i have been going out with this girl for a year and a half. ok, unless im in middle school or lower (im not) , i should be having regular sex by ANY standards. I AM STRUGGLING TO HANG TO SECOND BASE. we had been borderline third for about a month, then inexplicably she went all the way back to somewhere between first and second for no reason. i honestly don't know why she did it. ever since she went back she has been stuck there. she wont do anything. i can understand not wanting to show me her tits or whatever when my parents are home even if they are downstairs, but her reason for not moving foreward is that "its just wierd".she wont admit that something feels good unless i literally force her to. she likes it when i grind my knee into her when we kiss, but she wouldn't admit it, so i held her down (she like that too) and threatened to do it (she dosen't like me doing it because it feels like its "just wierd") untill she admitted it. a while ago she admited that she was and is bi. dont know if thats helpfull, but it might affect any analysis or suggestions.

She's not ready
She's not into you like that
You need to get your own place
You come on too strong/ scare her

So many possible reasons. Why don't you try talking to her?

yeah, i have. she said i dont know every time. she literaly has NO reason (that she will tell me or even let on) not to do stuff.

Dump her.

considering it... i really love her, but there are just somethings that i expect after a year...

No it's not that.

I personally cannot stand girls who are/claim to be bi.

Sounds to me like she has a phobia of being physically close, or shes finding it hard to get in touch with her body, and doesn't really know wtf is going on or how to deal with it. I'd suggest her talking to someone about it cause there's obviously some block somewhere she needs to recognise and get to the root of.

You stuck around a year and a half too long.

ya, ive suggested that she talk to someone, but she is really, well, afraid, of talking to anyone about anything private like that.

i would never date a bi chick, that just doubles my number of competition.

eh, she figured she was bi after we had already started going out. anyway she doesn't act on it at all. i forget about it half of the time.

If you really care about her and are willing to wait about another year (that's probably how long it would take to get her to get over her fear or whatever with pschological help) then hang in there and try to get her someone to talk to. Otherwise, dump her.

Fuck man...18 months with no sex.

I have no input.

After a year and a fucking half, there are only three potential reasons that stick out in my mind.

1) She got raped pretty bad as a kid, and now gets flashbacks whenever you guys get close.

2) She's asexual.

3) She's not at all attracted to you and is only with you because it's benefiting her in some way. If so she's probably banging like three other dudes.

1) She got raped pretty bad as a kid, and now gets flashbacks whenever you guys get close.

This happened to a girl I know. She was scared to do anything more than kissing a guy up until she was about 17, but she got it on with her boyfriend after about 8 months.

If your fucking girlfriend of a year and a half thinks it's too "weird" to get physical with you, then just fucking dump her. Find someone who appreciates you.

This happened to a girl I know. She was scared to do anything more than kissing a guy up until she was about 17, but she got it on with her boyfriend after about 8 months.

If your fucking girlfriend of a year and a half thinks it's too "weird" to get physical with you, then just fucking dump her. Find someone who appreciates you.

Damn straight.

Owned, i took my girlfriends virginity last night.

Sounds exactly like a chick i was dating, attempt to just fuck her. she will like it, or she will pay.

Also attempt to break off all contact if she doesnt put out ASAP.

And find a girl who doesnt find a penis scary.

EDIT: The chick I was dating was raped about 8 months before dating me..
Yeah, im insensitive. -.-

You could always stick with her & find another girl on the side to service your "needs". I've heard that in some other countries, eg: Mexico/South America & an article I read about Egypt, girls offer up the Asshole so that they can be virgins for marriage. In Egypt (apparently...) there are girls who Ho their butts but refuse the vaginal for just that reason. They make good coin to start their own families, but remain "virginal" & thus: cool.

"Ooh! You've had it up the butt a 100x but have a Hymen and a good bank account to boot. You are just the girl to marry my son!" :D

Though? Perhaps she's doing some pervy adult already? Eg: her dad/uncle/teacher... Has she said she wants to "wait until she's married"? If she has. Just because you think that that is old fashioned & irrelevant: doesn't mean that your philosophy should overrule her's.

"Your philosophy is old fashioned & thus stupid. Thus: it doesn't count! Only what I want counts."

Well, just how old are you guys?

If you are like 15 and under, I understand.

But if you guys have hit 16 and shes still not willing, something is going wrong inside her head.

Is she a virgin? Are you?

She's going to leave you.

maybe she's anatomically incorrect

maybe she's anatomically incorrect

Oh WAN.

You slay me, you funny little chink you.

I have a new suggestion. I have been in a similar position to this girl, and from the sounds of it she is a virgin. Maybe she just doesn't feel comfortable with you because she doesn't think of you as respectful to her and doesn't want to be forced into it. I imagine this scenario from the thread title being "Bitch wont put out" but that's just me, and granted I did read that you said you love her. Maybe she enjoys having the support of a relationship but isn't actually sexually attracted to you.
Either way, if you're not satisfied with the relationship then there's probably no reason to continue it if she hasn't expressed an interest in sleeping with you, and that seems to be the basis of a relationship you're looking for. Find some other bitch who will put out for you.

Oh WAN.

You slay me, you funny little chink you.

is that my new nickname?

you can tell someone's a virgin by the sounds she makes?

you can tell someone's a virgin by the sounds she makes?

Yeah typically,

"fuck fuck fuck OW GOD DAMNIT FUCKIN OW YOU SONOFABITCH!"

tehe

It's nice to hear about a girl who doesn't put out within the first 2 months.

Yeah typically,

"fuck fuck fuck OW GOD DAMNIT FUCKIN OW YOU SONOFABITCH!"

tehe

yeah that's uhm, pretty funny...







for a woman, LAWL

yeah that's uhm, pretty funny...







for a woman, LAWL

Shut up you silly little chink

Shut up you silly little chink

when they call me chink that's how i know they are really mad

Sounds like exactly the kind of girl I'm looking for. You're fortunate to have found a girl you can be with without having any sexual component to your relationship.

If you want to try and get her to go to third base try convincing her that you want to give her a backrub or something of the like in the shower. BUT actually do that for about 15 minutes.

this. lol i belieave

Let's see the possibilities:
1. She was raped or molested
2. She's not attracted to you
3. You're ugly
4. You have a small dick
5. She's a virgin
6. She doesn't want to fuck a totse member
7. She's young and/or not ready
8. She's religious

If it hasn't happened in a year and a half it's probably not going to happen ever.

yeah we are both 16.

yeah we are both 16.

Hey birdybop, why don't you just ask her instead of posting on totse?

hahaha. yeah, honestly i put that title with the thought that it would make more people actualy read it and post replys...

Hey birdybop, why don't you just ask her instead of posting on totse?

you think i havent?
im not quite that ignorant.

hahaha. yeah, honestly i put that title with the thought that it would make more people actually read it and post replies...

Fail.

you think i havent?
im not quite that ignorant.

Then you fail. If she doesn't want to fuck you, there is nothing you can do to change the situation.

Fail.

i know...

Dude, just go to her and say something like "Man* I've been with you for a year and a half. I've given you a year and a fucking half of my time, and not only do you not trust me to TOUCH you, but you don't even truest me enough to talk about WHY? If you're not willing to work on this, then it looks like we're done."

*Call her sweetie or something, I just said that because I address my girlfriend as man/dude.

lol gay undertones :o

lol yeah, the reason a virgin won't have sex is because his penis is too small. That makes a lot of sense. I know most girls want a horse cock their first time.

And OP you should talk to her about it. But not in the same way you have been. Kinda imply you NEED to see the relationship progress. Personally I would have dumped her a long time ago. A year and half and she still won't show you her tits? Thats pretty fucking weird.

lol yeah, the reason a virgin won't have sex is because his penis is too small. That makes a lot of sense. I know most girls want a horse cock their first time.

Some girls have standards.

Some girls have standards.

Like you would know. A virgin wouldn't care about cock size, and if she did, she would probably prefer a smaller one to a big one. Virgins experience pain and bleed their first time, their not looking to rip their pussy in half by fucking a 9 inch cutecumber.

Like you would know. A virgin wouldn't care about cock size, and if she did, she would probably prefer a smaller one to a big one. Virgins experience pain and bleed their first time, their not looking to rip their pussy in half by fucking a 9 inch cutecumber.

I do know. And you shouldn't take totse so seriously.

I do know. And you shouldn't take totse so seriously.

Why so serious!!?!?!?! Why so serious!>?!?!??@??@!!

That better?

She was probably sheltered as a child and has some conflicting views on sexual intimacy. Think about this next time you shake her dads hand. Anyways, try to open her up through conversation, etc. Sorry I cant offer more specific advice.

Fuck you wan.

Fuck you wan.

Yeah, this too.

lol yeah, the reason a virgin won't have sex is because his penis is too small. That makes a lot of sense. I know most girls want a horse cock their first time.

haha, no, i'm not small. not gigantic by any standards, but not small. besides, how would she know. its not like she's blowing me or anything. it is pretty pathetic. i would have broken up with her long ago, but i really love her when we are on a date or somewhere that all of this doesn't even cross my mind.

Well personally I would dump her. You also probably don't love her. Shes just your first real girl friend so it seems that way.