ok, so found a girl i totally dig, been hanging with her for the past week, watching movies and just talking about life in general. She is extremely mature, intelligent, and has a deep personality. i was able to talk to this chick on theory's of space, time, etc...and she was right on board with it. Due to her life situation she has been forced to pretty much raise her brother since she was 7. so she has had to mature. there is only one small problem that i don't think society would look upon with open arms. First off, neither her or i are looking for anything sexual. we both are looking for someone that we can just be with and have a normal relationship with without fucking like wild monkeys and it being meaningless and void. im not exactly sure how she feels about me but i have a fairly good idea. the only problem is she is 14, and im 21. If you came up and asked me if id ever get with a girl her age even 2 months ago, i would have said your fucking crazy. and now im stuck and not sure what to do. its a little more difficult when the girl that matches everything you want happens to be 14. her parents absolutely love me, no one really seems to think anything of it. the best advice i have gotten is to just straight up tell her we can carry a relationship, but keep some limitations on it and if in a few years when she is old enough, and things work out, take it to the next level.
basically we would be together but neither of us would cross the line of legalities.

what should i do? advice? why am i asking totse?

This chick is obviously too good for you,

man up and find a chick relatively close to your age.

14 man!!!

there is a reason society doesn't favor such relationships.

god your pathetic... or just trolling

how do you draw the conclusion that she is too good for me?
i know there is a reason, that is why its not an easy situation.
how could i possibly be trolling?
am i pathetic because i cant get a girl my age?
its not like i plan to lure her into my van full of candy to fuck her brains out.

oh, when i met this chick and was hanging with her, age didn't even come to mind until i asked her how old she is.
if i was trolling, or pathetic, i don't think i would be in deep thought about the situation and how i should handle it.

so, fact of the matter is, can i get a girl my age? yes. i thought she was my age at first for Christ sake, but after i learned she was 14, i already like her, already know a lot about her. Why should i sit here and say no, fuck you, your too young. and go another 4 damn years searching for a girl that fits my criteria and not finding a damned one.

im fairly picky about getting a girl because unlike most guys, i don't want a girl im just going to fuck for a year and then call it quits. unfortunately for me, the girl that matches what im looking for is fucking 14.

fuck.

No. She still needs to change (which she will), grow, and mature. She [probably] has no experience in many things.

she is mature is the thing. i wouldn't even remotely consider it if she actually acted her age. what part of she has had to raise her brother pretty much on her own since the age of 7 did you guys miss? like i said, due to her life situation she is very mature. and also, like i said, i think i will sit her down and say look, we can hang out, do this and that, but not this and that, until your at least 17. you know..rules, lines we cant cross..etc. heck had i known she was 14 to begin with, i don't think i would have even talked to her, i would have assumed she is just some dumb 14 year old crushing on an older guy or something.

im not gonna jump off into this so quick. im playing it extremely slow.

Raising a sibling doesn't imply maturity, just as being a parent doesn't mean you deserve to be or you're good at it. Your point is invalid. I know someone who, because of their family situation, essentially has to raise her little brother and she is possibly the dumbest-motherfucker-ever.

Also, being 'on board' with you during a conversation on space/time doesn't imply intelligence [or maturity]. I doubt she really knows about quantum mechanics. Hell, maybe you don't know shit about it either and are both just saying 'Wouldn't it be cool to have a time machine?!?!' I have no way of knowing.

Shit, you could set 'rules'. Apart from anything sexual being illegal, having a relationship that escalates to anything more than a friend probably won't go so well with many people.

Do what you want. But it seems like you're speaking about long terms (uhhh, when she's 17??) and you should realize she's 14 and still [drastically] growing (out of things). Don't always expect it to just work the way you want, as you'll (hopefully) both grow.

agreed. i do not expect it to go just how i want. alot of things happen between point A and B.
With that said, i will tell her we can just be good friends and allow our friendship to grow, and just let things happen however they will happen from there.

hahaha, you're gonna end up in prison, faggot

The real problem with this is society IMO. It's okay for adults to date and get married if they are 10, or even 20 years apart, but if a 17 year old is dating a 23 year old it's somehow fucked up (a very realistic situation).

Your situation is a bit of a stretch, 14 year old girl and a 21 year old guy. Most would look at that as a dude tryin to get some jailbait, but once you consider the circumstances, it seems a little better. Since you feel the way you feel, I see nothing wrong with you and the girl just being friends, as long as everyone knows you are just friends, and nothing more. If it seems to become something more, just make sure no one else knows except you and her. I'm sure there are plenty of legal girls that are less mature than her in many aspects.

I think statutory rape laws need to be changed. If a 20-something year old fucks a girl when she's 17, and get's caught, it's statutory rape, even if the couple gets married later in life.

you made me cry a little.