I have always been a bit awkward socially and have developed a strong shyness towards people I don't know. For a while I have begun to notice that by never smiling (I constantly look pissed off, miserable, nervous, or just uncomfortable) I am probably shooting myself in the foot. However, just now I figured out that a major reason girls (along with everyone else) never really come up to me might be because my constant half-grimace probably comes off as a dirty look. I have also begun to realize when girls are possibly checking me out and that they aren't necessarily giving me dirty looks, they are just matching my expression (which in turn makes put on an even more serious face and/or just look away).

So... anyone have any advice as far as being more pleasant goes? I feel stupid just smiling, in fact I think I look stupid, but the few times I can remember having that retarded grin on my face around other people, everything has just worked out a lot better.

but the few times I can remember having that retarded grin on my face around other people, everything has just worked out a lot better.

Well you've pretty much figured this out yourself.


You just need to relax man. If you think there's a reason behind your rotten facial expressions like depression or anxiety or OCD or something like that then tackle the problem at the source. Most of the kids I see that carry awkward facial expressions around all day are the ones with an obvious mental disorder like the ones I just listed.

Teach yourself to be more aware of your expressions and the impression you may be giving.

You pretty much just explained me.

I used to be very nervous and paranoid, which showed in my behavior, and people picked up on it and treated me differently then everyone else. I used to think they disliked me because of different reasons, then I would start believing those reasons which made me even more secluded. I tried staying out of peoples way and only say what needed to be said in a general conversation, but still, they showed dislike towards me.

I don't know if your problem is as severe as mine was, but just recently though have I realized, who gives a fuck? I'm not going to go out of my way to fit in or please someone or not speak my mind just in case someone might think I'm stupid or something. I guess you could say I've trained myself to not think into things so much and just let lose. It's helped a lot. People treat me like a regular person, I treat them like a regular person. I don't look down at the ground when speaking to people, I don't give short answers, I don't bite my nails or scratch my head or pull weird faces when I'm nervous. If you want to have a retarded grin on your face, have a retarded grin on your face. Stop thinking about what to do to not look awkward, because you'll wind up doing just that.

You pretty much just explained me.

I used to be very nervous and paranoid, which showed in my behavior, and people picked up on it and treated me differently then everyone else. I used to think they disliked me because of different reasons, then I would start believing those reasons which made me even more secluded. I tried staying out of peoples way and only say what needed to be said in a general conversation, but still, they showed dislike towards me.

Just recently though have I realized, who gives a fuck? I'm not going to go out of my way to fit in or please someone or not speak my mind just in case someone might think I'm stupid or something. I guess you could say I've trained myself to not think into things so much and just let lose. It's helped a lot. People treat me like a regular person, I treat them like a regular person. I don't look down at the ground when speaking to people, I don't bite my nails or scratch my head or pull weird faces when I'm nervous. Because I don't really get nervous, because I don't really give a fuck. And until you realize no on else does either then your life will be much happier.


Bingo, if you are confident other people will sense that and fuck off ^^

The thing is, I am pretty much at least partially miserably at all times unless I have a genuine smile on my face, so it isn't easy to fake it. I am a typical loner with a few equally socially awkward "friends" that I just hang out with at school. I was picked on a lot up through sophomore year and have started to change recently (the fact that I look different after lifting weights a bit helped too), but it is my senior year and by now it is just kind of awkward to be walking up to everyone I barely know. I also tend to use a "polysyllabic" vocabulary which kind of turns people away.

...and I forgot to mention this, but when I am not looking unhappy, I have a dazed look since I am prone to daydream or just be half-asleep throughout the day (being half Asian doesn't help this). It is kind of neutral though since it doesn't really work against me.

(being half Asian doesn't help this)

Well there's your problem. At least you're only half asian though so you still have hope... unless the other half is Middle Eastern or something.

Like all I can really say though is listen to what Misfit said. Just don't give a fuck and relax.

Well there's your problem. At least you're only half asian though so you still have hope... unless the other half is Middle Eastern or something.

Like all I can really say though is listen to what Misfit said. Just don't give a fuck and relax.

lol, the other half is Mexican.

It is on my dad's side though, and I have never really met him so I haven't had that kind of exposure to the Asian culture. Even if I had him around, he was (I don't think he is still alive) a part of Yakuza (he was low on the totem pole though since he was/is part Chinese) and a dancer (spent a lot of his time in clubs, my mom told me that the only words in English that he knew were "momma said knock you out") so it isn't like I would end up stereotypical or introverted.

Oh okay Mexican is cool. I used to live in San Diego and dated a Mexican girl she was fucking awesome I miss her. Lol I'm not trying generalize but I know I am. My point is; at least your other half isn't middle eastern.

:O

Lt_Flippy and I are probably twins. I always give people the evils when they smile at me, I just feel like a retard when smiling; so goofy.

Two words; THC.

Two words; THC.

Lol that made me laugh for some reason.

Lol that made me laugh for some reason.

But I'm right, right?

Actually, since I started toking a couple months ago things started going a lot better. I haven't talked to girls much more, but I am starting to make new friends since a lot of people are instantly a lot cooler with you once they hear you smoke weed. That, and smoking weed every now and then has magically made me three times less awkward socially than I was before (which was pretty bad considering that I am still having these problems).

But I'm right, right?

You are right, right.

Flippy; smoking weed is a good start.

Don't worry about it. You're in high school still so just experiment and don't worry about friends too much. You can start over in college. Just remember who you are is who you think you are.

http://www.totse.com/community/showthread.php?t=2168168

try that and see if it helps you at all

roffies are your friend

Don't worry about it. You're in high school still so just experiment and don't worry about friends too much. You can start over in college. Just remember who you are is who you think you are.

http://www.totse.com/community/showthread.php?t=2168168

try that and see if it helps you at all

That helped a little bit, thanks. I used to obsess over social engineering though, so I already went through that faze.

You will grow out of it. Unless you don't let yourself grow out of it, of course.

Enjoy yourself more, laugh and joke around that way you have a constant smirk or pleasant gleem in your face. I always just have a confident/calm stare going on and it works pretty well, never get any dirty looks from women out here. I alot of times ill just be chilling and ill get some smiles from girls like nothing.

I know when im pissed off or mad i cannot hold a non negative look on my face for nothing, it shows through like a sob.

Lol that made me laugh for some reason.

Haha same kinda werid....

Two words; THC.

smoke two joints in the morning, smoke two joints at night, smoke two joints in the afternoon; it makes you feel alright.

Get Drunk or get anxiety meds.... they both work although if you choose the second you will be able to remember your night....:)

just raise your eyebrows. if your eyebrows are low and close to your eyes you look pissed

Walk up to a group of people you don't know, and in a weird voice, while staring at them in a very intense/insane way, say "Did you know that if you stab a man in the dead of winter... steam will arise from the wound?"

You will be excepted into their group of friends for sure.

I'm gonna say something to all those people who seem "weird" to others.

Don't try too hard to impress or care. Be witty only when the time is right and you KNOW what you're talking about, besides that just chat normally. Helps if you have a hobby besides collecting anime loli figures.

Drugs are also your friends, especially if you sell them.

all i have to say is fuck having friends in high school. it is not worth the trouble, and the majority of high school kids are fucking lame.

Not having the interaction with people while you're young is what makes people even more socially retarded and/or shy when they're older, because they don't know how to or can't act around people like everyday people do.

Seriously if you have a hobby then you will interact with people better. Or even if you and another person find something funny or share a similar opinion to something, then you will get on with people.

lol says the highschool faggot.