I'd always been a bit afraid of this, something always seemed a little wierd, but how can you really tell, by yourself?

I lost my virginity during the summer, and all in all.. it sucked. It had the potential to be great, but I've been feeling lousy ever since.

I really care for the guy, to the point that I'd do anything to make is life better (even if that meant my not being in it, as painful as that would be for me) so I have no regrets there. Really, it wasnt an issue on his part either, as he seemed to be at least of average girth, if not bigger.

However, the words that came out of his mouth about 3 seconds after my first penetration were.. "you're loose" and then, "who else you been fucking?", he just couldnt believe I'd be like that for my first time. I have used toys before, but nothing big and maybe.. 7 times in a whole year.

Not really something you wanna hear your first time, its alot like "is it in yet?" Which he actually did ask later.. "is it still in?"

Anyways, we tried again, and he wasnt sure.. I could feel it, and juding from fingers I shouldnt be like a cup of water around him. He said that it may have been an issue with the condoms, because he just couldnt feel it, the condom kept slipping (not coming off, just unrolling so there would be a huge overhang at the tip) We were using regular trojan's, lubed.

Anyone else had issues like this? any advice? this bothers me a ton, I feel like I'll never be able to satisfy a man this way, like they'll all think I'm a slut who's fucked a hundred men...

And while I do enjoy it, I dont really want to be confined to anal sex, either.

His cock could be small. And, some girls just do have wider-set vags (for lack of a better description).

You'll be more thankful when the time to have a baby comes around.

Tell him to grow a bigger dick.

Well, If I was a female, I would take great offence to such comments. Maybe it was just his attempt at convincing you to let him take the condom off?

Sounds like something a bad friend would tell someone to say.

Sounds like he was having some problems himself, he knew it and was trying to blame it on you IMO.

- ♫.i.b.y.v.n.t.h.♫

You should have blueballed him, seriously, who says that kinda thing, he must have had a microdick or something.

First off, girl, HE'S A JERK and you sure as hell shouldn't be sleeping with him.

Second, go see Uncle Gyno. Some women are born unnaturally 'loose'. Its 5AM so don't ask me for the correct medical term but its fairly easy cured with a minor OP. But somehow I doubt you're really loose.

Maybe he is just a wannabe sadist and got off on hurting you?

You uncle raped you when you were 8 but you don't remember it.

I was thinking about that, but I really do want to have kids some day, and I'd rather deliver the regular way than a c section. I'm not sure how that would affect it...

I really dont think the problem was with him, not physically anyways. Like I said, I wondered if it might be that the condoms were cutting the sensation off for him. A friend of mine complained about that, and though he never said that it made him feel like his girl was loose, he did go soft at least once using those condoms.

He did ask if he could choke me during sex, but reassured me that if I didnt want him to, just to say so or touch his hands. But, I dont think he's one for enjoying emotional abuse. I think..

I guess thats the problem, I doubt myself before others, generally, and I dont want to blame him..

Passing off one's lack of pen0r size as another's 'vaginal looseness' is really bad form. Dump him.

the first time i had sex. it sucked too, i mean i fingered her and everything for a while before the sex, but it did feel pretty loose going in. i was wearing a ultra thin condom, i barely had any feel, and my dick kept going limp. i guess its awkward the first time, i couldnt really feel it, but i was semi aroused and did the best i could, she said i was pretty good at humping... but it was w/e for me.

and yeh, he is a dick, wtf is that kind of comment?

Regular sex will make the vagina increase/decrease in size to fit the penis.

But don't quote me on that, I read it on totse.

I hear trojans suck ass.
Switch to Durex ultra thins.
Or whatever, i dont give a shit, fuck totse, im in a bad mood now, I wanked and wveryone is getting laid and my girl is on her FUCKING PERIOAD

just out of curiousity how big is his dick in inches? cause i'm about average and i've never had a condom that wouldn't stay on. he asked if he could choke you even though he knew it was your first time? i couldn't imagine saying any of thows things to a girl. i'd be afraid of getting slapped and not getting laid. sounds like an asshole to me. you come up to minnesota... i'll treat you right ;)

I'd have to come down, I'm canadian ;P

And to the guy who said his girlfriend is on her period... the guy actually lives in chicago, and we've had an e-lationship for about 2 years now, off and on (we fight alot)

I'm not sure how big it was around in inches, I could close my fingers around it, but only just touch the tip of my thumb.. then again I also have small hands.

Just seems so odd that -that- size would be small, makes me nearly afraid to see other guys, I had a hard enough time choking on that one when I gave him head, heh.

I've no idea how you'd find out if you were loose or not without going to a gyno or asking someone. It'd be interesting to know because I've always been paranoid. (I like to keep things 'new' and don't much like the idea of THAT changing)

Either way, the guys an asshole. Why the hell would you say that to someone on their first time? He's obviously made you a bit paranoid, and like others have said, it does sound a bit like he was taking problems out on you. Was he angry at you before?

Doubt it chicka, sounds like your boyfriend has a sever case of small dick-ism. I reckon you can't even fit three of you fingers in your vag...

This thread is useless without pics, take some measurements and reply.

Just shank him, then tell him he's dumped. Find another guy soon(theres always big dildo's :))

Some girls are wide. True story. That's about the only true story I see in this thread.

this.


but, yeah womens vaginas vary in size just like penises.

Loose him. He's a prick. It's your first time and every penis seems large, it's the only one you had and you're scared and nervous and you're not going to really get all that wet to being with which makes intercourse harder. Second of all a regular sized condom is made for an average penis it's not going to slip off. So I think it was a the fact that he had a tiny tiny dick and the fact that condoms dull sensation. And if you happen to be a bit wider set then average so be it. Everyone is different it's not your fault and you should never be told things like that especially when you're giving him something as precious as your virginity. Ditch the asshole find a real man or a vibrator. Toys are often better to being with.

What an ass.

Rape him with a strap-on and complain that his ass is way too loose.

Ahahahaha! Fuck this is a funny thread.

tit for tat

sounds small. i have pretty big hands and my thumb just touches my fingures and i'm average and maybe just a little on the small side. when he said that shit about you being loose you should have said something about him having a baby dick... i know that would piss me off... fuck that prick i sure hope he came to you cause if you went all the way to chicago you would have been better off stopping 10 hours sooner in minnesota and actually been satisfied. ah fuck i need to get laid its been awhile :(

lol....this ftw

It was probably just due to the fact that you were really wet and he's inexperienced.

I wouldn't worry about it.

Thanks for the replies, I do feel a bit better, though I still believe that the problem was more physically with myself. I seem to be tight to one finger from "top" to "bottom" but it takes two fingers for side to side.

Would this be a problem for most guys?

And yes, he did come up here to see me. I paid for some of it, but he went through the travel time (including getting stuck in winnipeg overnight with no cash on had for food)

i would kill my self if 1X2 fingers felt loose to me.

Thanks for the replies, I do feel a bit better, though I still believe that the problem was more physically with myself. I seem to be tight to one finger from "top" to "bottom" but it takes two fingers for side to side.


Those being girl fingers [unless you're like six eight], your boyfriend has a very small wiener. Who was that king that kept killing his wives because they couldn't get pregnant? Turns out he was shooting blanks...

And he's a disrespectful jag stain. What kinda guy picks on you after you let him stick his tiny rod inside you?

Baby, if you let me stick my dick in you, flesh would rip and you'd cry, you got lucky your first time. Some day your going to have a real man and he'll split that cooter like lumber...

This.

I would worry about it - his behaviour was highly inappropriate.

And you should stop blaming yourself. NOW!
It was entirely his fault, whether you want to believe it or not.

Wide vag long poon meat curtains!!!!