other girls into the relationship which i don't mind a threesome cause girls are hot but I'm his girl friend he says he loves me. If he wants to fuck another chick that's fine by me just tell me and make sure she's clean and he's protected. I'm not a demanding girl friend i don't make him do anything and if a couple days go by and he doesn't see me he's already like why aren't you coming around. If he didn't want to be together I think he would make up excuses for me not to come around. It's like he's totally devoted to me except he doesn't want to have sex. I'm confused. And he's not bad looking girls are always flirting with him and smiling at him so it's not like if he wanted something else relationship wise he couldn't have it.

Wow, after reading this it seems you are completely clueless. Open relationship? If he could have it? Why the fuck would he want to leave? You're his fucking doormat and he gets to fuck other girls.

I mean god damn, if I had a girl who let me shit on her all the time and kick her around, fuck, why the fuck would I want to ruin that!?!?

Yes he knows. He knows hta tI don't care as long as he tells me but it's like he wants a normal relationship just no sex. And not to be a bitch but I really like sex and don't know if I'd give it up.

Sounds like you need to unstupidify yourself.

Does your relationship include your being domestic? Do you cook & clean for him? Have you become just his maid?

A man needs a maid.

I've been in that situation before. But I didn't let him fuck other girls. That's just stupid; it's not going to solve your problem.

That's ^^^ right. Is your cooking/cleaning up to snuff?

When is the last time you did his laundry? If you're not meeting his standards? Then it's no wonder he is unhappy & won't let you suck out his precious seed. :)

are you talking to me or the op?

are you talking to me or the op?

Mostly her...but...does the shoe fit? :p

'Chores' can be quite important to the couples. It's a nasty 'secret'...but you know how most girls aren't rich? That all those pretty girls you see at the mall will end up having to do their own darn drudge work. They won't have 'help' to do it for them.

It's sick but it's true.

Mostly her...but...does the shoe fit? :p

'Chores' can be quite important to the couples. It's a nasty 'secret'...but you know how most girls aren't rich? That all those pretty girls you see at the mall will end up having to do their own darn drudge work. They won't have 'help' to do it for them.

It's sick but it's true.

oh. well, not really, which is why i was confused. i thought the arrows were pointing at my post.

anyways, he does his own laundry, refuses to eat my cooking, and he lives in a dorm that both he and his roommate refuse to clean. so yea.

Yes, one of my friends admitted that he wouldnt do anything with a girl unless he was in a relationship with her or felt comfortable with her, now we all can him gay.

for good reason 2 what a pussy.

Now it's at the point where I'm lucky if I get it once a month. And that's anything. I mean i enjoy doing things like give head and I don't even mind if i get nothing out of it during one session but now it's like we're friends and the more i say you do understand you're making your girlfriend beg to give you head or comments like that the more that i think he is with drawling from me.... is it so much to ask to have sex or to even let me touch him? Opinions....

On the one hand, there are thousands of things that could explain this...

...on the other hand, all of them involve his not being interested in plain-vanilla heterosexual sex. I mean, if he was cheating, the whole point would be dipping the wick into multiple wells... soo... does he adore children? Studying to become a mortician? Spend all his time at the gym "working on his physique with the guys?" Watches all the wildlife shows on the discovery channel with great interest?

If the answer is no, maybe he just needs a little D/s action, or a little light spanking or some knotwork... or, maybe he'd rather you shove your fist up his ass than suck on his dick. Then again? Maybe he's just better at hiding it. Who knows.

Either way, good luck, and your boyfriend of unknown-queer status may just end up being the best girlfriend you ever had, after he runs away with your little sister/the poolboy/your pet dog/whatever. Seriously, crap like this is what good friendships are forged upon. Honest...

for good reason 2 what a pussy.

Nah, it's not good reason to.

He should be left to become comfortable with having sex at his own pace.

Better to be comfortable and ready, than to do something which might totally fuck up his confidence and perception of sex for the future.

for good reason 2 what a pussy.

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are you talking to me or the op?

Lol, isn't it obvious who he's talking to?

oh. well, not really, which is why i was confused. i thought the arrows were pointing at my post.

anyways, he does his own laundry, refuses to eat my cooking, and he lives in a dorm that both he and his roommate refuse to clean. so yea.

So you've upped your standards? I'm proud of you!

How good was the sex you did have before he started being like this?

tits or gtfo

Post pics of yourself. Then we can answer properly.

When lonely nights come, the always faithful hand will be there waiting

Well...dump him and find another guy.

It's as easy as that

A man needs a maid he can fuck a lot.

I'm having a very similiar problem with my boyfriend right now. I asked him about it and he told me that it had nothing to do with me. Now normally I would take that as code for "you're fat and I'm no longer attracted to you," but he's gained like 30 pounds in the last six months, and he was raised very religious and is currently experiencing alot of doubts about his faith and going through a bit of a Holden Caulfield stage, so I believe him for the most part. Like you, I'm not ugly nor am I fat, and I try very hard to please him. But no matter how logically he can explain it I still feel hurt and blame myself.

Now usually I would never recommend playing games with someone you care about, but maybe you should stop bothering him about it, don't express any sexual desire towards him, but casually mention hot guys and maybe flirt a little bit. You know how when you bring a kid to a store and they don't want to leave you just walk away and say "bye, I'm going now"?. Well it's kind of like that, ignore him sexually and he'll start to wonder what he's doing wrong.