my girl and i have been together for 7 (SEVEN) years. we have two great kids, and besides the usual problems (money,daily stress, lack of tlme)we are for the most part happy. here's THE PROBLEM: SEX. we have earth-shattering sessions usually for hours. neither of us complains about the quality, it's the quantity. see, i could have sex three tines a day,i enjoy it so much. i don't demand this of her,far from it. but i would like to play at least once a day.she disagrees, quite often, which frustrates me to no end. i just don't understand why she says no to something that makes her (and me) so good. am i being out of line? to demanding?

maybe because she wants you to make her feel that you want to do it with her, not because you want to do it.

Make her think that it's her idea to do it every day.

Or maybe her sex drive isn't inclined towards doing it every day.

If you're so frustrated, I offer this suggestion- less is more. It's quite possible she, like many human beings, doesn't want to do something she's been bothered about repeatedly, even if she does enjoy it. Back off. If you're really feeling in the mood, try some seduction (as opposed to "Wanna do it".. hey, I don't know what your M.O. is), and if you're getting a brush-off, let it go without comment. Take care of the urge yourself if you need to.

Most importantly, do NOT make a point of showing or telling her that you're doing this. Let her realize it for herself. If she does have an increasingly negative view of sex with you because you're so hell-bent on having it more often than she'd like, this may alleviate some of that strain and cause her to want it more often naturally.

What spiffy said.. It's incredibly annoying to have someone bugging you for sex, even IF you enjoy it. Beyond everything else, if you're going for a long time every time you have sex, simple fact is she may be a little too SORE to want it every day..

My recommendation is to (a) yes, masturbate if you need that release (b) pay attention to her in ways that you don't allow to lead to sex, let her initiate for a week or two, find your natural balance together. It's a simple fact that we all have varying sex drives, some of us are happy with once a week, others with 5 times a day.. Just change how you are around her for a little while. Be attentive, but not pushy. Take her places (if you can) where she can relax. Many women (especially) can't have sex if there's too much other stress or things going on. With two kids, and your own comments, there's obviously stress and exhaustion going on. Perhaps if you can afford to, you should send her to a day spa or something..

honestly, sounds stupid I know, but I think if you attack the real issues behind this, the problem will go away on it's own. Increase the intimacy in your relationship, increase the love, care, and above all relaxation. Stop expecting her to have sex with you, give her a break for a couple of weeks, and then let her come to *you*. I can almost guarantee that if she's feeling less stressed, and less pressured, and more loved and cared for, she'll be coming to you saying "hey baby, let's fuck" more often.

Unless she's like this one chick I know who just got dumped by a friend of mine because she never wanted to do anything physical at ALL. She figured it out, then he got some play, and.. oh.. I guess this isn't helping, is it.

All I can say is try to make it spontaneous, and I guess her willingness to "get busy" has something to do with when during the day(or night for that matter) you want it.

-Dammit what does M.O. stand for????

-laterz

she is a bitch. if your married there is no reason you shouldnt do it every day. at the very least i think a couple should bang five times a week to stay happy together. this may sound comical but im very serious.

More like, in a relationship you're in, the two of you should be banging at least five times a week.

When you like sex, a lot of it, and are around people who do too, it gets easy (too easy) to think that it's a fantastic thing that everyone needs to do a lot to be really happy. I'd like to think the world would be a better place if everyone was like that, but some people just aren't. C'est la vie.