My girlfriend is tiny. 5'4ish and 100 lbs (163cm/45kg). Every time we have sex it takes me 4-5 minutes to just get in there. I have to push very very slowly or else she can't stand the pain. Once that's over it's smooth sailing though. Only problem is that after the.. very intense pushing, it's hard to last as long as I'd like to last.

It used to be bad enough, but it's just getting worse and worse instead of better. Could the increasingly cold weather be a factor here? Being constantly cold and tense and all? She is usually pretty wet - but even then it's very difficult. I'll even go down on her for 10-15 mins but that doesn't seem to change anything.

Is there anything S&A can suggest we should try that could help make it less painful?

Lube. That's the only thing I can think of that you didn't mention.

This is not a direct answer to your question, and this will not help her any, but just let me say that years from now, you will hope for one half that snug.

Wait until you get the age where most of the girls that you see have a child or two.

Trust me on this one.

I keep telling myself that, but like you said, that doesn't help the situation I'm in right now.

I guess I'll pick up some lube and try that one of these days.

Is there anything S&A can suggest we should try that could help make it less painful?

Stop fucking ten year old girls?

Lube will help wonders. It's pretty much the same with my girl and I.

- Tom

Try the lube, and also try to loosen her up with a finger beforehand.

That should make it a little easier.

Lube.

And experiment with different positions. Her on top allows her to take it slow and get it in at a pace thats the most comfortable for her.

Spooning also allows for shallower penetration.

Tell her to keep her knees and thighs together, it will allow her to control penetration somewhat. Or have her put her hand at the base of your cock, it'll stimulate you and also give her the option of preventing you from going further in than is comfortable.

Good luck!


-F☺rd

You have to turn her on first. Then she will get wet. Then you can fuck.

I would recommend that you ignore her feelings and just ram away. It's much funner this way. Plus if she ever leaves you and starts banging some other dude, who gently makes love to her, you can take solace in the fact that she'll be thinking "god damn, why don't you just bang the shit outta me you pussy".

Stop fucking ten year old girls?

Like hell!

Maybe a bit more foreplay.. body massages, oral sex.

When Sex Hurts = Vaginismus

"Vaginismus is an involuntary contraction, or reflex muscle tightening, of the pelvic floor muscles that generally occurs when an attempt is made to insert an object (tampon, penis, speculum used for a Pap test) into the vagina. This muscle tightening causes pain, which can range from mild discomfort to severe burning and aching. Vaginismus may be primary (i.e. lifelong), or secondary (occurring after a period of normal sexual function). It may also be global (occurs in all situations and with any object) or situational (may only occur in certain situations, such as with one partner but not others, or with sexual intercourse but not with tampons or pelvic exams or vice versa).

Women with vaginismus often think that they're "too small" and that their vagina needs to be stretched. Just imagining this is painful! The truth is that women with vaginismus don't need to "stretch" anything; they need to learn to control the muscles around the vagina. This can be done with exercises."

Get her a dildo. The rest is common sense

She still has her hymen. Your penis is too small to break it, you're just kind of bumping into it alot.

i think she still has her hymen aswell i know this gir who is 21 still a virgin terified of sex which she has atempted with several partners went to a doctor to make sure she was still a virgin this girl did ballet gymnastics etc and still has her hymen no wonder it hurts her ps your virginity is not your hymen

You aren't into stream of consciousness poetry are you?

What the hell?!?! That's about as coherent as Arabic is to a duck.

Haha, thanks for the relatively competent replies. Maybe I'll bring up the vaginismus thing...
sort of sounds like a gag reflex for vaginas!

What the hell?!?! That's about as coherent as Arabic is to a duck.

Why Arabic? Why not English?

Complete and utter bullshit.

one of the first girls i fucked, was real tight just like what you are trying to explain.

generally i would work her pussy with my finger, then try another, you can loosen it with your fingers before penetration.

it took her body awhile to get used to my size, the first time i couldnt get but maybe 1/4 of it in, after some work and doing it more and more i was able to go in all the way.

it takes time, petite girls might take awhile longer cause they are naturally tight (at least from what i know)

but its worth the wait if you are really into the chick, if not drop her, find a slut, lol, but never forget to wrap the tool. cause you dont want that call 2 weeks later "babe, i dont know how to tell you this but i am pregnant"

thats a bad phone call

thats a bad phone call

Spoken from experience?

You aren't into stream of consciousness poetry are you?

i like your style.

Why Arabic? Why not English?

Because ducks didn't learn Arabic at school....I don't fucking know you pedantic twat.