Don’t get me wrong, I love my boyfriend and he seemingly loves me back. There’s just one problem: business comes before I do. He doesn’t have an official job, but he deals weight. A lot of it. I’m always just feeling like his business comes first, no matter what. I understand he does his own thing, and that doesn’t bother me in the slightest, I myself used to sell a lot, this isn’t about that. I just feel like he puts me after all of the money and other shit, like I’m second to it. I just feel like if I’m good enough to profess love to and stick his dick into, I’m good enough to prevail over his petty-drug dealing.

Example: I was over at his apartment the other day, and we were doing whatever we normally do, but then his friend came over with outrageous amounts of marijuana and since then, I don’t even cross his mind. He literally hasn’t called me since.

It’s just about who he can sell to and who he can make money off of, I never buy from him because of irrelevant reasons, so he isn’t staying with me for that.

Am I wasting my time with this one? He’s sweet, really he is. I just feel like once the bud starts flowing, I’m absolutely nothing. It’s all about the money.

Anyway, I’m trashed...tell me how it is, totse. Obviously I’m desperate if I’m asking literally totse.dot.fucking.com for advice. Jesus.

Since he's a dealer I'm going to assume he's either in his teens or immature and needs a real fucking job.

Either way, I wouldn't make a big deal out of it, plenty more fish in the sea. Go one better - one with a job and a nice car, with friends that like to go out doing fun things, not sitting in a house smoking green and slowly dying of lung cancer and vitamin D deficiency.

I'm glad you were desperate enough to entertain me for about 2 seconds until I realized how boring the your thread was.

Moving on from that. He could just be really ambitious. If he's trying to make a living out of it then he might have to put as much effort or time into it as a real job. You have your busy days at work for real jobs and he could get the same. I'll give you the answer that you already know. Bring it up with him and see how he reacts. Just tell him what you put in your post minus the &t shit.

I bet you do drugs aswell.

Anyway, I’m trashed...tell me how it is, totse. Obviously I’m desperate if I’m asking literally totse.dot.fucking.com for advice.

Wouldn't that be totse(dot)dot(dot)fucking(dot)com. You don't even know the url of the webpage you're on.

In regards to your question, he sounds like he has his priorities. Play second (then third, then fourth) fiddle, or leave. It's up to you. If he values dealing more than he does you then he has probably been smoking too much of his merch.

Do dealers smoke their own stuff? I thought that was taboo?

And sweetheart, he has every right to put business in front of you because if he gets busted because princess wanted some time alone it would be your fault. Think deeper instead of fucking deeper alright?

You should buy pot from him. He gets to deal, you get a scrap of attention.. everybody wins.

suprised no one's said it...

money over bitches

If he's dumb enough to keep his stash at home then he deserves to get busted.

Saline, I hope you listen to me about this, I know of lots of people that deal weight and lots of people whom have dealt weight. Now, I can't remember correctly but I believe you're like 23 or somewhere in your 20's which is important for what I have to say.

If your boyfriend has no further plans then to deal you may want to rethink the relationship. Dealers do NOT make it at life, if he hasn't considered school or a REAL job than you are in for a hurting. Everybody gets caught dealing given enough time. If his plan was to make a quick dollar to move on to something else, stay out of the way and let him do what he has to do. If he's just buying and reselling always to make money, you REALLY need to move on, not as much money in the dope game as you'd think, especially since it's dirty money.

Can't really buy a house with drug money, can't buy a car, you WILL get fucked on your taxes. Take it from me, although I'm not a dealer, I have done other illegal things which gained me large sums of cash. Although all the cash is nice, you can't exactly live off of it. Can't pay rent for too long off of it, can't buy a house with it, etc. (that is unless he's some big time mother fucker... which I know he's not).

Really, it may be fun, but if you're looking for the long run, it's really not a good idea...


Sorry this post kinda sucked... got punched in the head a lot today at the gym so I'm not totally with it...


Gonna come back and finish this when I'm all the way here.

Oh boy, do I have the goods for you honey...

http://streetbonersandtvcarnage.com/blog/guide-to-dating-a-drug-dealer/

The Guide to Dating a Drug Dealer

he doesn't give a fuck about you. he uses your vagina as a distraction when he is dry on schwag.

The man has bills to pay, god damn. If you were at work, you wouldn't completely stop working and focus on your boyfriend if he happened to walk through the door? No, your ass would get fired. He may not have a boss but my point still stands, albeit crookedly.

If he's dumb enough to keep his stash at home then he deserves to get busted.

Well I know that but that isn't the question now is it.

If he is a "dealer" you can bet he has other women who occupy his time as well.

I do believe your experiencing, something called "money over hoes"... something like that. Good luck/

http://streetbonersandtvcarnage.com/blog/guide-to-dating-a-drug-dealer/

The Guide to Dating a Drug Dealer

Why would someone ever write something this long about total nonsense...

Why would someone ever write something this long about total nonsense...

How much of the drug world makes sense?

I bet you do drugs aswell.

You lose

I lulzed. At one point a friend and I were moving everything we could find, as fast as we could to make some money. I also had a strict rule about no one coming over when my girl was around, because I didn't need her worrying that everytime I went out with my friend I may have ended up in jail/the hospital. The only time anyone was dumb enough to break that rule, it was 3'o'clock in the morning and my chick had already gone to bed. I told him in a polite way to leave, and not come back. The last thing I wanted my chick to know was that I was pushing. Then again, unlike my friend, I wasn't flashing money around, buying expensive shit and having to use it as a draw for women.

Not all dealers are total scumbag addicts, the only guys I've ever met like the ones she detailed were assholes out of the big cities who thought they were hot shit. Most of the guys I've met who do it, you'd never suspect. The only real good point was (G). If you're dealing with guys with plans, don't talk about the fucking plans. If you're not a direct part of it, fucking forget about it. If you're with a "hardcore" dealer, memorizing the faces of the guys he uses to do his dirty work is probably a good thing.

To the OP: If he's moving weed as his only source of income, he's kind of a loser anyways. Talk to him about it, see if he realizes he's doing it. If he doesn't, then problem's likely solved, if he does... well, that's your can of worms to play with.