But, there's one thing I've noticed about sex, that I find lacking in most people - not just men - all people. What it is is that they look at sex as a tool for getting off and you can be the best lover in the world, and you can know every single position in the Kama Sutra, you can be great looking, and be able to go all night long, literally, but if you do it just to get off, you might as well be wacking off. At least that doesn't take so long and there's no pressure of performance. I find it pretty annoying when the guy just fingers me and fingers me even when I know he's not enjoying it, when I know he just wants to fuck, but he feels that I have to get off or there's no point to it. How sexy can I possibly feel if I know that the other person doesn't even feel like doing what he's doing?

Not everyone can be as great a lover as you and I.

People like that are just selfish (which is, sadly, the vast majority of people). They can't take joy in the pleasure of who they're with. Sure, they may be happy if they can do a good job, but there's a difference between happiness in being able to bring someone pleasure, and happiness in bringing them pleasure.

I don't think it's always selfishness, although I can see how it could be. I think that sometimes they want to please you, but then they get bored but keep going anyways because they find the whole objective is to cum.

O, and thanks Z :-)

Cheers,
Lost

I guess it depends on how you look at it.. although, you have a good point, if there's any exception, it'd be those locked into the mindset of "must bring to orgasm". If it starts to get stale, do something else, it's not that hard..

Eh, I dunno.