ok i am going to be more spicific i am 16 and i was going out wit a chick but a friend of mine lied and said i was cheatng on her so she broke up wit me. and now she is going out wit some dude wit a car and i cant compare to him, but she wont break up wit him because she says she has not given him a chance yet. then she told me to move on so i am going out wit some preppy chick and i really dont want her i want my original girlfriend back that i was wit 4 6 months and i really dont know what to do because i love her and she says she still loves me.

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Originally posted by NOT_ME:
a friend of mine lied and said i was cheatng on her so she broke up wit me

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Well obveously he/she isnt your freind if they are gonna pull a stunt like that. Id kick their ass, then try everything I can to get that girl back.
Try something like getting someone to say that guy is cheating on her. If it worked on you it will work on him. DO IT!!! ITS WORTH THE SHOT!!!

Just a thought, but you wouldn't be dating the other girl if you really cared about the first one.. and that's probably what she sees too..

I mean, considering, it probably appears as though the one you're dating now is the one you were cheating with, if you were cheating, which from her point of view validates her suspicions and your friend's accusation.

ooOOOoo ur soo careing wintermute

She can't have trusted you that much if she broke up with you cos your friend told her some lie.

Anyway, make her feel bad about not trusting you. Go and sleep with her mother, or tell her about how your new girlfriend gives the best head. Then, hen she's feeling all down and in the mood to impress you, win her back.

Simple.

[sarcasm]If only everyone went to the Mojo Pin school of relationships...[/sarcasm]

Shadow stalker, I don't attempt to be caring, I attempt to give the best advice I can. What I said is true, to her, it probably appears as though he was cheating all along with the girl he's now dating.

Damn.

And I came here thinking it was going to actually be about shit.

Oh well, next time I'm sure.

hang out in the shadows and stalk her.

"Just a thought, but you wouldn't be dating the other girl if you really cared about the first one.."

Not necessarily true.

"and that's probably what she sees too.."

No doubt this is right.

The longer this drags out, the less your chances are of going out with the first girl. Pull her aside, tell her straight up she's the one you want to go out with, and ask her if she really wants to be with that guy or if she wants to be with you. (No, it's not easy, but it's quickest and easiest in the long run.)

If you do that, and she says you, then you can start going out again and be all happy and snuggly and shit. If she says she not you, and you can tell she's being straight, then she doesn't want to go out with you. Move on.

Then, of course, there's the dreaded middle ground. She could come up with lots of different answers, ranging from ".....no" to "well, yeah, but.." to "I'm so confused" to "I don't know", where her answer and demeanor combine to show you she can't make up her mind. If that happens, you can shake your head and walk away, tell her to make a decision, tell her to let you know if she makes a decision, all kinds of stuff. But if she remains extremely indecisive, she's not worth your time- when you have to do a lot of convincing to get a girl to go out with you, it hurts the chances of it working out compared to a situation where the girl figures out she likes you and wants to be with you in her own brain, and can admit that fact.