And my husband is being a real dick about it. He keeps preaching that it's a "bad idea" and that I have "no follow through" and stuff like that. It's really pissing me off! I wish he could just be happy for me instead of trying to sabotage my efforts to better myself. He freaks out about everything...Like when I started babysitting for extra money and then when I started selling my cookies and jam at the farmers market and now that I want to go to school. I feel like he just wants to keep me a prisoner, stuck in the house waiting for him to get home all day.

I've been a homemaker for 10 years...I just want to do something different...Something that sctually requires brain power. His negativity is really taking it's toll. It makes me all depressed and I don't want to even talk to him about it, but then I feel sad and resentful, because I want to share things with him.

What do you guys think?

Well just ask him why this is bothering him..

Also, what do you think you will be taking?

talk to a divorce lawyer, sounds like he has some issues that might seriously impact your well being and development as a person. why are people so damn crazy?

Your name fits you well.

GTFO off totse worthless acolyte

unfortunately same thing can't be said about u

Have you thought about couple's counseling? He sounds too controlling to be able to discuss it just between the two of you.
What if you met with your husband and your shrink and tried to discuss it calmly between the three of you?

Your husband is an asshole, and a control freak. You need to do something about it.

How old are you and him?

I'm 28 and he's 33. We've been married for almost 11 years.

come back when you think of something original/funny to say.

is the college ur going to far away or close to where u live? or he could be upset about the cost. or like previous posts, hes a asshole.

Seriously, any third party would tell you that he's an immature, controlling, jealous prick. Typical army guy: tough on the outside but still a little boy inside. Any man that controlling has no confidence in himself.

Do it, be up front about it. He needs to understand that he can't walk all over you. I would really suggest counselling, or it's just gonna get worse. What kind of selfish ass of a man holds back someone he loves?

It's your life. Do what you please. Assert yourself girl.

Sounds like he has the old fashioned mindset that the male is the breadwinner and that the wife should stay home and clean. Calmly explain to him that although you respect his opinion in this instance he should keep it to his fucking self. Life is temporary.

I'm waiting for the ol' "You say this on an internet forum, but wait until you get married to an army fag, you'd get mixed, cut up and destroyed."

You know how I feel about your husband by now I'm sure, so I won't say much, except tell him to go fuck himself. Have fun at college! Good luck!

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We are alone, absolutely alone on this chance planet; and, amid all the forms of life that surround us, not one, excepting the dog, has made an alliance with us. - Maurice Maeterlinck

This. If you're with a guy like that you probably have some issues too. Counseling will fix a lot of the issues. Until then, make sure to openly communicate with him.

Uhh, why the fuck do you want to go back to college?

If you want to do something that uses your brain, get a job that actually uses your brain, instead of spending money to go to school.

you're breaching his comfort zone. you're stepping away from your homemaking role.
by going to college you're doing your "own thing" and he doesn't want stuff to change and for you to grow independent of him.

that how i see it.

so what are you going to do after college? probably work.... again doing your own thing and perhaps not concentrating on him and the home in as much depth as you currently do.

has he gone to college? if not perhaps he sees it as an attempt "to wear the pants".

did you make an effort to including him, ask for opinions go to open day with him and that stuff or were you more "this is what I'm doing and that that"...... make him feel needed.


This is the problem with the American lifestyle, women consider themselves equal to men and assume that men also think that. In reality men really want to control their women. sure when its only boyfriend/girlfriend everyones says "do whatever you want, honey" but after they get married, men just want to settle down and have a wife that will do what is suggested.

The art of manipulation is dead to "modern women", if they want something, they just lay their cards on the table and say "this is what i'm doing. don't like it? Tough!". The days of gently wearing down a man into submission or coercing him into acceptance are over. man doesn't get a say in what his wife is doing.

In the real world, life isn't like what you see on friends, sex and the city or whatever. In the real world, none of the characters from sex and the city would ever have gotten successfully married. they would have been labeled whores and just women to "fuck around with".

The sooner women understand that if they think they are equal and everyone pretends they are equal it doesn't actually mean they ARE equal the better. feminists never marry, think about that.

I sort of went off on a tangent....none of the last four paragraphs are necessarily directed at you, Xiao Mei. I just wanted to put it out there.

You're fucking retarded.

Fucking.

Retarded.

thats what happens when you get married at 17

Who says I want to get a job? Anyway, the only thing my husband hates more than the idea of me going to college, is the idea of me getting a JOB. Also, I don't have to pay for it. I'm getting tuition assistance from the Air Force.

No marriage is perfect, dood.

I can tell you exactly why he hates the idea of you going to college.

He knows damn well that at least one of the profs will be an older guy with a beard.

With in a month you'd be knicker wetting at the thought of taking his class, won't you?

No I know you'd never be unfaithful and I'm sure deep down your husband knows it too but...

^^^^^^


College = sex.


Lots and lots and lots of sex.

You might be right...Except about the beard part.:P

older guy with beard? lolwut!

frat boys is where its at

haha. if she really does that she'll be one cool hombre in my book

You've only got one, despite what religious nuts say. Do NOT spend your life being controlled by some power-freak. Your daughter is at school, you can do as you like. Never let ANYONE tell you what to do.

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Jeez whats with all the negativity. You know you got it well, and it could be a lot worse. Like your husband could be in fact, your father who locks you up in his basement for 25 years and bares him 13 children.
People these days no longer have any appreciation.

sorry, you don't want to go to college to learn, you want to go to college to socialize. This isn't necessarily bad, but considering there are probably a lot of young, handsome, arrogant and athletic men at college there's a pretty good chance you'll "Fall in love"and leave him.

Women are just not in control of themselves. You're 20 fucking 8, it's too late to decide you want to go to college. If you're really that desperate to learn and better yourself, use all the tuition money for books and just read.

ZOMG!! 28 is so old!! I must only have like...10 years left before I just dry up and DIE.

And given my advanced age, I can't imagine that any hawt, young guy would even look at me. Dood, I could almost be like his mother. 20 fucking 8...I'm practically a grandma!

Well, at least you know it.

if u were to go back would it be for a masters or up to a doctorate? cus u said u have already received ur bachelors, correct?

WTF?! I went back to college aged 38 and given the chance I'd go back again.

Hey don't get so down on yourself. Your mouth is still nice...

Nah I'm just fucking around I bet your vag is still nice too.

I dropped out after 3 years, so no bachelors.

God, Jack...Did you need a cane to get around? How were you even still ALIVE at 30 fucking 8??:P

would u just go back for another year, or would u have to start all over? cus that would really blow to start all over.

Yes. I am 29 and I want to go back to college too (in fact by the time I get in I will be 30).