Been smoking (weed) for about 5 months and have managed to hide this from them this whole.

Today i left my roach in my pocket in my pants in the bathroom and they fell out; my dad found it.

Basically he just came into my room whilst i was playing computer games (gunz online).

He asked if it was mine- i hesitated, but quickly realised i could not and should not lie my way out of this.

I like smoking weed but i hate going behind my parents back, and at this point in time i wonder if it was all worth it.

Despite the semantics behind the morality/ethics morality of drugs i can imagine that they must be quite gutted that i went against their wishes, considering all that they do for me.

My parents have this world view that drug users are all immoral losers who have no brain cells, they no im not like that because they live with me- i go to uni, have a job, i cook and help out soemtimes around the house and im very easy to deal with /get along with especially compared to my brother and sister who have strong personalitys.

Im a bit acared to even go out of my room at the moment, despite my dad acting quite calm about it- he didnt seem hostile or dissapointed or anything. he asked how much i use it i said about once a week, but kind of stuttered and didnt make eye contact so i dont know how he interpretted that.

My justification for my use will be that im a shy and introverted person- they know this is how i am. Everyone needs some fulfilment; most people my age go out and get wasted and party with their freinds, play sport etc. I prefer to stay at home and play some games, listen to music, read, write and be at one with my thoughts.

I think they understand that i am anti-social, they never try to pressure me to try and be more social or give me shit about it, but im sure how they are going to take this.

They are quite conservative christians; although they have relaxed alot in their parenting since i turned 18; and i think they will see this is a path i have chosen intrinsically and voluntarily, but they definitly wont be happy having an illicit substance in their house.

My dad said "dont bring that into the house" but didnt say anything like" wtf are you doing this for your going to ruin your life and end up on the streets" or anything. If my uni results arent good i think i will be very fucked over.
There aer many people in my family who my mum doesnt get along with, and i only ever see one of my aunties- alot of them use drugs and i think they associate this with being a bad person.

I dont think im going to preach to them about how marijuana has been scapegoated by corrupted people- i dont want to seem like a druggie.

i dunno man - help me totse

so what's your question?

Your parents seem to respect you, respect them by not smoking in their house...or move out and get a fucking life, either way.
oh and dont blog here.

im lazy and anti social, i dont want a "life", i work 10 hours a week and thats good enough for me i dont want to slave away just so the media monkeys and the junkie junkies can invite me to their plastic pantomime.

and i dont smoke in their house, i smoke outside. but it is stored in their house; thats were i live.

well if you have any bud left dispose of it by smoking it asap.... in case they decide to freak the fuck out as soon as you get out of your room...

my parents freaked a bit about weed, my room was torn all to fuck and i got grounded for a week...

if they found the 3 remaining hits of lsd in my room.... i really don't know how they would react, i would probably just tell them exactly why i do it... and i imagine they would come back with the "your going to go crazy and think you can fly and jump out of a window, or think your a glass of orange juice forever" shit... and then they would probably go on about the possibility of flashbacks and bad trips...

i have a brand new unused bubbler in my room, if they found that and took it i would be fucking pissed... "what is this?", "well mom, that would be a piece of glass sold as a tobacco pipe... given that no illegal substances have been put into it it is perfectly legal for me to own"... my bowl would be a completly different story, that piece has quit a bit of residue in it...

im lazy and anti social, i dont want a "life", i work 10 hours a week and thats good enough for me i dont want to slave away just so the media monkeys and the junkie junkies can invite me to their plastic pantomime.

and i dont smoke in their house, i smoke outside. but it is stored in their house; thats were i live.

So you dont work hard at your job. You dont work hard at school (I assume since you dont how well you're doing). And you dont go out to socialize, but you stay at home and play videogames instead. And you think they're going to be understanding about your drug use?

No offense, but you describe yourself as the posterboy for why you shouldnt smoke pot in the first place.

My advice:
Move out. Work more than 10 hours a week, save up some money, find a roommate or two, and get a place where you can live and smoke guilt free.

Oh, and whether or not you smoke in the house really isn't the question. They dont want it in the house at all, right? So if you dont want to disrespect them you can either move out, quit smoking, or stash your weed in a hollowed out rock in the park.

My justification for my use will be that im a shy and introverted person- they know this is how i am. Everyone needs some fulfilment; most people my age go out and get wasted and party with their freinds, play sport etc. I prefer to stay at home and play some games, listen to music, read, write and be at one with my thoughts.

NO NO NO! THIS IS BAD!

I tried that excuse out, parents don't like that they think you are medicating your depression with drugs that are bad. Say you enjoy kicking back, you don't let it effect you, nor does it. YOU ARENT A MINOR FAGGOT

They are quite conservative christians; although they have relaxed alot in their parenting since i turned 18; and i think they will see this is a path i have chosen intrinsically and voluntarily, but they definitly wont be happy having an illicit substance in their house.

My mother is a hardcore Christian, but before this she used tons of drugs. Not all Christians wern't drug users. Closed minded piece of shit.

Don't try to convince them of anything. Once people hit a certain age, it's very hard to change their opinions on things like religion or drugs. Just let them know that you don't do any "hard drugs", smoke just for fun, and are not addicted to anything. When my parents discovered I smoked pot, they were worried that I had done harder drugs like heroin and that it would make me not care about anything in life. I told them it helps me focus (which is true) and that it is better and healthier than alcohol for relaxing. They didn't seem to have a problem with it, and told me the same thing of "Don't do it in the house". Which I can fully respect. Their house, their rules. You can get them in trouble with the law if someone reports it.

Get the fuck off your computer you make drug user in general look bad. Stop playing fucking video games, what the fuck do you accomplish with that shit. With a lifestyle like the one your living your bound to end up a 40 year old virgin. You need to move out and get some friends.

stop being a pussy

i got busted a billion times and now my mom has a medical card and I get ounces of free bud every month

First of all this really doesn't belong here and if any other mod feels this should be closed, don't let me stop you.

Now, be honest with yourself. You do pot because you like to get high. Pure and simple. Anything else you said was rationalization bullshit.

You should respect your parents wishes and not bring drugs and such into their house.

That's not to say you won't. Just be as careful as you can. Try to respect them as much as you can.

My parents didn't want me to bring pot or alcohol into their house, yet I did. All the time. But I kept it low key. Most of the time at least.

Tell your parents to go get educated about the cannabis plant. Hide your bud outside of your house in a waterproof container and smoke discreetly. Anyone who thinks bud is a big problem in our society should realize its already being decriminalized in a lot of places. Medical just passed for my state(michigan) and it is already in place in 11 others i believe. Free the plant! Lets all make some money!

You're a lucky bastard, it's gonna be years before england sees sense and legalizes or at least goes medical.

I didn't realize that more than 1 or 2 states had it medical in USA?

Also you're bound to get some decent mary now that people are allowed to grow it, Are you allowed to grow in your own home if you have a medical card? I read somewhere like 3 or 5 plants or something.

well there were some helpful replies, and as usual immature egotistical unhelpful replies.

Let me make something clear- just because you cant stand the thought of ever paying attention to the neutral spaces between your cognition (aka moments of silence) doesn't mean i don't place value on this. Just because you are extroverted doesn't mean i am a "loser" because im introverted.

The real losers are those that fail to recognize that there is slim to no difference between virtual reality and "reality", the actions we take in any reality or state are of no significance; only the intentions behind them.

As a spiritually developing being i see these interactions with others as a constraint against my intrinsic development.

I dont know if you have heard of Siddhārtha Gautama. he is also known as the buddha; and he realised that before he could be of any use or purpose and to have good intentions he must separate himself from external factors that seek to control and undermine that notion (i.e. a government).

Now just because because you are ignorant or in disagreement with an introverted philosophy does not mean you have to hate on the path i have taken in mine; i wont name names but you people know who you are. This material artificial world means nothing to me, why should i go out and pretend i care about those who embrace it.

I have freinds; i do socialize occasionally ( i suppose you could say my version of moderately).

You cant understand someone from a single forum post, yet alone many forum posts or even a life long kindred relationship, so please just keep on topic so i don't have to go off topic justifying myself. Please be more aware of your ethnographic bias.

Now more on topic- update.

I had a small chat with my dad and he was very understanding, he didn't lecture me so much on the ethics of the situation- but stressed being careful due to the illicit nature of marijuana. I would say the fact that they have not seen any drastic change or "going downhill" during the time i have been smoking is evidence that it has not been a negative impact and that they can see this, my dad even offered me alcohol as a substitute :). Although im quite sure they are far from being pro drugs or pro marijuana, and would definitely prefer that i do not indulge in it, if i do use it they wont be supportive, but they will be tolerant.

And to the poster who made the criticism of my grades: you obviously are uneducated and have not been to university- uni has two semesters, i just finished my last.

I know semester 1 results aswell as my internals for the second semester and i have a B average.

edit: to aces n 8.

i dont have any zealous in my work but i do in my university, because im studying what i want to spend my life doing, but i work at a pizza shop and after being there for almost two years i am not very zealous about it- i hope you can understand that.

I have long term goals within this material nature.

Now, be honest with yourself. You do pot because you like to get high. Pure and simple. Anything else you said was rationalization bullshit


this. considering your not a kidiot, you have some bargining room. kiss ass, and don't blaze in the house. its pretty easy.

Dude, if you are 18 and have issues like a middle schooler would have, then you have problems...

Oh wait, never mind, living at my parents house would be super anti-establishment, FUCK THE MAN!!! *posts house up for sale*.

i mizz u rizzo :/

I know it sucks when they first find out -- trust me I've been in your situation before. I know they can kind of freak out and it's fucking retarded since its just weed. But you have to realize they'll get over it. Now my parents know I smoke pot and I don't have to hide it anymore. They don't like it but hey, I'm 18 now so what the fuck are they gonna do? But I would really suggest you quit being so anti-social. Just cause you wanna get stoned all day you don't do anything with friends, but maybe if you did then you wouldn't smoke so much. All you gotta do is quit worrying about your parents, you say you go to college, so they should probably just fuck off.

If that's what you considered fucked then your life seems pretty god damn boring.

Been smoking (weed) for about 5 months and have managed to hide this from them this whole.

Today i left my roach in my pocket in my pants in the bathroom and they fell out; my dad found it.

Basically he just came into my room whilst i was playing computer games (gunz online).



5 years and I haven't been caught. Yeah, I've been caught several times by my parents. They've come up to me several times with little green buds I've dropped in different drug induced stupors. It's the pigs I'm worried about, not my parents.

But I would really suggest you quit being so anti-social. Just cause you wanna get stoned all day you don't do anything with friends, but maybe if you did then you wouldn't smoke so much.

This. I work before I play. If you just get stoned all day and do nothing but play games, that's why parents hate weed. If you actually get all your work done and smoke in moderation, it's more enjoyable [you get higher, first time of the day is kickass], satisfying, and everyone is happy.

As a spiritually developing being i see these interactions with others as a constraint against my intrinsic development.

I dont know if you have heard of Siddhārtha Gautama. he is also known as the buddha; and he realised that before he could be of any use or purpose and to have good intentions he must separate himself from external factors that seek to control and undermine that notion (i.e. a government).



If you really wanted to practice buddhism you would realize that drugs are only a shortcut to some what of an enlightenment. The only real way to get to enlightenment in the sense which Siddartha was part of is by real world experiences and many years of meditaiton, stop trying to rationalize using pot as a method of becoming enlightened or "realizing" your introverted selfishness.

You sound like me... When I was 12.

I am glad to hear your parents weren't too upset - and it SEEMS like you're out of the hot water for now.

But - dude - your level of diction does not make you appear intelligent, or articulate - it just makes you seem extremely arrogant.

And, seriously - 10 hours of work a week? I went to a uni, worked 40 hours, made my marks - and still had time to chill with my friends - whether you are "introverted" or not has nothing to do with it - get out there! Enjoy yourself (and, if you enjoy yourself by being alone, then, I suppose that's fine too.)

Above all, don't give you're parents any reason to worry. And, try - TRY to see things from their perspective - it's their house, their property, you eat their food and sleep under their roof - and - you're breaking their rules.

How would you feel if you owned a place and only had a few rules about certain things - and the person that lived with you broke every one of them perpetually? You wouldn't.

So, play it cool and only smoke unless you're 100 percent sure you will not get caught.

This is the norm, don't you know?

your parents smoke heroin hourly.

My justification for my use will be that im a shy and introverted person- they know this is how i am. Everyone needs some fulfilment; most people my age go out and get wasted and party with their freinds, play sport etc. I prefer to stay at home and play some games, listen to music, read, write and be at one with my thoughts.

Hahaha that made my night.

HAHAHAHAHA oh man. by the title i figured this was a SERIOUS thread. i thought you got busted for intent to distribute heroin or cocaine or something. lol man. thats something we all go through. a little anecdote for ya

when i first got busted smoking weed my mom cried my dad ransacked my room and threatened to send me to military school (i was 14).

second time i was busted i was smoking in my room, same thing mom cried dad spazzed/searched my room but no threat of military school.

third time they were stern and dissapointed

fourth time was getting a paraph charge and they told me to quit bringing my shit out of the house, to do it in the house.

all along my mom has been a stoner since she was my age and now has weed around the house i can grab. thanks ma!

that was the gayest way of rationalizing video game usage ive ever heard. a much better way is " i like games, they are fun and pass the time".

im lazy and anti social, i dont want a "life", i work 10 hours a week and thats good enough for me i dont want to slave away just so the media monkeys and the junkie junkies can invite me to their plastic pantomime.

and i dont smoke in their house, i smoke outside. but it is stored in their house; thats were i live.


You hippy faggot. Get a real job and quit being a drain on society.

Don't hang around your house when you're stoned. That's about it.

My story 'bout my parents

Before you start im 16 and currently working and paying rent to my mum, parents are separated

I have been smoking on and off just over a year now, first couple of months i hid it from them and still had their trust so they didn't really ask what i was up to. Then at about my 3rd month after coming in stoned a couple times, she knew i was smoking, my brother was a stoner after all. She was fucking pissed off about it, told my dad, my dad was even more pissed.

Couple months passed, got bored started smoking again, with a lot more stealth, decided to try dxm my brother being the friendly stoner he was asked me what i have been up to, i told him i had tryed dxm, i thought yeah he would maybe have some experience with that seeing as he has smoked weed 5years. WRONG, he tells my parents, they fucking think im smoking crack. So i stop smoking weed again, due to parents not letting me do anything. What i dont really understand at this point is, they let my brother smoke weed, but not me?

so yeah get a little trust back, then, caught for possession of smoking paraphernalia. Get taken home by cops. Parents for some reason less pissed off that i got caught then when i took dxm. Whatever, okay.

give it a couple of weeks and im smoking weed again, my mum is fine with it, she doesn't tell my dad, my life was going well, i was doing well in my study, being the same kid i have always been, this went of for about a month, i was allowed to smoke, as long as i didn't come into the kitchen stoned (munchies), then for no reason at all she changed her mind, stopped letting me come home stoned, didn't want me smoking at all, now what the fuck?! I accepted this, knowing within weeks i would be smoking weed again, just it sucked it wasn't accepted anymore. Kinda like getting into heaven for a couple weeks then realizing there was a stuff up at the gates and getting dropped into hell.

Smoking became a Friday night only thing again, i could accept that now that i had a girlfriend who didn't really like me getting stoned, ye so this went on for a couple more months, i tried mdma, went all smooth, i thought fuck, what would they think if i was taking "pills" second time i took a pill, she found out, fan-fuckingtastic, she only found out by one of my friends iming me saying, "hey man you get those pills?"

She calls me up, 5 minutes before i was peeking, saying, come home right now because i know your taking drugs. I said calmly. "No i dont really want you ruining my Saturday night, im sorry, bye."

Boy howdy did i get it in the morning when i got home, got kicked out of the house, minding you they threatened me with this every time i got caught, never happened, until now, i went over my girls house for dinner, thought about my choices and the best one was to beg for forgiveness to get back into home, worked;)

now comes to now, i have been smoking weed for a couple weeks, without her knowing, she thinks i have been getting drunk, another thing i dont understand, she will buy me 2 bottles of vodka a weekend but wont let me smoke? i got an ounce yesterday, and i am weighing up my choices,

what do you suggest i do, my choice i can see are

1) tell her i wish to smoke weed again, pros of this is honesty, but it can also go to her being a bitch about it and nazi-ing my ass.

2) smoke and sell without her knowing, and i know will more that 90% get kicked out regardless of how it isnt affecting my life

halp?

i dont think anyone would of read it
and yes i do suck at English i tried my hardest.

I did read it, and your English wasn't too bad compared to some of our other new arrivals.

You should really be grateful for what you have. 2 bottles a weekend from your mother at the age of 16? Going way beyond turning a blind eye to drinking or even acceptance that you do it; actually buying it for you.
I prefer smoking far over drinking (and I'm assuming that you're the same way), but realize that once you move out (hopefully just moving and not forcefully leaving), you are gonna have seemingly countless years to smoke whenever you like. This may sound like the life you want now, but at what cost? Are you ready to move out on your own and still better yourself with education?
Don't be the "rebel child" who continually disobeys. And realize that to your parents, you are actually disobeying first and smoking pot second. Same thing with lying; what you're lying about always comes second to the fact that you lied to them.


Now, be honest with yourself. You do pot because you like to get high. Pure and simple. Anything else you said was rationalization bullshit.

For the actual OP (not the hijacker), this is quoted for TRUTH! I hardly believe that Buddha would sit around getting baked and playing video games with his free time. I think he would lean towards showing selflessness in your everyday contact with everyday human beings. Or if you are a...uhh...how did you eloquently put loner?? Oh yes, introverted. If you are a loner Buddhist, he might recommend meditation or some yoga shit.
And I also don't think that "gunz online" would be considered peaceful enough for meditation/searching for Nirvana... no, not the Kurt Cobain one located on your ipod!!

You like smoking bud, your few friends might even as well. But you ignore the simple, yet ever-stubborn fact, that your parents have rules concerning illegal substances walking into their household and causing a disturbance...simply because it is illegal.

Think about your home life as the military now that you've turned 18. The government (parents) will take care of you and provide shelter while you attend schooling that you can later use in your service to them (get good job after college/take care of your old parents). Then the military will give you a job to do and at the end of every month you'll have a little spending money to do with what you will (40 hours a month, lol). This correlation continues as long as you obey issued military (parents) rules!, but if you don't, then you are discharged (kicked out). The investment (you) is gone, but in the end it will still contribute to society by working/paying taxes (you're not going to abandon your parents in their old age).

If you really don't see yourself coming out on top from work experience/education/spending money/no or few bills, then quit the military and work 40 hours a week so that you can smoke a plant.

You like to smoke. do not let another person simply scare you into regretting the fun you already had. Guilt trips are the devil.