internet relationships are the worst thing in the fucking world as far as relationships go, besides anything remotely resembling the thing with the bobbet guy...and...da knife... and the chop and the dick and the eeeew...because the worst mistake i ever made is letting myself become some kind of hopeless computer neandrethal talking to chicks he doesnt know,but theres a girl i talk to that is driving me crazy, and i react very emotionally to stressful situations... anyway i met her like 2 years ago, i was 14 she was 15 and at that point we just talked like it didnt matter and that it wouldnt never go any further...and then we started having sex over the internet pathetic...i know, but she was really nice, but then about 2 months later she got this boyfriend, completely stopped talking to me for 7 months. and i didnt find out why until they broke up...so that was quite gay to begin with, and then after that she gradually starts talkin to me again and talks to me from then till august 2002, and she gets another cocksucking boyfriend and tells me so non chalantly this time- after talking about fucking me for a year...and about how she was gonna fly from florida to cleveland to be with me, which never happenned and never will because she doesnt care about me. but then she breaks up with the guy she got with this august,but she never stopped talking to me with "eric" but then since she broke up with him she started acting just like after she broke up with the first guy, and then last week i had someone send me her profile and it said " :-p now i have one" and she had been writing short emails and never iming me...so i figured out why, and then i got really angry and wrote crazy emails to her and she was all like *pouts* about it...and then i of course had to back down and apologize...but but then, today when she imed me, she whined about how stressed she was because "eric and ugo both begging me to come back" and when i read that i felt pain anger and some other emotion i cant explain or name all at once and just went off and was about to kill myself over some bitch i dont know...pathetic... so basically, i need to know some of your opinionS. Am i wrong for trusting her after that first guy and being her bitch, or am i wrong for thinking of her as some type of griflriend when shes 1000 miles away, or is she wrong? im so fucking confused i just need advice...especially about what to do, please...dont flame me about how gay this entire post is, i know...i know...

Thanx, Love karl

Dude this post ain't gay, I feel your pain. At 14 you were probably horny and shit and wanted to "get freaky". You were vulnerable, and apparently you got hurt. Anyways this is probably the gay way out but if it's causing you so much pain then end contact with that chick. And as for thinking of her as your girlfriend, that is not really realistic and will only add to the pain. Stay friends or something, but don't hang yourself out for some unknown chick. You've already had your fun right? Move on.

No one you've never met in person is anything more than your friend. The most any girl can ever be, no matter how well you two get along, is a potential girlfriend until you see her face to face and see how everything vibes. If you can keep your mind on that one simple guideline, you should be fine.

yes, but i have problems getting a real girlfriend because all through school and shit i used to act like a moron so they didnt like me,then i found out when i was 14 that i had ADD and thats y but thats different story.. and im pretty fat too, im 5'11 and like 210...not great looking either...thats why i resorted to this, and i didnt really think of her as a girlfriend...as ive never seen her and i cant end all contact because i dont want to block her, i know...shes just hurting me by signing on and not IMing me...fuckin...constantly talking about other guys to me even after i admit all that shit to her...she probly doesnt care and it would be the best thing to do to move on...but i cant, im too pre-occupied with her to get an actual girl...so you see, i am torn between what people more experience then me tell me and what i want to do...

A good way to deal with this is to tell her exactly how you feel, bitch her out then block and delete her and push her out.
Thats how you deal with people who fuck with you. No matter what, online or in 'real life' pain is real, sometimes the pain you feel because of someone online will be even more powerful than if you were in the same relationship with that person in real life.
And not just because they are a long distance away.

ive told her exactly how i feel...man she just makes these little...thing things...like *hurt* and says shes crying...i have some kind of soft spot, i cant even call her horrible names and im like fuckin in love with her, and yet she will say shes in love with me but were just friends i hate it...i cant end it but it cant go on...you know...well most likely never meet...but she keeps saying we will and then i just go crazy...

If there's not much emotional attachment then move on and find a new chick to "fuck". Or find 6.

well other chicks dont matter, thats how much this shit has effected me...

Have you even thought or taken into consideration, to get an airline ticket and see her yourself?

SYNTEX

nope. i cant afford it...and plus i dont think she wants to meet me so im just sitting here whining about some bitch ill never know

Fucking hell u stupid fuck call in at a brothel and get $50 worth its more satisfying!

DO NOT INVOLVE THYSELF WITH FLORIDIANS. Ask the girls I've chatted with online. I have yet to visit one. It applies especially to the women here. We are stuck in Florida and are desperate.

Shit, same thing happened to me this year. Cept I KNOW the girl. Known her my whole life. And she fucked it all up for fun. You know what I did? After I left Florida, came back here, and saw how she wouldn barely talk to me anymore, I bitched her out hardcore about how immature she was, how she needs to grow up, etc. It felt so good, and I finally got her off my goddamn balls. Devious wench.

I hate devious girls. You need to get this girl off you. Next time she starts acting gay like that, tell her to grow up and start acting mature. Tell her it's not a goddamn game all the time and what she does AFFECTS you. If she IS the devious tease I'm guessing she is, she'll probably think that you won't be able to affect her mood and she can just brush it off. That's why you have to hit her as hard as you can with your words and common sense. Let go of all your restraints and fight back.
...don't start going psycho though. That's not the way to go.

Karl

Whilst you`re expending so much energy, mentally, on an internet "relationship" that as you say is probably never going to happen, the parade is passing by and you have your back to it. There`s something to be said for escapism when you are dissatisfied with what life has dished out to you, but there comes a point when it becomes isolating and insulating. That`s when it`s crunch time.

It`s a cliche maybe, but mostly seems to be a true one that life is what you make it. It won`t come up and bite you on the ass. You can change things, in fact you`re the only one who can. Look around you and you will see that there is someone for everyone, no matter. Work on changing the things you are not happy with and get out in the real world. It can be done.