I've never been able to orgasm from sex and I'm sick of it. Usually, totse's advice to guys in the same spot is get her to masturbate and do it herself, clit and gspot and other similar things. Well, I masturbate often and can get off in less than 2 minutes if I want to and my bf is great at oral, so I have no idea. Any more suggestions?

As you may have seen from checking advice columns/books, many women don't O from sex. Ever. I'm talking married/together for years/decades. With those that do, the dude usually has to last 15 minutes or more. Some say that girl-on-top or entry from behind is advantageous...

Don't forget that many women are somewhat influenced by books/movies/TV into expecting to orgasm every time they make love. Admit it: when you've seen/read of fictional people having sex? Doesn't the woman always orgasm?

This is nothing like the experience of real girls. ;)

On the 15 minutes or more, one time he seemed to feel that bad about it (I can get him off easy every time) that he tried for 4 hours, so endurance definitely isn't a factor. And never have I seen media portraying women orgasming ever so that just sorta confused me there.

What? You've never read novels, seen modern TV or movies? Perhaps it is your nun-like sheltered life that has inhibited you? :p

Have you tried different positions? Though there are advantages to the regular missionary position: it's only one.

What? You've never read novels, seen modern TV or movies? Perhaps it is your nun-like sheltered life that has inhibited you? :p

Have you tried different positions? Though there are advantages to the regular missionary position: it's only one.

My reading on the topic goes as far as the totse text files. Read novels with sex scenes but never that detailed. As for positions, many of every variety. It's good, but only ever good.

Something you might join millions of other women in getting used to. Are you any good at switching into multiple positions in one session? Please be careful of putting too much pressure on Mr Penis. Eg: he doesn't like being bent out of line!

How about doing it in different settings? Floor instead of bed/carpet instead of couch. Backyard at midnight... Whatever suits you two.

Maybe he sucks at sex. Have you ever thought of that? I lost my virginity to a girl who said she never orgasmed in her life, and she didn't know what it felt like. She had two partners before me. One of which she had sex with dozens of times.


I never got her off. Then I had sex with girl #2 and after her virgin pussy healed I got her off multiple times one night and I always succeeded in getting her off from then on...

Do you know, cant b, that women often do not "know" when they have gotten off? Whereas the dudes always "know" if their girl has O'ed?

If you catch my drift...? :p

Though...I wonder why women report having fewer O's than their men report the women having? Hmmmmm....

Unless the girl is dishonest and great at producing physical effects that aren't real. I am sure that I know when infact they are orgasming......in fact she will get off and her vag(clit area mainly) will become too sensitive to even touch. her body shudders and she squirts not in that order, but you should catch my drift if you have been there.

I'd have to say that I've seen it from both sides. Girls who've said they have, who've not really exhibited any "for sure" signs & girls who've not said anything in particular but have twitched or had muscle rigidity. Then they have been very quiet.

It's a puzzle.

Perhaps the one's who talk about how good it is are more likely fake than the ones who are at a loss for words... After they get up to pee...it's all "Would you like a sammich, Honeybunch?" :p

uhm...go see a gynecologist?

maybe your cunny is broken

I get off easier if we stay in one position, rather than switching. Pick one and stick with it, goddammit!

OP, have you tried rubbing your clit while he's fucking you from behind?

Rythm.

Role playing.

1). Masturbate to an orgasm, with him watching.
2). Get him to replicate what you did, but using his penis and hands - with you giving him feedback if he's "a little bit off".
3). If he does it right, and it still fails and you don't even come close, then it's something psychological. Up to you to figure out what it is - do you feel more relaxed when you're on your own? What do you feel different when you're with him (negative feelings-wise)?
4). What do you fantasize about when you masturbate? Add that to your sex, and see how that affects it.


That should do the job, unless of course you just cant b bothered to orgasm.

I get off easier if we stay in one position, rather than switching. Pick one and stick with it, goddammit!

OP, have you tried rubbing your clit while he's fucking you from behind?

QFT. Seriously, in the 4 years since I started having sex, I had never ever been able to get off from sex alone until recently. What works best for me is lying flat on my stomach and he comes in from behind and I (or he) rub my clit. It's awesome.

Kill your self.

I get off easier if we stay in one position, rather than switching. Pick one and stick with it, goddammit!

OP, have you tried rubbing your clit while he's fucking you from behind?

Yeah you have to do some of the work, I mean he can't do it all on his own everytime.

What works best for me is lying flat on my stomach and he comes in from behind and I (or he) rub my clit. It's awesome.

So unbelievably awesome.

Ok this is going to sound slightly whack and not being female I can't describe it properly so bear with me.

You can orgasm from masturbation, right? Do you, when you masturbate. somehow 'stretch' your clit or rather the skin around it? Let me see if I can express that better: when you wank do you simply put a finger or two on you near your clit (btw boys some women don't touch their clit directly when they wank) and simply rub/circle? Or are you stretching it, tautening the skin around it at the same time?, perhaps rubbing it up towards you? A lot of girls do and they don't even realise it.

That little bit of tension can be important. If he's fucking you at the same time then he is probably pulling your vulva down when it needs to go up. Next time you fuck, try using your right hand to wank as normal but use your left to pull your clit up towards your mound a bit. If you just put three fingers on your mound and with your finger tips just pull the skin up, so your clit stands out a little more, then you'll get what I mean.