totse.com | Does a guy have more respect for his girlfriend if she's a virgin?

sealsaregay · #1 2008-12-05, 02:34

My boyfriend and I have been dating now for a little over a year, and I made it clear in the beginning of our relationship that I planned on staying a virgin for the time being, that I was saving it for a long, lasting relationship, or possibly even marriage. He was fine with that, and I still remain one to this day. Lol, the thing is we do everything else though. Oral. Hand jobs. All that good stuff, without actual penetration. I don't know why. I just feel like virginity is something you should hold on to for as long as possible, and if your with your soul mate, what should they care anyway, right? Anyway. With that said. Lately, I've been kind of thinking about doing the dirty deed. I haven't said anything to him about it..but his birthday is coming up soon...and I'm seriously debating. WHICH BRINGS ME TO THE POINT

Should I? I really love him.. I plan on being with him for the rest of my life, but half of me is saying we should do it, and the other half is saying we should wait.....The other question though, will he lose respect for me if I decide to go through with it? Will things start to get old and go downhill after we get the final part over with? Lololololololol help mee.

Hot_Soup · #2 2008-12-05, 02:41

Yes and no. If someone else took your virginity than yes, if he takes it then no

damn you homophones

aMv · #3 2008-12-05, 02:41

yes or know

anastaciadarling · #4 2008-12-05, 02:42

honestly if you feel ready for it you should. if you feel like you want to don't hesitate. it is a nice thought to think you are saving it for the right person, but you need to think about whether you are ready or not. but don't give in just because you think you have to, to make him happy. or don't do it because everyone else is. do it for yourself. that is what is important.

Volcanbaru · #5 2008-12-05, 02:42

my troll detector is ticking.

Do it. You will be kicking yourself in the head "why the fuck didn't I do it sooner?" (unless you're 13 years old)

nimajneb92 · #6 2008-12-05, 02:43

Do it, he's not gunna get upset. And if it is a loving relationship it will be good for both of you. I wouldn't respect anyone more or less for virginity in a relationship.

Besides its just sex, your probably going to have lot of other sexual partners in your life so why not him.

Tom_Sawyer · #7 2008-12-05, 02:43

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Originally Posted by sealsaregay View Post

My boyfriend and I have been dating now for a little over a year, and I made it clear in the beginning of our relationship that I planned on staying a virgin for the time being, that I was saving it for a long, lasting relationship, or possibly even marriage. He was fine with that, and I still remain one to this day. Lol, the thing is we do everything else though. Oral. Hand jobs. All that good stuff, without actual penetration. I don't know why. I just feel like virginity is something you should hold on to for as long as possible, and if your with your soul mate, what should they care anyway, right? Anyway. With that said. Lately, I've been kind of thinking about doing the dirty deed. I haven't said anything to him about it..but his birthday is coming up soon...and I'm seriously debating. WHICH BRINGS ME TO THE POINT

Should I? I really love him.. I plan on being with him for the rest of my life, but half of me is saying we should do it, and the other half is saying we should wait.....The other question though, will he lose respect for me if I decide to go through with it? Will things start to get old and go downhill after we get the final part over with? Lololololololol help mee.

First of all, the first time you have sex will probably be quite lousy. Trying to make a special occasion of him tearing your untouched pussy apart will most likely only result in disappointment, as well as physical pain.

Second, no, I would not have more respect for my girlfriend if she was a virgin. I would think she was a prude, and a little stuck-up. Then again, I have yet to see the emotional significance of fucking, so my views may be a little biased. I guess I just don't get why having sex is such a big deal to everyone.

- Tom

anastaciadarling · #8 2008-12-05, 02:45

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First of all, the first time you have sex will probably be quite lousy. Trying to make a special occasion of him tearing your untouched pussy apart will most likely only result in disappointment, as well as physical pain.

- Tom

haha lol

Mr. Stabby · #9 2008-12-05, 02:47

Tom pretty much summed it up.

Sex is fun.

No sex is no fun.

Do you like people who are no fun? Because i sure as hell don't.

Rykoshet · #10 2008-12-05, 02:48

You sound like an idiot.

In fact, anyone who holds oral and vaginal sex to a different standard is an idiot.

Tom_Sawyer · #11 2008-12-05, 02:50

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You sound like an idiot.

In fact, anyone who holds oral and vaginal sex to a different standard is an idiot.

QFT. You'll put his cock in the same hole you eat with, but you won't put it in a hole made specifically to take cocks?

Twisted, IMHO.

- Tom

nimajneb92 · #12 2008-12-05, 02:51

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I guess I just don't get why having sex is such a big deal to everyone.

I don't get this either

anastaciadarling · #13 2008-12-05, 02:51

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You sound like an idiot.

In fact, anyone who holds oral and vaginal sex to a different standard is an idiot.

but oral is just not the same...it is just not enough sometimes that is why it is on a different standard, but that is just me. i think that it has to do with what kind of person you are and how you view things...
not to be so against what you said though

hooloovoo · #14 2008-12-05, 02:53

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but oral is just not the same...it is just not enough sometimes that is why it is on a different standard, but that is just me. i think that it has to do with what kind of person you are and how you view things...
not to be so against what you said though

No, you're right.

Guys- you don't know. Grow a vagina first and then you can get back to me on which is more intimate.

anastaciadarling · #15 2008-12-05, 02:55

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No, you're right.

Guys- you don't know. Grow a vagina first and then you can get back to me on which is more intimate.

thanks for agreeing. but i am warning you acolyte...totsean will rip you up for that comment.

Ub3rMonk3y · #16 2008-12-05, 02:57

How about you worry about things in the relationship other than sex? Sex on a Birthday? That is FUCKING CHEESY. Get ahold of yourself and know this, the guy doesn't think of anything else during sex once it's fully inside. I would think it's ok to have sex alot more after I've taken her virginity because she won't say no... LOL wut?

Rykoshet · #17 2008-12-05, 03:00

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No, you're right.

Guys- you don't know. Grow a vagina first and then you can get back to me on which is more intimate.

It's the same fucking thing. As Tom said, it's a hole, SPECIFICALLY MADE FOR COCKS. And kids I guess...

Just look at it the other way. He's had HIS DICK in your mouth/ass, so what makes your vagina so different you stupid stuck-up cow.

Tom_Sawyer · #18 2008-12-05, 03:01

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No, you're right.

Guys- you don't know. Grow a vagina first and then you can get back to me on which is more intimate.

It's all opinion. It takes two people to have sex, the universe doesn't revolve around the girl. A man gives just as much of himself to her as she does to him, but somehow society has brainwashed everyone into thinking girls are supposed to keep their doors closed and guys are supposed to be dirty pigs.

EDIT: This gentleman beat me to making this point.

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Just look at it the other way. He's had HIS DICK in your mouth/ass, so what makes your vagina so different you stupid stuck-up cow.

And I think girls who suck a lot of cock are far sluttier than those who have sex. Have you ever got "caught up in the moment" and ended up taking his flesh wand in your mouth? No. You have to go out of your way to give a blowjob. Sex out of passion, to me, is far more virtuous than a quick cocksucking.

- Tom

anastaciadarling · #19 2008-12-05, 03:03

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It's the same fucking thing. As Tom said, it's a hole, SPECIFICALLY MADE FOR COCKS. And kids I guess...

Just look at it the other way. He's had HIS DICK in your mouth/ass, so what makes your vagina so different you stupid stuck-up cow.

don't get all angry. i can totally see your point. and there isn't much of a difference. there is just more you can do when you have 'sex' rather than just oral. oral can be so monotonous at times.
don't get me wrong though. sex is sex, but would you rather get head or have sex?

Rykoshet · #20 2008-12-05, 03:04

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don't get all angry. i can totally see your point. and there isn't much of a difference. there is just more you can do when you have 'sex' rather than just oral. oral can be so monotonous at times.
don't get me wrong though. sex is sex, but would you rather get head or have sex?

Get head.

Volcanbaru · #21 2008-12-05, 03:05

How about this?

Fuck him already.

Then practice some more.

When his birthday come by, give him the best sex he will ever have.

hooloovoo · #22 2008-12-05, 03:07

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It's the same fucking thing. As Tom said, it's a hole, SPECIFICALLY MADE FOR COCKS. And kids I guess...

Just look at it the other way. He's had HIS DICK in your mouth/ass, so what makes your vagina so different you stupid stuck-up cow.

Temper, temper...

Ass? You're the first to invoke anal...

Because oral is doing something to/for a guy where you are in control, and traditional sex is allowing a guy to do something to you- and in first-time cases, actually rip open a part of your body.

anastaciadarling · #23 2008-12-05, 03:07

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Get head.

honestly, wow. that is different.

Tom_Sawyer · #24 2008-12-05, 03:12

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Temper, temper...

Ass? You're the first to invoke anal...

Because oral is doing something to/for a guy where you are in control, and traditional sex is allowing a guy to do something to you- and in first-time cases, actually rip open a part of your body.

If I was having sex and my girlfriend did literally nothing (just as you are implying) then I would probably never have sex with that girl again. When you do it, you just lay there like roadkill and let him stick it in you? If that were the case, then you're right. But I'm gonna have to disagree with you and insist that females do, in fact, participate in the sack.

- Tom

Rykoshet · #25 2008-12-05, 03:14

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Temper, temper...

Ass? You're the first to invoke anal...

Because oral is doing something to/for a guy where you are in control, and traditional sex is allowing a guy to do something to you- and in first-time cases, actually rip open a part of your body.

No you fucking cunt, "traditional sex" is 2 people MUTUALLY interlocking body parts. Just because we have the shaft doesn't mean we "do it".

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honestly, wow. that is different.

No, it's not, check the "would you rather get head or have sex" thread. Head is sweet because all I have to do is close my eyes, lean back, and at the very end I may possibly have to aim.

Most women prefer cunnilingus too.

Transparent · #26 2008-12-05, 03:22

Buy a dildo, sit him down on a couch, striptease, play with dildo, see where the night takes you. Plus if you practice with the dildo beforehand, you won't be in as much pain when he sticks it in.

Edit- And although it may be cheesy, sex on a birthday would be awesome. Atleast I think it would be.

Silverfuck · #27 2008-12-05, 03:31

Have sex because you want to have sex, because you feel that you're ready and that he's the first person you want to be intimate with, not because you're bestowing upon him this magnificent gift, or because you think you're going to be together 4eva. You're setting yourself up for disappointment; while I entirely respect your decision and remain a virgin until you found the right person, don't expect it to be this orgy of romantic ecstasy or something.

hooloovoo · #28 2008-12-05, 03:34

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If I was having sex and my girlfriend did literally nothing (just as you are implying) then I would probably never have sex with that girl again. When you do it, you just lay there like roadkill and let him stick it in you? If that were the case, then you're right. But I'm gonna have to disagree with you and insist that females do, in fact, participate in the sack.

- Tom

Why on earth would they be mutually exclusive? I'm sure you'd say everytime you've fucked a girl, you're "doing something" to her- that doesn't mean the girl has always just lied there.

If I'm implying anything, it's that the guy isn't "doing" anything when he receives oral. As your friend seems to substantiate here-

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Head is sweet because all I have to do is close my eyes, lean back, and at the very end I may possibly have to aim.

Rykoshet · #29 2008-12-05, 03:34

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or because you think you're going to be together 4eva. You're setting yourself up for disappointment;

Astute observation or have the drugs gotten to my head?

Rykoshet · #30 2008-12-05, 03:35

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If I'm implying anything, it's that the guy isn't "doing" anything when he receives oral. As your friend seems to substantiate here-

He's doing a lot more than her if it's 69.

Or a blumpkin.

BlackSails · #41 2008-12-05, 09:51

I'd have respect for the OP if she wasn't sucking cock all the time. Fucking slut, disgusting.

anastaciadarling · #42 2008-12-05, 14:45

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No, it's not, check the "would you rather get head or have sex" thread. Head is sweet because all I have to do is close my eyes, lean back, and at the very end I may possibly have to aim.

Most women prefer cunnilingus too.

different to me

lbm · #43 2008-12-05, 14:52

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Get head.

whilst eating a sandwich prepared by her

Hazzard · #44 2008-12-05, 14:56

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whilst eating a sandwich prepared by her

STFU new arrival!

Tom_Sawyer · #45 2008-12-05, 14:59

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STFU new arrival!

Ahem... Look under your own fucking username, please.

- Tom

Agent 008 · #46 2008-12-05, 16:12

It doesn't matter, as long as you want it, and you're in a relationship that you plan to be long-term.

And since you say you've pretty much done everything else by now, it really doesn't matter. The only time it'd make a difference, is if you hadn't been with a man before at all.

So, enjoy it while it lasts.

Hengen · #47 2008-12-05, 21:05

Sex isn't something to be kept up on a pedistal. If you love the person you're with it's just a way of making your relationship more serious. You're obviously still a child though to be asking this kind of question.

I also agree that if you're comfortable enough to give him head you might as well have sex. If you've done everything except vaginal penetration then you're not much of a virgin to begin with. Virginity is just an idea to begin with, we're all fucked from the beginning.