If you had unprotected sex with someone, several times, then you went and got tested, for the first time (after several previous unprotected partners), and you found out you had an STD, would you say anything to the most recent sexual partner? Would you expect them to say anything to you if the roles were reversed?

One more:

If you knew you were clean before this partner, and had reason to believe they were infected, would you get a test? And if so, and it came up positive for anything, would you bring it up with them, no matter how amiable or mutually embarassing the breakup?

I'm not talking HIV or Syphilis, here, I chiefly mean a curable, nuicance-type disease, though the concept of a person being infected with HIV and then being too embarassed to mention it to the other person is interesting, if only from a behavioral psychologist's point of view...

Thoughts?

I would tell them, if only for the reason that I can't think up any point in not telling them.

4 starters i wouldnt have unprotected sex!

i would tell the person im with if i had an STD so we could both get treated.....

if i was clean and got something off my partner id be pissed that they didnt tell me b4 we had sex and id dump them because there goes your trust and honesty.......but if they didnt know then spose that'd be ok just as long as we both got treated

hrmmmm hope that makes sense im so tired haha

if a bitch gave me a disease the pimp hand would come down with ground shaking force, i get tested after 2-3 partners, unprotected or not. i would be so pissed. and if it wasnt curable i would kill them cuz if i got to die they gonna die too, a painful death.

but thats just me, i know it sounds bad but u know thats just somethin u shouldnt fuck around wit

WTF? Is there any reason at all you shouldn't?

If you are Having unprotected sex, you get what you deserve, I would complain to my partner and maybe teach'em a lesson for being an asshole and giving me an STD in the first place.

"I took an Aids test...passed...got a 65"

Reasons you wouldn't (not shouldn't):

1. You're not together, in fact there is mutual bitterness, anger, or maybe hatred which makes it easy to say "fuck them."

2. If you tell them, they'll blame you immediately, whereas if you don't, they might think they got it from someone else.

3. If you had the test after you'd already "broken up" with them, maybe even months later, with intermediate partners (protected, but you can never be 100% sure about that stuff), why would you WANT to tell them? What's to gain, besides grief?

And don't act like having unprotected sex is soooooo dumb. It happens. Girl on the pill, guy know's he's clean (and trusts her). Sometimes, your brain loses out to your groin. And you usually end up regretting it.

In case you were wondering, my case isn't exactly like this. The main question is, if you thought someone had infected you, and you had a means to get in touch with them, would you?

Add:

And would they be truthful if you accused them of infecting you? In the real world, people tend to deny, lie, and obfuscate, not fess up and ask for forgiveness.

Of course they would not be truthful about knowingly infecting you, because with todays laws you could probably get away with sueing them.
And there are the few sick people out there who spread the disease around intentionally.

You might actully meet the one person who will fess up to it but it might be a 1 in a million shot.

kinda of a funny story, years ago when i was a kid i started banging the town slut well one day my best friend called and told me he had crabs,well after about 15 min. off laughing my ass off,i got to asking him who he got them from.........he told me i stopped laughing, seems this little trick had given half the town crabs, i dont know if i had them or not as soon as he told me who gave them to him off to the store i went got the shampoo and shaved all my pubes off,from what i understand she had had them for awhile just didnt think it was anybodies business but hers,..... from what i hear she killed herself about 2 years ago....serves her right for giving me crabs

Even if you have a problem with that person you may have gotten the STD from or given it to, there's still the people that person is now boffing who will catch it and pass it around further. You already know perfectly well that it can happen.. do you think those people deserve to catch a disease just because they're screwing someone you don't get along with? You could say they deserve it if they're having unprotected sex, but it's a bit hypocritical at that point.

In the first instance, no one should be bonking without protection - no glove no love. If you do get it on with a casual sex partner and don't use a rubber, you are a fool.

None the less, we are all human and accidents happen, and one could end up with an STD. If you regulalrly have unprotected sex, it is a good idea to get tested regularly - after all, who wants that burning pain as a constant companion

If you find that you are infected, you really should get the word to the suspected carrier, even if you do it via "channels".

The sooner someone is aware of the problem, the easier to cure and the less the potential damage - and in the case of HIV/AIDS, early dtection means that you can extend your life almost indefintely with ART/HAART.

So even if you hate the bitch/bastard, and if some of these things really set in, you will, get the message through - what they do from then onward is their issue.