So I made a thread about losing interest in her a couple days ago: http://www.totse.com/community/showthread.php?t=2177726

After giving it a lot of thought today I have decided to end the relationship. I know what I am going to say to her, but I don't know where to dump her. For scheduling reasons I don't see her that often in school and I never hang out with her right after school or walk in the halls with her. When we do things together its like going to a movie or each others house. Which creates a problem since if I pay for a movie I won't dump her until its over, and if I do it at her house it would be really weird since I would be stuck there until my dad could pick me up.

My best idea right now is to do it at the dance coming up this Friday. How would that be for doing it? It seems like it wouldn't be that good when I look at it, but location wise it's great and I can just find other people or go home after I do my deed. My other idea is to ask her to meet me in town and do it then, but its getting so cold out we wouldn't really walk around.

And last I want to do this before Christmas.

Quick question man:

How old are you, and do you live in a large city where you rarely see the same person in a week?

i want to know so that I feel better about where I live. It's rather small and isolated =/

And if you want to break up with her, do this:

Meet in person. Tell her why you've lost attraction with her. Tell her that you've both had some good times, but it would be a good idea to take a break from each other and become just friends. She'll probably understand.

Use instant transimission and take her to planet namek and just leave her there. Easy man.

Don't dump her at the dance, that's fucked. Do it beforehand in person.

I don't see what the problem with just meeting her in town for coffee is?

Dump her on myspace

"Im dumpin u lol".

Meet up with her for a drink and a chat in town, and do it then. Don't do it at the dance, that's a terrible idea.

OBVIOUSLY!!

Maybe you're kinda thinking too much about this? I mean, WHERE to break up?

Can't you just kinda...do it...
Even if you have to pull her to the side right quick 'cause you don't hang out much?

Oh my God, you are a fucking selfish piece of shit and I hope you die, you fuck.

She loves you a lot, and you think that the only thing that is important is how COMFORTABLE you are with the location of the break-up? You're a fucking cunt.

I bet Chichi is one of those "nice" guys You old dog you.

fuck fuck fuck

I don't know what I should do. I'm 16 and yes its very likely I will see her again since I don't have a car and live in a smallish town.

I wouldn't want to do it before the dance since it's a formal and I'll be buying her ticket. Right after the dance/during it she wants to go to her car... . So maybe while were walking to her car I could dump her. I think that if I do it before we start doing anything it isn't that much of a dick move. And while we are outside I can just sort of be like "hey can we talk for a sec."

This is really going to be my best opportunity, I could possibly do it on Sat. but I don't want to have to wait until the next weekend.

Having never done this before could I just pull her aside at any time when were alone and can talk? I want to make this as easy as possible for me, but still give her some consideration (which is why I'll do it in person).

Far from it.

I just think we can all agree that this guy is a total fucking cunt.

Agreed.

On that note...
this situation just kinda sucks for you. If you really want to break up with her that bad, I'd say do it as soon as fucking possible so you're not stuck in an awkward situation at some point in time where things can just blow up and go straight to hell.

So either really soon or wait after the actual dance thingy.

Liking to suck dick is not synonymous with nice.

I love hating you Chichi.

D-D-D-D-D-D-D-D-D-D-D-D-D-D-D-D-D-D-D-D-DOUCHE BAG!


I mean fuck man, if you're that cold you should just take it to the extreme. Wait until her birthday when her whole family is around. Right before she is about to blow out her candles just blurt out," I'm breaking up with you." "Bye." And then just leave.

This works too, I guess.

Fuck you maybe try giving some actual advice, that would be helpful you fag.

Basically the first half is just eating dinner, why is it so awful to do it after that? I think this would be the most opportune time to do it. Unless on the off chance I can catch her walking to her car after school. I don't really want to bail on going to the dance because I did tell her I would go, so after while were alone seems like a good time.

Edit: Colorsoc I want to do it early so that this isn't the situation. I don't want to fuck things up right before Christmas time and my opportunities are going away. I also don't want to dump her right after Christmas. I've determined I don't want to stay in this relationship so I don't want to get involved with celebrating a holiday with her especially since I know that I won't be fully commited.

Do you truly not see how breaking up with someone at a dance is fucked up and just plain stupid? Other than the fact that it's cruel to her, you live in a small town = if you do cold hearted shit to a girl it's gonna travel around your school = no more pussy.

Well, my gf broke up with her ex on their 6-month. Over the phone.

He cried alot.

So, the dance isn't SO bad...

He's a guy, and

* He remembered when their 6-month "anniversary" was.

* He cried on the phone.

Something just doesn't seem right here.

Ugh. Breaking up with her at the dance is the cruelest thing you can do.

You need to ask her to like...grab a coffee after school or something of that nature, basically an opportunity for you to drop the bomb without having to hang out with each other for extended periods before or afterwards. Just get the coffee, sit down, tell her you think you need to break up, you're sorry, and whatever you'd planned on saying, and then leave her to be upset. Don't dump her when she's all dolled up and expecting to have a fun night; that's a dick move.

Wow, I can't believe so many people are calling OP a dickhead for this. Breaking up is hard to do, don'tcha know?

Anyway, what I suggest you do is at the dance, there will be like a PA or something similar, right? So, roughly in the middle of the night, get up on the PA, and be like, "I have something I want to tell <girl's name>. <Girl's name> make your way to the centre of the floor."

Then when she gets there just be like "Listen, <girl's name>, I don't think we should see each other anymore, you know? But I think we could still be friends. That's all. Enjoy the dance everybody!"

Then you get off the PA and go to greet all of your adoring classmates.

Yeah, but once he gets the mike, he should really work her up for it. Start by saying things like "This is a special night, and I would like to tell you something. I can't believe how lucky I am to have met you, and I am glad you are here at this dance. <insert more stuff here that she will misinterpret>". And then, when she's all worked up, tell her you're breaking up with her.

I know it might be uncomfortable, but you gotta tough it out. Chances are she's been looking forward to this dance for a long time and is really excited about going with you. Let her have her fun but try not to give the impression that you're madly in love with her. Don't wreck her night but don't make it either, you know? Then, a couple of days after, take her out somewhere informal [a coffee shop is always a safe bet] and let her down easy. It's never a good idea to burn bridges. Using this scenario, she'll be left with fond memories of you but she'll know that it's over for sure. ABSOLUTELY DO NOT BREAK UP WITH HER RIGHT BEFORE OR DURING THE DANCE. Only bad will come of this, not just from her, but from her friends as well. If you ever want a chance at dating another girl in your town again you will not do this. Stories like that become infamous and totally smear your reputation.

u fucking prick, go find a hole and cut ur wrists until u bleed to death. The world needs less scum like u.

What kind of fucking fail would break up at a dance... just meet her in a park and tell her how u feel THAT IS if u have any kind of humanity or compassion left.

Her place, YOU ALWAYS break up at the other person's place.

DO NOT fucking break up at a coffee shop. When girls (perhaps guys) get hit on the head with such an emotional blow.....it doesnt matter where you are or how many people are around. They WILL start crying or getting loud or some emotional scene that will make it as dramatic as possible. Leaving you feeling like an idiot, as the surrounding people take her side because shes the "Injured one".

I admire that you want to break up to her face to face. I personally think Thats a good thing. Good luck

what??? he's a spineless cunt...

if he could get home straight away then her house would be fine..but there is nothing more awquard than staying at ur gf place after u dumped her...and it would be spineless to hell her just before he left.

Meet somewhere mutual and NOT a dance or other places where she is expecting something good to happen. Tell her something like..

"We have to talk about our relaionship, meet me at *some area* "

just be upfront, show some compassion and actually think before u do somethign stupid...

...wtf, only scum breaks up with a girl without warning or at a dance.

I bet your just going to end up txting her, " I'm breaking up with you, it's over." Or more realistically," im brkin up w/u."

Go to the dance with her and don't do it that night. Women care about that sort of shit and if you ruin that night for her she'll be pissed about it forever. If you end it the next day or something like that she'll have a positive memory of you and as long as you handle it well you won't fuck her up as bad.

Don't do it at school, if she's really into you she's likely to make a scene and embarass herself in front of everyone. Don't do it over the phone, text, or the internet. Also, do it on a Friday or Saturday. Just like getting fired from a job, people tend to take bad news better on the weekend. Plus if she's really upset it will give her a couple of days before she has to go out into public. You may not care but the least you can do for a girl who really likes you is have some concern for her feelings when you dump her.

This man for president.
I agree. OP, in all of your "schemes" of dumping her, every single one was:
1. Stupid
2. Spineless
3. Just plain out fucked up
"Oh let me dump my girlfriend at a dance" To any guy that HAS dumped a girl and has an IQ of 50+, they would know that that is the coldest and most fucked up thing you could ever do to her. Trying to squeeze a breakup into a little trip to her car? Stupid and poorly thought out. Why not just do it kindly and easier on the both of you, going to a quiet place and talking about it and giving her the reasons for breaking up without such a dickhead move involved?

Alright so I realize that doing it at the dance was a bad idea, I asked about it here so I would know if it was a truly bad idea (which it was so I won't do that.)

So the dance is on a Friday, Exothermia recommended dumping her the day after and doing it over the weekend. Which works out as a Saturday, should I wait longer after the dance? That would force me to do it on a Sunday/day of the week or wait until the next weekend.

As for the place I'm now thinking meeting her in town, I can tell her while were walking, and if she wants to keep talking its a 2 min. walk to the park.

To all the people that think I'm an ass I am asking here first so that I'm not an ass in real life. To the people with helpful responses thanks a lot you are being a great help with this situation.

Edit: if it seems like I don't know what I'm doing, I don't I've never dumped anyone before so cut some slack.

On a Friday? How long exactly is it till the dance?
I say you should talk to her and end it tomorrow or today.

Sorry the dance is this Friday, tomorrow the 5th.

fucking this

Pick up the fucking phone. Why drag this out? Tell her it's over. Life isn't as difficult as you're trying to make it. Push come to shove, take a fucking cab.

Douche.

Unfortunately my spaceship is broken so I can't travel to namek .

Right now I just need to know if dumping her the day after the dance is too soon/how long should I wait? Dance is this Friday. Thinking of dumping her Sat or Sun or waiting and doing it the Fri of next weekend.

And I know that in a couple months I'll look back and realize I was blowing this way out of proportion and making a huge deal out of nothing. But right now its just so important to me.

at the fucking least, next friday...

and use instant transmittion, not a fucking spaceship...that would take too long XD

Ah is it really bad if I do it this weekend?