Hi I'm quite an adventurous person when it comes to sex but I can't seem able to take my boyfriend in when we try anal sex. I've tried lubes, numbing items and relaxing but it never seems to work. Could anyone give any suggestions to help?

[This message has been edited by mccannarchy (edited 11-02-2002).]

hmmmm, maybe the gods are trying to tell you something......like your cornhole is for exit only, douchebag

Haha.
Ditto.
Stick to what nature designed.
his dick your pussy.
not
his dick your asshole.
Your asshole and poop go together.

Use lots of lube and start off with fingers/small dildos/butt plugs before you actually take a dick in there.

speaking form a true bunghole ...

He can't get in at all or it hurts too much and you have to make him stop? Maybe he's just too big.. it happens.

trying to pack the peanut butter huh?

its a sign

Would all you guys quit sayin stupid shit?
Ffs she didnt come on here to get told no to do it, she asked a legitamate question
So lay off it jeez
Anyway to address the question you should as other people have said, start of with fingers/toys etc then work up to his penis, also use lots of lube cause there aint any natural ones there, and get as totally relaxed as you can

Thanks for the legit advice I've received so far. As for the naysayers, it takes all kinds to make the world go around.

The Ironic thing is that 90% of the people that say "the anus is exit only" or something probably jack off to anal porn 3 times a day.

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Originally posted by confuzious:
The Ironic thing is that 90% of the people that say "the anus is exit only" or something probably jack off to anal porn 3 times a day.

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fuck you, it's only twice a day

Lubes and toys to start off, then as the others said.. continue from there

I really can't believe the mass numbers of punkrock wannabe 14 year old kids on &TOTSE now.. It's really sad..

[This message has been edited by Syntex (edited 10-26-2002).]

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Originally posted by Syntex:
Lubes and toys to start off, then as the others said.. continue from there

I really can't believe the mass numbers of punkrock wannabe 14 year old kids on &TOTSE now.. It's really sad..

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Are you saying they want to be 14 year old kids? Or what?

NO. I'm talking aobut the morons who told her not to. Such as The Molecular Man and Zergling.. And Liquid-Science's comment isn't that appropiate either. Least I think so.

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Originally posted by -SpeedStar-:
Would all you guys quit sayin stupid shit?
Ffs she didnt come on here to get told no to do it, she asked a legitamate question
So lay off it jeez
Anyway to address the question you should as other people have said, start of with fingers/toys etc then work up to his penis, also use lots of lube cause there aint any natural ones there, and get as totally relaxed as you can

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hush, the asshole wasnt ment for a dick to be inside of......

first - it sounds like you are just trying to please - and really dont want it - he shouldnt insist - and you should try from a cold start with vaseline etc.
You are really a sweet kid and since you seem sincere at wanting to help him - suggest this - it has worked for me -
tell him to start by doing you in the cunt from behind - doggy style - when he is ready to come have him pull out and pop it in the anus - which will be relaxed and
both your natural lubricants will help -
also he will probably enjoy doing your
vagina so much that he will postpone
the anal shot almost evry time -
if he persists and can get in (and off) this way then you will gradually stretch and get used to both the idea and the doing -
you may even get to like and ask for it -
I've seen it happen that way

Luckiy, it only takes one to make the world go away.

Agree with most of the other good posts...lubes..toys etc

however position is the key to first time anal sex.

you should lie on your stomach with a pillow or two under your hips (to prop u up)

get him to stick his finger or small toy in to see which way the passage goes...u cant just stick it in any old way cos there are walls that wont let u in. then when ur relaxed enuff get him to stick it in following the passage..

use plenty of water based lubes..no oil ones as these can be bad and layer the inside of ur butt. he should not go too deep..or be rough with u cos it hurts..and is more prone to damage than whamming ur pussy....go gentle

hope this is of help

croc

Syntex

Im saying if it doesnt fit or it hurts to much what is the point of really bothering.

Also its just my opinon that you shouldnt butt fuck. That makes me a wanna be 14 year old punk rocker or some shit.
But maybe I like it when My gf eats my shit.
And you think thats a stupid idea that doesnt make you a 14 year old right.

If your really intrested start off with finger.
Then 2 after a while. Try to work way up to more until you get to the size of his dick. If his dick is to big or your ass to small. Somethings not going to work and your just going to have to deal with it.

Also as said in post above Postions really matter alot.

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[QUOTE]Originally posted by mccannarchy:
<can't seem able to take my boyfriend in when we try anal sex.>
I will assume you over the age of majority, if not this is a science fiction plot to invade earth by little green men from the planet Blivit.

Good question. My girlfriend and I both enjoy anal sex quite a bit.
First I get her off. After the fireworks fade dilate her anus, gently message the anus using vaginal fluid as a lubricant. Never go from anus to vagina only vagina to anus, the incorrect order can spread disease. Slowly insert little finger using a downward then up motion, manipulate for about a min. Speak sweet nothings, nibble her ear and/or apply love bites tell her to relax, both of you will know when to change fingers. Switch to a larger finger or thumb then deep with two and\or three fingers.
Use a condom and enjoy each other.

it would seem that some people feel the need to express their moral/religious/social hangups rather than open their minds or evaluate the truth of a matter. she wants to do it. she wants any "helpful advice". not insecurities based on fear and herd mentality. my advice having done it. is. go slowly. use fingers lube and things to get you used to the experience, go slowly and go slowly. truly in this it can be a great experience.

My wife [when I was still married] had the same problem.

The trouble with her, and I assume you too, is one of not being able relax enough; the anticipation [forgive me now for the pun I am about to make] is making you a tight-ass.

The solution for my ex, and which I'd suggest you consider, is to do something to make you relax more.

For her, a valium and a glass of wine, or a coupe of somas worked wonders.

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Originally posted by mccannarchy:
Hi I'm quite an adventurous person when it comes to sex but I can't seem able to take my boyfriend in when we try anal sex. I've tried lubes, numbing items and relaxing but it never seems to work. Could anyone give any suggestions to help? I really would like to do this for my boyfriend.

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You have to work up to it. Start with a finger and lots of lube. Take your time and work up to two fingers, then three, or a small dildo. If you go slow about it and use lots of lube you'll reach a point where you are relaxed and stretched enough to take him in. Believe me it works!

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Originally posted by mccannarchy:
Hi I'm quite an adventurous person when it comes to sex but I can't seem able to take my boyfriend in when we try anal sex. I've tried lubes, numbing items and relaxing but it never seems to work. Could anyone give any suggestions to help? I really would like to do this for my boyfriend.

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I never understood anal. What is in it for the woman?

Some girls feel pleasure from it. Some do it cuz their boyfriends/husbands will like it and they don't mind. Some do it while using a dildo up front for something different.

And a lot don't like it at all, which is the one thing that it seems too many guys can't figure the fuck out.