k, first off, i have really low self esteem. and i am really shy (im a guy, k?) despite what my freinds think, and i don't think im all that good lookin, but not really ugly i think, and theres this realy buetiful girl i like, and she's really nice, but im to afraid to ask her out, i think i m right for her personaly, cause i can treat her good, but i think she deserves better (ie a guy thats hansome). It seems like idon't think i'll ever hvae a girl freind. especialy one like her. but isn't it true that theres someone for everyone, i've seen way uglier guys then me with buetiful girls. what should i do? any comments? or anything please reply

Think of it this way. Nobody is better then you. And there is nothing to lose by asking her out.

Alright, you may feel not so good about yourself, but honestly, there's more to looking good than having a beautiful face..

Once upon a time, I dated this guy for a while.. basically fell in lust with him the first moment I saw him.. he had such a sense of style about him.. his face, wasn't anything special at all, many of my friends thought he was ugly.. but oh man, he was so hot.. had this whole 70's thing going on, vintage clothes, lots of curly black hair, huge black rimmed specs..

Moral of the story being that honeslty, it's not your face that matters, it's what's inside that comes out.. if you want to gain self esteem about your appearance, how about working out?.. give yourself some muscles and a body to die for, and that alone will help the way you feel about yourself.. do what you can to develop a personal style, find what you think looks good on you.. get comfortable in your skin, it's the only one you're going to have.. get good haircuts, that'll help too..

You say yourself, you think you'd be the right guy for her, so convince her of that. And here's the thing, beautiful girls need nice guys just as much as the ugly ones do..

And if she says no, don't sweat it, there are lots of other girls out there.. you deserve at least one of them, just like everyone else.

ok, she's kinda in the pop. crowd, and even thuogh she's one of the nice 1's, what if she tells them i asked her out, then i would'nt only get made funof but maybe even beat up. and if she said yes then the same thing applies. i think she's the kind of girl who wouldn't tell anyone, but still. what if?

If she tells them, she tells them

Wanna live your life on what if's?

If you don't ask her, you have zero chance.

If you do, you at least have a chance..

What's worse, no girl at all, or the slight risk of ridicule?

thanks, wintermute.

If you dont ask, you're going to HAVE to live with the "What if i would have asked her out" fact.

Goodluck dude.

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If she tells them, she tells them
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What's worse, no girl at all, or the slight risk of ridicule?

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yes, but if he fails, he wouldn�t have a chance with any other girl from that point. I would train with some other, easier girls.

Why wouldn't he?

Just because he asked out one girl, why would all the girls in the universe suddenly not want to date him?

His chances of getting a date with anyone aren't gonna go down because someone says no. If she said yes and found out he had some cracked out broccoli fetish or something, and then went and spread it around, THEN he might have some issues.

Dude, I've seen too many guys who have no business at all getting laid, get laid, sometimes regularly. Most of 'em were of the "who would fuck that?" variety. A lack of self-esteem showing through will kill you a hundred times before your looks do.

your right, you dont deserve her. if you care that much about looks then you dont deserve anyone. just take a fucking chance and ask her. your damned if you do and your damned if you dont so at least take it fighting.

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Originally posted by johnnyemopunk:
k, ... really low self esteem. and i am really shy ... don't think im all that good lookin, ... theres this realy buetiful girl i like, and she's really nice, but im to afraid to ask her out ... seems like idon't think i'll ever hvae a girl freind. especialy one like her. ... i've seen way uglier guys then me with buetiful girls.

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1. He�s a starter going for the highest goal.
2. He�s materialistic, so he won�t convince.
3. If he talks the way he writes ...

hey.. i think i saw this on teenhelp the other day.. is this the same guy?

thanks, everyone keep the advice/put downs coming. one thing, why do u call me materialistic, & i don't care much bout looks, but she might. and no, i wasn't on teenhelp don't even know what it is, but please DO NOT try to explain.

im gonna try and keep the esteem up. im also gonna TRY to ask her out on friday. that way if she says no, then i won't have to sit in class all week feeling weird, the weekend will give her time to forget it, or put it in the past, and if she says yes (long shot but just maybe) then we have the weekend to do whatever. but untill then keep the advice/putdowns coming

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Originally posted by Wintermute:
...give yourself some muscles and a body to die for...

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And if you have a body that looks like it's already died?

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do what you can to develop a personal style,

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Due to the compromises and adjustments to my condition, I think I already have one.

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find what you think looks good on you..

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I did, but she flat out turned me down


[Sorry, I just had to say that ;-) ]

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get comfortable in your skin

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I am, it's the bones in that skin that hurt like a mother f**ker!

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.. you deserve at least one of them, just like everyone else.

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Ah...If only people did get what they deserved.

I really mean that.

Of course, she was saying that to someone else.. O.o

i have a secret pickup line thhat will knock her off her feet and ask if she likes you. its a secret tho e-mail me man just fer u ryan5439@yahoo.com

[This message has been edited by Bliizzard (edited 06-02-2002).]

Johnnyemopunk never mind, eh!
I guess that i'm just lucky that i'm so good looking & don't have to worry bout this trivial shit!
No though, i've allways been told (don't know if it's true) that personallity goes alot further! Basically yo get the girl initially by your looks, but you can't build a relationship on looks alone, personallity is what counts when a relationship gains full speed!!!!!!

well, i couln't ask her friday, just couldn't. but i thought about it and i just don't care anymore bout what people will say, its the end ofthe school year anyways. im gonna ask her out DEFFINETLy this week.

Think of this dude:

"He who hesitates will always masterbate"

what that means what is the worst that could happen if you ask her out? maybe she'll say no, if she says yes the best that could happen is that you get laid. and if you never ask at all someone will before you and may end up with her. So definatly try for a go. Good luck!

jon i dleted e-mail by accident i get alot of bs mail.... send it again put subject bliizzard

k, just sent it. thx for all your support people.

Dude Dude see this is what u do DONT FUCKING DO WHAT I DO I GOT 2 DAMN CLOSE TO 2 HOT GIRLS AND NOW THERE MY FRIEND AND THEY WONT GO OUT WITH ME BUT THEYLL BE MY FRIEND lol neways this is what u do u get some girl thats her friend and u ask them to ask her if she likes u and u wont get beat up or made fun of i thought the same along time ago but nuthing happend no one cares man seriously i mean u may get laughed at for like 5mins but thats it its not a big ass deal just ask her out she says no then good for u she says yes then good for you