Maybe not all, but this one in particular.

So I met this girl and we started talking. She is friends with my friends "partner". So basically the last few weeks my friend and I have been inviting them to do stuff every now and then to which they accept.

She asked me one night if all I wanted to do was root her, and I said no. I started texting her now and then and she ended up saying she thought I was really nice and she wants to get to know me, the only problem being she lives about 12 hours away and is up here on holiday. I pretty much said I thought she was nice also, and after that didn't receive a reply. I waited a few days then sent her a message saying what's up, she replied, I replied.. then again, nothing back from her.

Another 2 days pass and then I finally get a message saying "Hey babe what's up etc". I reply with a simple "not much you?". She then starts telling me that because my friend and her friend aren't "seeing" each other anymore that we probably wouldn't see each other anymore either.

Now to me, this could have meant one of two things.
1. She wanted me to reply saying we should still see each other.
2. She seriously wanted me to fuck off.

I thought what the hell and texted her back anyway number 1 just in case she did mean that. If she seriously wanted me to fuck off then she'd most likely just say no.

So she replies back saying she does want to meet up with me and will see if she can and to let her know. Sweet, I think to myself.

Next day (yesterday) I sent her a message asking if she wanted to meet up... No reply at all. I don't really care too much I'm just confused as there could be many things going on here. Such as;

1. Her just fucking me around for the sake of it.
2. She likes to keep her options open and feels it's necessary to leave dudes hanging.
3. Maybe she never actually got my text due to some unfortunate phone service fault.
4. Maybe she actually did just want to root me and that's it.
5. Whatever other reason you people can possibly think of.

Even if you don't like a person and they ask you to do something, wouldn't you just say a simple no? It's like when she texts me, she seems REAL interested, but then she can turn around and not text me at all for days. Seems a little fucked up, right?

She could be just as confused as you are to the whole thing. She said it herself-she lives 12 hours away and is only there on holiday, and maybe she's afraid that she'll just be some fling. You're not very reassuring to her-you text her, she replies, you reply, nothing happens-and then you drop it for a few days. Why don't you give her a call and put the spotlight on her-ask her to lunch or dinner or whatever right there and then. Texting isn't getting you anywhere and it's only giving her time to reconsider and analyze you.

That, or she's playing hard to get. Man up and communicate with her, see what the deal is.

See that's the thing. I've thought about exactly what you just said and it made sense. But so does a fair few other scenarios. I only drop it for a few days because she drops it. I don't want to seem too keen if I text her if she hasn't even replied to my previous text.

I see what you mean about calling her though. I would probably understand her motives a lot better. Apparently though she is a bit of a slut where she lives so I doubt she's worried about being a fling.

I guess I'll see if she texts me and if she does I'll call her. If not then I'll let it be. It's just fucked how girls minds think.

See that's the thing. I've thought about exactly what you just said and it made sense. But so does a fair few other scenarios. I only drop it for a few days because she drops it. I don't want to seem too keen if I text her if she hasn't even replied to my previous text.

I see what you mean about calling her though. I would probably understand her motives a lot better. Apparently though she is a bit of a slut where she lives so I doubt she's worried about being a fling.

I guess I'll see if she texts me and if she does I'll call her. If not then I'll let it be. It's just fucked how girls minds think.

I understand where you're coming from when you stop texting her for a few days because you don't want to seem to eager, I think everyone's guilty of that. But as a girl I will tell you that she might be testing to see how interested you really are. Oh, fuck it. Just wait till she texts, like you said, then call her. Who knows.

if shes 12 hours away fuck it
she might as well be on the moon.

She probably doesn't know what kind of relationship she can have with you. She lives 12 hours away, i'd be confused too. I don't think anything serious can come out of this. Long distance relationships just don't work.

Long distance relationships like that never work out.

It's just fucked how girls minds think.

No shit. This has happened to me several times, and is happening right now.. exept the girl lives a few blocks away and weve hung out more.. When people don't answer its so goddamn annoying.. I really find the games girls play frustrating, and have come to the conclusion anyone with a vagina is somewhere inside a total bitch.

"Hey ur so cute!! ..ignores... Hey! .. ignores... wanna play a GAME!!!?"
-women

No shit. This has happened to me several times, and is happening right now.. exept the girl lives a few blocks away and weve hung out more.. When people don't answer its so goddamn annoying.. I really find the games girls play frustrating, and have come to the conclusion anyone with a vagina is somewhere inside a total bitch.

"Hey ur so cute!! ..ignores... Hey! .. ignores... wanna play a GAME!!!?"
-women

Ring them when they txt you seeming keen

Ring them when they txt you seeming keen

This. You're only enabling them to play games if you keep texting. How about some actual talking on the phone?

It sounds to me like shes just testing the waters to see if its even worth her time to come over to you, post again after/if you call her.

This. You're only enabling them to play games if you keep texting. How about some actual talking on the phone?

Oh I do. Its the same deal 100%. Sometimes theres an answer, sometimes they don't even return the call until a week later with a TEXT.

Yeah that's true although some of them can work if you both put lots of effort into the relationship.