I ended up splitting up with my girlfriend. You've probably read my other posts about me moaning. Anyway, I went to a gig about a week ago and met this really nice girl. BUT!... She's 6 foot tall (i'm 5.10ish), she's 19 (2 years older than me), she lives miles away and she thinks i'm 18 when i'm only 17. She seems really interested in me but i dunno what to do.

I really like her but she's so much more mature than me. She drives, lives with her friends and has a full time job. I'm in college, living with parents, have a part time job and don't drive yet. Do you think that she's too old for me?

I really like her but do u think i should just forget about her? She's a really nice person. I felt really bad about not seeing her yesterday. She invited me to go to another gig but because i was bit worried about the age difference I just went down the pub with my friends. I wish id gone now.

Chris

Of all the things you mentioned, age is probably the last you need to worry about. If she likes you, she's not gonna care so much about your situation. You might want to fess up about being 17, though.. tell her the truth and why you said you were 18. It's understandable and fairly minor, so if you've really caught her attention, that's not likely to ruin it.

Two years isn't too much, shes got an interest in you- which shows she's probably willing to make a place for you in her life. It sounds like you feel kind of, small(in a matter of speaking) to be around someone so mature. Its a different ball-game when you are with someone who is above you in maturity, its one I haven't really played.

I guess 2 years isn't that much. I've been out with 1 or 2 girls that were 2 years younger than me but the fact that she's a girl and is 2 years older than the boy and 2 inches taller. Does that make much of a difference? I mean do u think she's gonna care about it a lot? I know 5.10 isn't massive but about 2 years ago i was really really short. I mean i was probably only about 5.2/5.4 then i just had a massive growth spurt. I think i'm still growing. I guess thats y I like taller women. I spent most of my life looking up at them. If u were a girl and u'd met a guy who was 2 inches shorter than u and 2 years younger would u b interested in him?

I think I missed something here. Shouldn't you be asking this girl about the age thing instead? The most important issue is whether she reckons your situation is alright, not what we think right?

Tall girls are more or less used to dealing with everyone being shorter than them. Even if she preferred a taller guy, you're not tit-height, so stop worrying about it. I can pretty much guarantee she cares about these things far, far, far less than you think she might. Hell, show confidence in yourself and the way you are, younger, shorter, or whatever else, and that'll outshine any negatives she sees due to those things.

2 years is too much difference only if one of you is 18 months old, and the other is a foetus.

My parents are 14 or so years apart (my mom is 40 and my dad is 54). That'd be like a 7th or 8th grade boy hooking up with a fetus if you put it in perspective. They've been married for like 15 years.... sure, both their kids are totally fucked up, but fucked up kids aren't the measure of a successful relationship.

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listen to them kid, two years is nothing. its laughable that you should worry about it. my fiance is two years younger than me. my aunt and my uncle(RIP) were ten years apart. age isnt a big thing esspecially when its only two years. you've got all these people here telling you that so listen to them and just do what you gotta do.

Two years? Two inches? So what. No problem there! Just that, you can't have sex with her unless she is willing to break the law, lol.

And as for the maturity state, just be/get more mature then you are now.


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It's a stupid law that should be broken at every possible opertunity within the limits of good taste.

Two years is nothing-if you really like her you will tell her the truth and if she really likes you she will accept your age and you two will have a good relationship

im 15 with a 13 year old... we dont have sex or anything its more of a friendly formal thing... i wont go into paragraphs, main point is 17-19 is nuthin, go for it man, if you dont you will regret the fuck out of not goin for it, just like you regret goin to the pub instead of the gig. if it doesnt work you can at least say u tried, but i dont see any reason not to ask her out or whatever

Dude, 2 years ain't shit...

The fact she's taller than you ain't shit...

that she's more mature than you ain't shit...

You've got no reason at all to not go for her, unless you just feel uncomfortable around her. Being with a more mature chick will rub off on you and help you mature. Being with a taller chick is (I hear) considered more respectable among ladies, since it shows you have self-confidence.

If you're intimidated by her then I'd say no, otherwise hell yeah go for her. You've got nothing to lose...