She got totally shitfaced and instead of coming home to our place she went home with some other guy.

Here's what I typed up for the cops but I'm not sure I'll turn it in to them. The "names" are redacted.

From “temp user name”

To City Police Department

Friday August 17, 2007

6:00 p.m.

Subject: report of (probable) rape

My girlfriend, “g/f name”, may have been raped and was at least molested by “rapist’s name” of ###blank Street, City.

I saw her in the THE BAR at about 10:30 p.m. Thursday – she said she would finish the drink she had go to CVS and come home. I came home to wait for her. I fell asleep in my chair. I awoke at 2:30 a.m. I called the bar – the bartender denied knowing who I was talking about. I went to the bar – the bartender then acknowledged that she knew who I was asking about but said that “g/f name” had left much earlier. I specifically asked who she had left with – the bartender denied knowing.

I went to CVS and asked – they had not seen her. I headed for the other CVS and on the way I saw “bouncer dude” who had been in the bar earlier. I stopped and asked him if he knew where my girlfriend was. He said he didn’t know but asked for a ride back to THE BAR – I obliged. I went back into the bar with him and was asking some of the patrons if they knew – “bouncer dude” then told me that he saw her leave with “the rapist”, the cook who works there.

When I arrived at the blank residence someone was asleep or passed out on the front porch, right in front of the door. I asked him to move aside so that I could knock on the door – he informed me that I might get shot, quote “My dad has a gun.” unquote. I thought I heard my girlfriend’s voice and I stated loudly that I wanted to speak with her. The man on the porch stated, “If the cops show up and I get arrested, I’ll kill you.” After a few minutes “g/f name” showed up, barely able to walk, wearing someone else’s shirt and without a brassiere.

At first I thought perhaps she had been slipped a date rape drug but it seems more likely that it was a matter of being over-served way too much alcohol.Why did the bartender deny knowing who “g/f name” left with? The part time security person, “bouncer dude”, knew that it was the cook – what was the bartender hiding?

It seems unlikely that any charges could successfully be filed in this case but if possible I would like your department to request the security film from the bar to see if “rapist” did slip something into her drink.

End of report

So now I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. If she won't report this as rape I have to look it at it as willful cheating - on the other hand the son-of-a-bitch seems to be armed and stupid.

I CANNOT kick her to the curb - she has no where to go at all. I've tried and tried to get her to stop drinking - in fact that's why she was out last night - I refused to make a beer run.

Flame away if you must but I had to talk about it somewhere.

And totse would care...why?

Rape is hilarious.

I didn't ask &TOTSE to care. I just needed to vent.

I didn't ask &TOTSE to care. I just needed to vent.

Meh. I'm bored. Whatever.

Hope everything works out.

Doesn't sound like rape to me. She got wasted, went home with another guy, and doesnt want you to think she's cheating.

Yes, you absolutely most certainly -can- kick her to the curb.

You should have gone to the bar with her, or better yet, just not drink. :)

Ya think? Then bend over and have some laughs.

no offense, but i think your an idiot. Why do you care about kicking her out if she obviously doesn't care too much about you? Hanging out in a shady bar is not a good sign in the first place, fucking the cook, who gives you a death threat, is a worse sign.

I really fucking hope your a troll (although i doubt it), but for your sake, it hope this is trolling.

You CAN kick her out, and if you don't, you will just be the victim of worse. You can obviously do better than an alcoholic woman who can't get her shit straight. I've lived with multiple alcoholics in my lifetime, and let me tell you, they will never recover unless they really want to. Nothing you do will help unless they really want to help themselves.

Most never improve and simply need to be discarded, as hard as that sounds, its often the best path.

I hope things improve.

This is why I have no interest in women who drink in public, because they get themselves in these situations A LOT.

(no I'm not saying that drunk women deserve to be raped or they're asking for it)

Riiight.

Your girlfriend got drunk, from choice.
Went home with another man, from choice.
Probably had sex with him, from choice.

And then in the morning she realised if she pissed you off she would indeed have nowhere to go.

What a pathetic, sad fucking SKANK.



Now I'd sympathise if she'd been dragged into a car or alleyway on her way home to you, but the point is that she chose to go with the guy, and if she is so incapable of looking after herself when drunk she shouldnt have been out and that defenceless in the first place.


Leaaave..

Holy shit, I still scroll to the bottom of long posts to check for Bel-Air.

Nope, I really did type up that report and take down to the police station - then I thought better of it and came back home....

Regardless of what happened and why, it's blatantly obvious that you need to get the fuck out of that relationship. Don't let "she has nowhere to go" be the reason either otherwise you're going to be using that excuse indefinitely as it looks like she has no will to change that fact. It will destroy you.

Just go to his house and bash the shit out of him...

Not sounding 'Hard Core' or anything, but if you're going to absolutely bash someone up in the course of your life, this guy deserves it.

Based on what? The fact that his kid is a arrogant brat like every other damn teenager in this country? The fact that he went home with a girl and -gasp- had sexual relations outside of marriage?

Ahaha, you're a pushover, she knows it, and is using you.

Boozehounds and junkies might have been born at night, but not last night.

Doesn't even sound like you put forth the effort to find out what happened to her, you just picked her up.

Eject that disease factory from your life.

Dont be a fool, you simply caught her cheating and she spun it to look like rape. She almost got you shot and killed, then she played on your intelligence. she obviously had no respect for you.

sounds like your gf is insecure. tell her she'll be on the streets if she cheats on you again, drunk or not, you shouldnt put up with this shit anyways.

dude, you "girlfriend" is a slut.period.
besides the fact that she went to this guys house, and didn't give you an explanation for it. ( at least you didn't tell us if she did, if she did im sure we'd love to hear it.)
'but WTF, she just goes home with this guy and you write a report to the cops about how she was raped, WTF.

Yup. I agree buddy.

Anyway, the DA's office CAN'T prosecute the offender unless SHE brings up the rape charge. So submitting that report is useless, unless you can get her to report her rape.

Also, the perpetrator's defense attorney will rip your girl friend to shreds, if this ever goes to trial. She didn't report the rape immediately, and there was no rape kit done. 98% that the guy gets off on reasonable doubt.

The police department would be unable to get the security tapes, if they really had something to hide. Bar tapes are privileged in most states, so the bar owners wouldn't HAVE to give it to the local PD. And with only your testimony as evidence of a rape, no judge would grant a warrant for the videos.

Pretty much... you're screwed. Don't even bother submitting that. My cousin is a DA, I have a good feel of how things work in the Criminal Justice System.

She got totally shitfaced and instead of coming home to our place she went home with some other guy....I have to look it at it as willful cheating...in fact that's why she was out last night - I refused to make a beer run.

Alright. Now that the irrelevant shit has been removed...

Trolling your g/f for lawlz

Disclaimer : if you have any sense of ethics at all, you will kick this bitch to the curb and let her ho her ass on the street for rent rather than hopping with the first guy she can find to get back at you for not buying her beer. Not only is it the right thing to do, and a positive growth experience in her life - it's far more humane than the following.

Stage 1 :

Be the perfect boyfriend. The top-grade stuff of poorly-written romance novels... kind, loving.. supportive, there to "help" her deal with the "trauma" of her "rape." You definately want to be #1 perfect guy in the world.

Stage 2 :

Poke a hole in the condom.

Stage 3 :

Be overjoyed to hear the news. You're happy! She's having a baby - your baby! 'n you're going to do this together, you're going to be there for her, this is going to bring you closer together - you're the happiest person on the face of the planet because of this news. Marriage is a bonus at the early stage.

Starting at about 3-5 months, start beating her. Randomness is key here - one minute you're happy, friendly, jovial even, then before she even knows anything is has happened she's lying on the ground from your backhand being kicked while you're shouting something along the lines of "You BITCH! It's his, isn't it! You stupid! Fucking! Whore!" Remember, humans believe anything they are told while in a state of fear and pain. Again, randomness is key - try to get at least three kicks in before she even figures out that you're not on top of the world.

Right before she acclimates to the notion that she's being beaten and there's no way to escape - and I mean, right before... switch. Comfort her. Babble "I'm sorry, I'm sorry" like your mind's gone. Tend to her injuries - you love her, you'd do anything to take care of her, you're there for her, and the only thing you care about in the world is that she's okay. While babbling sweet nothings and taking care of her like the best mother in the world whose kid just fell off their bike, try to just babble something about how "its just that every time I look at you I see his hands all over you and I just love you too much" before changing the topic. This pathetic equivocation is seriously fucking disgusting and hurtful even when you're not deliberately exploiting it, albeit common - but fuck it, dude, she hoed around to get back at you because you didn't buy her beer; how petty can you get?

Stage 4 :

Presuming she hasn't left you, taking her free parting gift of a lifetime's supply of baggage... straighten up your act around months 7-9.

Stage 5 :

When your child is born, do not let her hold it. Instead, take it from her, ignore her completely, and gaze lovingly into its eyes while babbling "it's okay... it's not your fault... not your fault... it's okay, baby... you're beautiful... it's not your fault" like your mind fucking snapped.

Stage 6 :

Dote on the child totally and absolutely, spending every waking minute with him/her. S/he is your best friend, your only family, the center of your entire fucking universe.

Never, ever speak to your girlfriend again. Ever. Not even to ask the bitch to cook you dinner. Not one word for the rest of your life. She doesn't even fucking exist. Don't even look at her. Once. The kid, however, is your whole world.

...this is why perfectly normal older women commit suicide, while feeling that not even death is enough to end their pain.

Guilt............BITCH WAS NOT RAPED...... Just for the hell of it RAPE HER :D yes Yes yes do it do it do it fucking do it yesssssssssssssssssss he who speak the tongue of the serpent commands it rape herrrr

You guys smell that?

Bullshit


Nevar trust new arr1vals

Alright. Now that the irrelevant shit has been removed...

Trolling your g/f for lawlz

Disclaimer : if you have any sense of ethics at all, you will kick this bitch to the curb and let her ho her ass on the street for rent rather than hopping with the first guy she can find to get back at you for not buying her beer. Not only is it the right thing to do, and a positive growth experience in her life - it's far more humane than the following.

Stage 1 :

Be the perfect boyfriend. The top-grade stuff of poorly-written romance novels... kind, loving.. supportive, there to "help" her deal with the "trauma" of her "rape." You definately want to be #1 perfect guy in the world.

Stage 2 :

Poke a hole in the condom.

Stage 3 :

Be overjoyed to hear the news. You're happy! She's having a baby - your baby! 'n you're going to do this together, you're going to be there for her, this is going to bring you closer together - you're the happiest person on the face of the planet because of this news. Marriage is a bonus at the early stage.

Starting at about 3-5 months, start beating her. Randomness is key here - one minute you're happy, friendly, jovial even, then before she even knows anything is has happened she's lying on the ground from your backhand being kicked while you're shouting something along the lines of "You BITCH! It's his, isn't it! You stupid! Fucking! Whore!" Remember, humans believe anything they are told while in a state of fear and pain. Again, randomness is key - try to get at least three kicks in before she even figures out that you're not on top of the world.

Right before she acclimates to the notion that she's being beaten and there's no way to escape - and I mean, right before... switch. Comfort her. Babble "I'm sorry, I'm sorry" like your mind's gone. Tend to her injuries - you love her, you'd do anything to take care of her, you're there for her, and the only thing you care about in the world is that she's okay. While babbling sweet nothings and taking care of her like the best mother in the world whose kid just fell off their bike, try to just babble something about how "its just that every time I look at you I see his hands all over you and I just love you too much" before changing the topic. This pathetic equivocation is seriously fucking disgusting and hurtful even when you're not deliberately exploiting it, albeit common - but fuck it, dude, she hoed around to get back at you because you didn't buy her beer; how petty can you get?

Stage 4 :

Presuming she hasn't left you, taking her free parting gift of a lifetime's supply of baggage... straighten up your act around months 7-9.

Stage 5 :

When your child is born, do not let her hold it. Instead, take it from her, ignore her completely, and gaze lovingly into its eyes while babbling "it's okay... it's not your fault... not your fault... it's okay, baby... you're beautiful... it's not your fault" like your mind fucking snapped.

Stage 6 :

Dote on the child totally and absolutely, spending every waking minute with him/her. S/he is your best friend, your only family, the center of your entire fucking universe.

Never, ever speak to your girlfriend again. Ever. Not even to ask the bitch to cook you dinner. Not one word for the rest of your life. She doesn't even fucking exist. Don't even look at her. Once. The kid, however, is your whole world.

...this is why perfectly normal older women commit suicide, while feeling that not even death is enough to end their pain.

I'm begging for the opportunity to kill this guy.

I'm begging for the opportunity to kill this guy.

BEGGAR

lol i raped her 4 da lulz

She probably didnt get raped, she probably had sex with those guys mutually.You cant satisfy her dude

There's only one thing to do. Think of whatever you want to say to her, just just calmly say them. No matter how much she starts to yell, or cry, just say it softly. This forces her to listen.

Make it some vicious stuff that would make her feel like shit. Fuck with her head. Being that she's an alchie this shouldn't be too hard.

Remember, mental abuse is the best abuse.

...ilikedots.....

Dude, just kick her out!!

seriously

kick her out


and if i was you, i would have kicked that other guys ass. Rape or not, he did threaten to kill you.

and if i was you, i would have kicked that other guys ass. Rape or not, he did threaten to kill you.

Words are very different to actions, unfortunately.

If he goes back there now and attacks the guy with no real provocation, (no fucking his bitch isnt good enough in the eyes of the law) he will be in the shit, not the 'rapist'.
And it would suck if he got into trouble for the infected skank.


Now if you can get the guy to come to you and hit you first, or atleast try to, you can do what you like till he's down on the ground and simply squeel self defense.

I wish I was an optimistic, but I'm not. From the story you told, I have deduced drunken stupidity (cheating) on the fault of your girlfriend.

I'll tell you one thing though, it's never a good idea to jump a conclusion and run with it. Deduce the facts and separate them from fiction.

Well, Sherlock, I wish you the best of luck. I hope your heart is not crushed in this process.

I CANNOT kick her to the curb - she has no where to go at all. I've tried and tried to get her to stop drinking - in fact that's why she was out last night - I refused to make a beer run.

Well, obviously she slept with the disease infested cook from the bar because he actually has a pair of balls. If you have to try to tell anyone, girlfriend especially, something over and over again, it isn't even worth it to deal with them. If you have had to say the same thing several times, you are obviously not being listened to. Basically, she doesn't respect you. Take a step outside and look at yourself. You are living a life where your girlfriend doesn't even respect you.

I do not blame her. You are not doing anything to demand it. You are chasing after her. I'm sorry, but I used to be a bartender and the cook is the dirtiest mother fucker in the bar a girl can sleep with. She is obviously trying to tell you something. But you refuse to get what she is trying to tell you. You are a pussy, she is a fucked up bitch, and she needs to do extreme things (the dirtiest mother fucker in the bar for instance) to push you away before she really hurts you.

My advice: severe all ties with the bitch and start over. Next time try to meet a girl in a nice place and not some filthy dive bar. Yeah they may be drunk and may be somewhat hot and you may have a chance to drill them for a couple of hours, but that doesn't make them girlfriend material. Some girls are whores, and thats all it is to it. You don't make the druken whore who let you plug her butt into a girlfriend.

*rolls up newspaper and hits OP on the nose*

No!!

You can belive me or not, but most of the people in this thread pretty much have the right answer for you - leave the slut.

Women can be pure evil.

No matter how drunk you are, you still know the important rights from wronges.

You never hear of drunk people walking out of windows, do you?

She didn't get raped.

Kick her to the curb.

Alright. Now that the irrelevant shit has been removed...

Trolling your g/f for lawlz

Disclaimer : if you have any sense of ethics at all, you will kick this bitch to the curb and let her ho her ass on the street for rent rather than hopping with the first guy she can find to get back at you for not buying her beer. Not only is it the right thing to do, and a positive growth experience in her life - it's far more humane than the following.

Stage 1 :

Be the perfect boyfriend. The top-grade stuff of poorly-written romance novels... kind, loving.. supportive, there to "help" her deal with the "trauma" of her "rape." You definately want to be #1 perfect guy in the world.

Stage 2 :

Poke a hole in the condom.

Stage 3 :

Be overjoyed to hear the news. You're happy! She's having a baby - your baby! 'n you're going to do this together, you're going to be there for her, this is going to bring you closer together - you're the happiest person on the face of the planet because of this news. Marriage is a bonus at the early stage.

Starting at about 3-5 months, start beating her. Randomness is key here - one minute you're happy, friendly, jovial even, then before she even knows anything is has happened she's lying on the ground from your backhand being kicked while you're shouting something along the lines of "You BITCH! It's his, isn't it! You stupid! Fucking! Whore!" Remember, humans believe anything they are told while in a state of fear and pain. Again, randomness is key - try to get at least three kicks in before she even figures out that you're not on top of the world.

Right before she acclimates to the notion that she's being beaten and there's no way to escape - and I mean, right before... switch. Comfort her. Babble "I'm sorry, I'm sorry" like your mind's gone. Tend to her injuries - you love her, you'd do anything to take care of her, you're there for her, and the only thing you care about in the world is that she's okay. While babbling sweet nothings and taking care of her like the best mother in the world whose kid just fell off their bike, try to just babble something about how "its just that every time I look at you I see his hands all over you and I just love you too much" before changing the topic. This pathetic equivocation is seriously fucking disgusting and hurtful even when you're not deliberately exploiting it, albeit common - but fuck it, dude, she hoed around to get back at you because you didn't buy her beer; how petty can you get?

Stage 4 :

Presuming she hasn't left you, taking her free parting gift of a lifetime's supply of baggage... straighten up your act around months 7-9.

Stage 5 :

When your child is born, do not let her hold it. Instead, take it from her, ignore her completely, and gaze lovingly into its eyes while babbling "it's okay... it's not your fault... not your fault... it's okay, baby... you're beautiful... it's not your fault" like your mind fucking snapped.

Stage 6 :

Dote on the child totally and absolutely, spending every waking minute with him/her. S/he is your best friend, your only family, the center of your entire fucking universe.

Never, ever speak to your girlfriend again. Ever. Not even to ask the bitch to cook you dinner. Not one word for the rest of your life. She doesn't even fucking exist. Don't even look at her. Once. The kid, however, is your whole world.

...this is why perfectly normal older women commit suicide, while feeling that not even death is enough to end their pain.

Stage 7 :

???

Stage 8 :

Profit.

how do u know she may have been raped and may have been molested. What did ur girlfriend actually say? etc... and btw think whatever u want but if a passed out guy lying on a porch said he was going to kill me, i wouldnt be taking it seriously.

Stage 7 :

???

Stage 8 :

Profit.

fixed

girls getting drunk and drunk men having sex with them isnt rape. Girls always get victimised. Although in this case it does seem like rape. I would get rid of her though, she sounds like shes dragging you down...

You never hear of drunk people walking out of windows, do you?

This pretty much sums up using alcohol as an excuse for cheating.

tell the cops get that fucker off the street.

I'm begging for the opportunity to kill this guy.

I'm in line right behind you.