She's independent.

She has a job, and is currently putting herself through school with little help from her parents.

We had a discussion a few weeks about me and the military, but there was no serious talk and answers to any solution. A more serious discussion will eventually take place, but for now, I'm enjoying the time with her.

It's also funny how you mentioned all that shit above, as my friend, who just recently toured Iraq, brought a military whore home on his leave; you know, the kind of girl who hangs out around the bases and leeches off the servicemen for their money, health benefits, and other shit. He dumped the bitch immediately and sent her packing after discovering that she has THREE kids at the age of 20, and with no job.

I'm only putting it so harshly because it's hard to understand that women can be so cruel.

"I put my life on the line and she's at home blowing my money and my friends?"

Sad but true. Just keep her in a position that if it fucks up, you stand to lose nothing. You'd rather come home to a nice saving anyway, use it to pay a down payment and start a life, rather than coming home from a stressful tour and having even more stress, less money because you're home and out of hazardous duty, and having a total lapse of organization and control over your life.

As little freedom as you have in garrison, it's so nice knowing you don't have to worry about anything. I get up at 5, PT, shower and shave, eat, more PT, drill, more PT, etc, and then I'm told lights out and bed. It takes the hardest part of life off your shoulders and gives you freedom to excel at what you're doing without worrying about little shit.

Hey, he doesn't have to break up, but keeping his money for himself is KEY.

Worst this that happens? He comes home, does a little snooping, finds out she's been a good girl, and rewards her materialistically because he's got so much cash left over.

Even if she's loyal, it's easy for a woman to get carried away when she knows a paycheck is coming and she's not doing shit all for it.

One itty bitty grocery shop turns into years of credit cards used for stupid shit.

Save yourself the legal hassle of trying to get it back now, keep that shit away from her, or send it to your parents.

I'm aware as to what money can do to a girl, but here's the thing.

She's not your stereotypical girl that expects everything in life, or as some people call it, your typical "Gold Digger". She's focused on school right now, and that's it, and I'm gladly supporting her every step of the way.

She never asks for anything, and if she does, it's extremely minor, such as a pack of cigarettes and what-not. Hell, I even asked her what she wanted for the holidays, and her answer was "To pass all her classes successfully and move on to next semester". I'm encouraging her as much as I can to stay in school and pursue her dreams, and she's doing a damn good job.

The military does make you good money, yes. I'm very good with finances, and plan on keeping it mostly all for myself, with the exception of helping out my dad who's currently busting his ass 16 hours of work each day, 6 days a week to pay off bills.

My goals are clear, you don't have to tell me anymore about that, but the question remains is how to talk to her about it before I actually leave.

I'm aware as to what money can do to a girl, but here's the thing.

She's not your stereotypical girl that expects everything in life, or as some people call it, your typical "Gold Digger". She's focused on school right now, and that's it, and I'm gladly supporting her every step of the way.

She never asks for anything, and if she does, it's extremely minor, such as a pack of cigarettes and what-not. Hell, I even asked her what she wanted for the holidays, and her answer was "To pass all her classes successfully and move on to next semester".

The military does make you good money, yes. I'm very good with finances, and plan on keeping it mostly all for myself, with the exception of helping out my dad who's currently busting his ass 16 hours a day of work to pay off bills.

Well then son you're off to a great start in life, and I wish you all the best.

Just remember your training, things can cluster fuck real bad real fast, so have someone keep and eye on shit while you're away. Hell, you can even check your finances yourself once a month or so, just to make sure it's all good. Put some money aside for her though, just to show you care (10% of a paycheck should be fine, if not excessive).

Also, for fucks sake, don't be a hero. IEDs are for the EOD or any Iraqi willing to make 20 bucks. They don't teach enough about mines like they used to, and chances are you're not going to find a nice little anti-personnel round but a nasty motherfucker with a half-dozen arty rounds attached to it. Leave it for the EOD or chase a dog onto it, don't attempt to defuse it out yourself.

Also, every decision you make will be the right one. Remember that. When you come home, be happy knowing you made all the right choices and you have no regrets.

I'm aware as to what money can do to a girl, but here's the thing.

She's not your stereotypical girl that expects everything in life, or as some people call it, your typical "Gold Digger". She's focused on school right now, and that's it, and I'm gladly supporting her every step of the way.

She never asks for anything, and if she does, it's extremely minor, such as a pack of cigarettes and what-not. Hell, I even asked her what she wanted for the holidays, and her answer was "To pass all her classes successfully and move on to next semester".

The military does make you good money, yes. I'm very good with finances, and plan on keeping it mostly all for myself, with the exception of helping out my dad who's currently busting his ass 16 hours of work each day, 6 days a week to pay off bills.

My goals are clear, you don't have to tell me anymore about that, but the question remains is how to talk to her about it before I actually leave.

You're worried about the wrong thing.

Even if she doesn't change. You will. That's what basic is all about.

The best thing to do is take it one baby step at a time, change at basic, when you come back for a bit see how things and if you would want to continue. But if you are out with the guys on leave or something(no idea) and you hit a bar or club, expect mass temptation..... you will have changed and you are still young, i KNOW hormones are going to be flying and I KNOW a lot of things will be worming in your head. Not many people settle down this young.

I'm not suggesting that you go out and start fucking random chicks. I'm saying the rest of your life is longer or shorter than you think.

You're worried about the wrong thing.

Even if she doesn't change. You will. That's what basic is all about.

The best thing to do is take it one baby step at a time, change at basic, when you come back for a bit see how things and if you would want to continue. But if you are out with the guys on leave or something(no idea) and you hit a bar or club, expect mass temptation..... you will have changed and you are still young, i KNOW hormones are going to be flying and I KNOW a lot of things will be worming in your head. Not many people settle down this young.

I'm not suggesting that you go out and start fucking random chicks. I'm saying the rest of your life is longer or shorter than you think.

Really, I don't find basic to be that much of a changer, though it depends on the person. You will be a lot more responsible and serious in the little details, but whether you'll change as a person deep down? Probably not, even after MOS school you won't change. Wait until the first deployment for the big change. It's just hard seeing all the assholes you meet in everyday society without wanting to punch them in the face.

Really appreciate the help guys.

I have a few weeks to think things over, so we'll see what happens.

If anyone else has input, feel free to leave it.

You're worried about the wrong thing.

Even if she doesn't change. You will. That's what basic is all about.

I don't think anyone else said it better. I can't tell you how many times I've heard "He was so sweet/different/laid back before he went to basic...".

Long distance relationships are extremely difficult. I have no idea how many nights I've spent crying alone because I have no idea whether he's okay and no way to contact him. If you're both willing and understand what you'd have to go through to stay with each other, then there is no reason why you couldn't stay together.

ummm its the military ur gone for months at a time while shes on a base surrounded by hot horny marines/army wtf u think is gonna happen lol

Officer's quarters are too posh for any real adultery to take place. It happens, but it's like the royal society amongst army wives.

Enlisted women form a sewing circle so large they could knit all the uniforms the military needs in a day's work. Seriously, most army wives are bored and love to meet up and gossip.

That said, he probably doesn't live on base considering he hasn't been to basic yet, and he probably won't live on base unless he chooses to, and he probably won't think about it until he's back from the first deployment.

You have to be married to live on base. It didn't sound like h e was thinking about that yet.

There's residences for bachelors, but good luck bringing a woman home to live with you full-time.

True there are the barracks/rooms. But yuck. Here you're not allowed to have guests stay alone there. You need a card key to get in. And they're shitty.

After a sleepless night thinking about everything, the time is nigh to have a talk with her, as well as a few key family members and friends.

I appreciate all the reponses everyone has given in this thread. It's time to take matters into my hands and get the ball rolling.

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Dump her ass and focus on the USMC, we don't want little lover boys in the Marines, we want hardcore emotionless machines that take orders and do what their told, having a girlfriend while in the Marines will only make it harder and pull you down.

If you want to be in love, drop out NOW.

Why don't you join the marine core?

............................Ok do what you want.

My woman and I have a very strong relationship. When I'm gone, she misses me. When I come back, we fuck. She works, but my job pays way more. She can't complain, and she doesnt.

Tell her that you're not breaking up so much as, "departing". That way she can enjoy herself while you're gone and when you get back you can give it another shot.

Yea, I might. But I want to make sure I want to give 110% of myself for it before I sign up, I wouldn't want some pussy who wants to go home and be a bitch fighting beside me. I don't think you would want someone like that by you either.

Does anyone else remeber that guy in the ending of Animal House, "shot by his own troops in Vietnam"?

I just got back from MCRD San Diego, and let me just say there's at least a 50% chance you'll get a Dear John letter at boot camp anyways, so just tell Susie to wait around for you, maintain contact in the mail, etc. but at any time be expecting that letter. Have a nice day of IT and fuck-fuck games, and when you finally think you can unwind with some SDI square away time? BAM! Jody is balls deep in your girl while your in the rain room with 80 naked recruits and 20 shower heads.

Also, don't believe that bullshit about boot camp turning you into a hardass. I came back and people were amazed at how mellow I had become. After boot camp the vast majority of petty bullshit things civilians complain about are just slightly amusing, and you'll notice it too and think what a dumbass you must have been before bootcamp.

In the mean time, use your time in the DEP wisely and good luck. Hopefully I'll see you in the fleet.

At least if you were in the army you'd learn some cadences about how Jody doesn't fuck with 11Bs instead of going on about eskimo pussy all day.

Yea, I might. But I want to make sure I want to give 110% of myself for it before I sign up, I wouldn't want some pussy who wants to go home and be a bitch fighting beside me. I don't think you would want someone like that by you either.

:)

BTW, its "Corps" not core.

Really? Oh well im Canadian we don't learn bout the marines or watch the commercials.

Really? Oh well im Canadian we don't learn bout the marines or watch the commercials.

Yeah we do. We get a shitload of marine commercials on TV, the best was the guy who fights the big fire demon and then turns into a marine.

And we have our own commercials.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5K69jwRkm04

Yeah we do. We get a shitload of marine commercials on TV, the best was the guy who fights the big fire demon and then turns into a marine.

And we have our own commercials.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5K69jwRkm04

It's not in the curriculum here in Ontario. They don't play Marine commercials on Canadian television networks? Why would they? CNN is the closest thing to a commercial that talks about marines.

Wont work out.

It's not in the curriculum here in Ontario. They don't play Marine commercials on Canadian television networks? Why would they? CNN is the closest thing to a commercial that talks about marines.

Because 90% of TV we get is american?

Never watch football, hockey, etc? Movies on AMC, TBS, etc.

It's not taught in the curriculum in Ontario, but nothing really is. How do you not know the difference between Marine Corps and Marine Core?