totse.com | Hanging out with ex tomorrow

voodoonirvana · #1 2008-12-15, 04:15

I broke up with my girlfriend about 3 weeks ago because she cheated on me. Well now after completely ignoring her and trying to not care about her anymore she fucking invited me over. So I said ok because I do actually wanna talk to her and see what she's up to and talk to her about why she cheated and all that shit. Just so that I can get some shit straightened out in my own head.

Is this wrong? Should I have told her no and never talk to her again? It's just driving me crazy that me and her went from being so close to not talking at all for 3 weeks, I wanna talk to her about what happened and how shit went bad in our relationship.

Half of me wants to date her again and half of me wants to never talk to her again. What are some things I should say to her tomorrow? Could I get some advice. Thanks

Silverfuck · #2 2008-12-15, 04:23

I thought that maybe it wouldn't a terrible idea to talk to her and get some closure about why she cheated on you and all that, just so that you could let dead dogs lie and move on and hate her like you properly should, until I read:

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Half of me wants to date her again

That tell me that it's a bad idea. You know reasonably, as does everyone else whose followed your threads, that there is no reason for your to be with her. She cheated on you, lied to you, and made you miserable. Your brain knows that nothing good can come out of a relationship with her. But at this point, you're not thinking with your brain. You're remembering the good of the relationship, the time you enjoyed together, and glossing over the major potholes; you're idealizing what you once had, and that's normal. But for the love of Christ, don't talk to her. The wounds are still fresh, the connection is still there. You need to wait until you're ready to be detached from the situation to be able to deal with it logically.

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Fallen Angust · #4 2008-12-15, 04:30

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Originally Posted by voodoonirvana View Post

Is this wrong?

Yes, there is no closure for cheating hoe bags.

twotimintim · #5 2008-12-15, 04:31

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Originally Posted by Fallen Angust View Post

Yes, there is no closure for cheating hoe bags.

bingo, just think of how fucking pathetic the guy she cheated on you with would think you are crawling back to her like that. And you wont

voodoonirvana · #6 2008-12-15, 04:36

Silverfuck, your probably right. She told me today that she "really cares about me and misses me a lot" and I suppose the fact that I haven't gotten laid in a long time, along with the fact that I miss her a lot too is why I said yes to her asking me to come over. The last thing I want to do though is come running back to her and pretend like everything's okay. I'm not doing that. I think I've made that pretty clear to her over the past few weeks too.

I think I'll go talk to her tomorrow and see how it goes and then go from there. I hope it's not awkward, I don't think it will be too much but I hate these situations.

Nightside Eclipse · #7 2008-12-15, 04:37

Don't go within 50 feet of her.

coastal progress · #8 2008-12-15, 04:57

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Originally Posted by Silverfuck View Post

I thought that maybe it wouldn't a terrible idea to talk to her and get some closure about why she cheated on you and all that, just so that you could let dead dogs lie and move on and hate her like you properly should, until I read:

That tell me that it's a bad idea. You know reasonably, as does everyone else whose followed your threads, that there is no reason for your to be with her. She cheated on you, lied to you, and made you miserable. Your brain knows that nothing good can come out of a relationship with her. But at this point, you're not thinking with your brain. You're remembering the good of the relationship, the time you enjoyed together, and glossing over the major potholes; you're idealizing what you once had, and that's normal. But for the love of Christ, don't talk to her. The wounds are still fresh, the connection is still there. You need to wait until you're ready to be detached from the situation to be able to deal with it logically.

YAY!!! Silverfuck is back!!! You just got some supreme advice. Silverfuck KNOWS what she's talking about. Heed her words. Like she said, it sounds like a shitty situation, don't go for it. You might just get trapped in another relationship with a girl who cheated on you.

twotimintim · #9 2008-12-15, 05:01

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Originally Posted by coastal progress View Post

YAY!!! Silverfuck is back!!! You just got some supreme advice. Silverfuck KNOWS what she's talking about. Heed her words. Like she said, it sounds like a shitty situation, don't go for it. You might just get trapped in another relationship with a girl who cheated on you.

Silverfuck's wisdom is definitely appreciated.

Thought Riot · #10 2008-12-15, 05:01

fuck her. Once your done, pull on your clothes, say "I always knew you were a whore, but at least you felt good". Then leave forever.

Get back at the bitch now.

Oh, and do not get back with her. She cheated on you. It shows how little respect she has for you and how serious she took your relationship. And you'll never trust her.