My ex-girlfriend were going out on and off for the past 9 months... she has cheated with other guys about 4 times but we have always gotten back together within a week or two and a month at the most. it bothers me that she has done that but thats not the point of this post.

my ex and i have had sex and we have both grown very fond of each other in that way. around the end of march, her mom found a note from me to her about how my dad bought me a 36 pack of condoms because i asked him to(and yes, my dad is that cool) and her mom(being the evil bitch that most mormon mothers are) changed which school she went to.

we continued going out and saw each other secretly. right when school got out we broke up and started seeing other people. she met some guy who her mom liked cause he was supposedly a good mormon. she started hanging out with this guy alot and she told me they were "just" friends.

ever since early July we have been going out up untill recently. before that we had been broken up for about 3 weeks. she still saw that guy and they would hang out(and yes, i was paranoid as hell about him). about 2-3 weeks ago she told me that they had sex with each other while we werent going out. i told her she needed to get rid of him and supposedly she did. a couple days later she broke up with me and the only good reason she could come up with was "i dont want to have a boyfriend this year because i just want to have fun". she still wanted to be "fuck buddies" tho. i made her promise to not have sex with other guys and to stay single. she agreed. so every night, for the 3 days before school started(including the night/morning that school started) we had REALLY good sex.

the first day was only a half day, but she seemed to be ignoring me or annoyed whenever i talked to her. this tuesday, every time i saw her she was with the guy who she had fucked earlier this summer and whenever i talked to her she seemed to ignore me and that kind of stuff. i called her that night and she was having a "serious" conversation with him. i called her later and she told me that they were going out now.

we had planned to meet that night to have sex. she didnt seem really bothered that she was cheating on her new boyfriend. we had great sex and on the way home i asked her why she was going out with that guy. she said that he had asked her and she just said yes. she also said that she was going to wait for him to break up with her and didnt want to dump him(but she didnt have a good reason).

on wendsday i kept asking her to break up with that guy and she would just not say anything. i didnt really see her that much and she seemed to be avoiding me whenever i did. i wrote her a note so that i could say all the stuff i wanted to say. i said that i was bothered that she broke up with me to be single but just goes out with this guy when we started school. i said that i was having doubts and that she should explain what she was planning to do. i also asked her not to have sex with him. i didnt talk to her after i gave her that up untill today. she told me that she wouldnt have sex with him and that she would talk to me later tonight on the phone about the rest.

i must sound pathetic. a guy bitching about being used. i really do like her, though, and i just want her to myself. even though she has cheated on me, this last time we started going out we got closer and i actually thought i loved her. she dumped me for basicly no reason... goes out with this guy... then has sex with me the same night. i just want some suggestions about what i should do.

Walk the fuck away or take what you get by continuing to fuck around with this girl.

Let it go. She obviously doesn't care about you, so just get out of the whole mess as soon as you can. You'll never get her to yourself.

Yep, I agree with ^ ^

Really, the fact that she's screwed around before, and you've taken her back and accepted it, just gives her permission to keep on doing it. She knows she can get away with it.
She doesn't sound anywhere NEAR mature enough to be involved in the kind of relationship you want to have. It's not going to be worth it for you - she'll just hurt you again.
You sound like a nice guy, and my guess would be that you can do WAY better than this girl.

thanks for the help, you are right that she has cheated that many times and i have just accepted it... i probably should have just left a lot earlier and avoided the pain of putting up with her...

ah-ha.

Yeah, if it were me, I wouldn't like the idea that I'm getting up in the same shit as the guy she's cheating on you with.

today some girl walked up to the guy and kissed him deeply... while my ex was standing right beside him!!!!

i almost feel sorry for her.... and i emphasize ALMOST

Forget about a relationship. Not gonna happen. Doesn't mean you have to stop fucking her though.

Don't give up the "relationship". Just enjoy that part of the girl that you can, and let her live the rest of her life as she wishes. That way you neither she or you are getting "used", and both you and she are getting something out of the little bit of each other that you an "have". Love, Venus.

Yeah, take it from someone who loves AIDS like pretty pinay, fuck everyone you meet, it's all fun and games!

There is obviously some attachment to the girl, and having sex with her would make it worse. Just let it go.

we were both virgins when we had sex with each other. and that other guy was a virgin also.

the confusing thing is that friday night we had sex and she kept saying that she loved me and shit like that. then last night we went to the movies and she kept saying the same thing. i pointed out that she still has a boyfriend. she just said "you dont have to be going out with somone to love them".

shes a bitch playing bitch mind games with you. i mean seriously man, after once cheating the whore would be gone. are you like 10 or something? this bitch has totally pussy whiped you

As I say Theo - she's really not worth it.

she is just a piece of ass at this point. at least till i find somone better. just using my investment of time/energy.

i dont want to sound like a dick but im kind of looking for the opportunity to get back at her for all the cheating and lying she has done.

Hi, Theo: Just read your last 2 posts here. The last one is stupid!! Don't try to "get even" with her. There's nothing you need to "get even" with her about! But your NEXT TO LAST post is the answer. Like I said in my earlier post, just enjoy the part of her that is available to you. Don't put your heart into it at all. Just my opinion, of course. Love, Venus. PS: Definitely don't listen to all that "I love you" garbage she tells you when you are making love to her. Sorry to have to tell you, but it's just total untruth and MAN-ipulation to keep you hot for her, and on her string. Love again. Venus.

[This message has been edited by pretty pinay (edited 09-09-2002).]

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Originally posted by pretty pinay:
Definitely don't listen to all that "I love you" garbage she tells you when you are making love to her. Sorry to have to tell you, but it's just total untruth and MAN-ipulation to keep you hot for her, and on her string.

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werd, she is totaly fucking with you man

girls like that theo are just messed up, why get revenge? What goes around comes around life has a funny way of kicking you in the balls like that, she will get hers for treating you like that.

thanks

Your gonna end up caring more about her than you were..thats if you still have this problem...
i suggest you find someone else. she obviouslly is confused. and thinks she has you whenever she wants you. honest.

random thought: do you feel you need someone else? If not, let her go. If you do need someone else to put some fun in your life... find a bunch of friends for this. Perhaps female friends, who knows. You need to grow past this is the point. It's not going to work with her (at leats not in the short term) and by sticking around with her you'll just keeping your time free and holding yourself back from meeting new people.

I said it was random.. sorry.

- Magician