would the ladies or knowledgable fellas start a list of signs that a girl would accept a kiss, and/or go further? Sounds pathetic I know, but everyone on this board has the same, or some relatd question. Flame me if you must, but the girl/guy understanding will improve if i get some good responses. pinay, Wintermute and other, please help.

If she looks at you like she likes you (no definition available, you will just feel it in you gut) then go for it.

Otherwise you are best off keeping your lips to yourself.

If you've observed a great deal of threads dealing with similar problems on this board, then you should read those threads, because they're likely to have answers for your question.

I'll tell you this- I realize it's hard to deal with this kind of stuff when you don't know what kinds of "signs" to look for. But, if you're busy looking for certain things, you may miss your opportunity because she does something different. Worse, you may see what you're looking for, but it didn't mean anything for her to do it.

Put another way, a girl who wants a kiss and doesn't get it may be insulted; you can make up for it, apologize if necessary. A girl who doesn't want a kiss and gets one may never speak to you again- how will you say you're sorry then?

You'll learn. Pay attention, don't be afraid to do something when it feels right, but by and large take it slow. You have to learn instinctively when to do something and when to do nothing... that takes experience, and it's hard to get experience when you get smacked and/or further ignored by girls who used to have an interest in you.

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Ok I agrre totally with the founder of this post, whatever its about.

Geez forgive me im drunk

Sorry, but I basically agree with Spiffy....since there are really no "Universal Girls", there are really no "universal girl clues". .However, I think one pretty common clue is this (I've said it before in another post): Be talking to your "target" girl about any unrelated (but basically warm, gentle, and peaceful) subject. Then pause, look her in the eyes and say........."You are incredible...". Almost 100% of the time she will look you in the eyes and say."what do you mean?". Keep looking her in the eyes and say "You are so beatiful, and I want to kiss you more than anything else right now". If she keeps looking you in the eyes and says NOTHING, then slowly move to her lips and KISS HER!!! If she turns her eyes away from yours, and says NOTHING, then, a little more slowly move to her lips and KISS HER!!! Only if she SAYS SOMETHING do you need to start evaluating your next move to be sure it's safe. And only if she says the equivalent of "NO" should you pursue it no further AT THAT TIME. But don't consider "NO" a forever rejection. Assume she means "NO NOT RIGHT NOW", and come back later and you'll very likely succeed. Love, Venus.

Its all about body language.
And as a teen I know myself that its hard to see body language. This is a natural psychological thing that happens in your mid teens. You will eventually grow out of it, and when you do, it will be easier to see. like 50% of communication is body language.

Body language you dont relise you understand it or that you are doing it but it is the key to knowing when.
Prometheus you are wrong if a girl looks at a guy it could of be couse the guys butt ugly. Like a car crash you just cant stop watching.

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Originally posted by pretty pinay:
And only if she says the equivalent of "NO" should you pursue it no further AT THAT TIME. But don't consider "NO" a forever rejection. Assume she means "NO NOT RIGHT NOW", and come back later and you'll very likely succeed. Love, Venus.

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Some of them DO mean no, permanently, don't come back. If you're really and truly not sure, try again, but stop if you get it a second time. Beyond that is simple rudeness.

Spiffy: I agree. Twice trying is enough! Love, Venus.

if a girl does a 'hair toss' or starts playing with her hair, then she's interested in someone nearby. if she's just tieing it up it don't usually mean naything.
if she starts fixing/playing with her clothes, like playing with a necklace or fixing her blouse then she's interested in somebody nearby also.
if hse looks at you so that you notice it and it's painfully obvious then she wants you to know shes after you.
if you see this last one then make sure you keep eye contact with her and put on a few mildly gentle pick up lines and see what happens, always works for me.

playing with their hair can be a habit cause i play with my hair when i'm board

there is a certain look a girl will give you when she likes you. trust me all girls do this. the shitty thing is that "the look" is different from girl to girl.and no i dont mean that fake look girls give you. the one where you think they like you but something just doesnt feel right.thats not it. im talkin about the one where youre not sure but are leanin towards yes because you know you have a similar look at the same time. oh yah forgot to mention this only works with girls you like.

don't confuse the poor boy with hard to read badly punctuated stuff with facts mixed with fiction.