Originally Posted by arquin

Can I make ONE thing clear: I have found girls, lots of them, and they're shit. On the night of my last birthday I kissed more girls than years I am old. I have met heaps and find them dull, fake, squeaky and annoying and generally unattractive. So the argument "There are heaps of fish in the sea" isn't very convincing unfortunately.

Originally Posted by BlackSails

What do you have to lose?
How about precious time, how about getting your feelings hurt? You're gonna fucking spend 2 years with her before she realizes she still wants more.

Then you're gonna remember what the smart totsean said.

Originally Posted by ObsdianZ

GET BACK WITH HER

The two of you have both changed dramatically. It's time to give the relationship another chance. You were a wreck when she cheated on you; you were obviously not contributing to the relationship. You were unstable, she was confused, and she reached out for a rock she could cling to.

It was not solely her fault. You were not the only victim.

Your trust issues are irrelevant. It's not as if your relationship was perfect and then she decided to be a bitch and go behind your back. You said yourself, the two of you were fucked up mentally and emotionally. But by the sounds of things, she would not cheat on you again.

Awesome girls like that don't come along very often.

*ObZ

Originally Posted by WritingANovel

Get back with her. But make sure you get a "get out of jail free" card, as in, you get to cheat on her once. This way you get to be with the girl you want while being on the lookout for someone better.

Originally Posted by Siatek

I say go for it, but only you know. If you've both been through such radical changes in your life then who knows maybe it'll work out afterall. People sometimes change.

Originally Posted by WritingANovel

Get back with her. But make sure you get a "get out of jail free" card, as in, you get to cheat on her once. This way you get to be with the girl you want while being on the lookout for someone better.

Originally Posted by arquin

TL/DR at the end.

Rabbitweed wants me to reconsider, telling me this is a stupid idea, I'm just wanting to see what the rest of totse thinks.

General consensus from people who don't know her is "WHAT THE FUCK MAN? Don't you have any dignity? She fucked you over in such a terrible way!"

General consensus from people who know her is "She's an awesome chick man and we haven't seen any one make you any where near as happy, but she did fuck you over pretty bad, think you can ignore that?"

She was the popular, attractive, smart girl in highscool and I was the ugly nerd. We were best friends for ages and ended up getting together.

I got to be a pretty big druggy. I was really into methadone/oxy, E, speed, acid, pot and valium/xanax/temazepam. I'd been diagnosed with bipolar and was on antidepressants, mood stabilizers and anti psychotics. I was fucked up to say the least. What I did to her was later described to me as emotional blackmail. Because when we'd break up I'd be like "Fuck that I don't need her" and I'd go on week long drug binges where I'd indulge in all sorts of filth. She loved me and when she'd check up on me she'd get worried about me, come see me, and take care of me. This pattern happened heaps. She even DID break up with me once, during this break she met the person she cheated on me with. I hadn't spoken to her in weeks and wasn't going to, but I ended up getting too fucked up one night testing my limits with benzos and opiates and OD'd. When I was in the hospital my mum rang her and she came to see me the second I was back home. She stayed with me for days while I had shivers, tiny pupils, itches and was a grumpy dick. We were on off for a fair few months after this, little did I know for this whole time, she was also together with the guy she met on that break. Two 'boyfriends'. He was her boyfriend and the epitome of 'an alpha male'. Now that I look back, I was just a best friend she had sex with but wanted me to be exclusive.

MrMojoRisin once told me I expected too much of her, I expected perfection and she was just a teenage girl fucking up like teenage girls do. She wasn't perfect either, she was a clubrat who did heaps of pills, no job, would never do her uni work or show up, was a total bitch to who ever she wanted to and was basically a little spoiled brat living off mummy and daddy's credit card.

I found out about her and the dude, I contacted the guy and told him what was going on. He had no idea either, we became mates and fucked her over to the full extent of out abilities. Lots and lots of drama ensued after this but I'll skip it.

Now I've changed heaps, I don't do drugs (I wont lie, I wouldn't say no if it's acid/shrooms being offered), I have great relations with every one I know, I've got ambitions, I've achieved goals, I'm very mentally stable (no more medication - I used to sleep 18 hours a day and wasn't allowed to drive my meds were that strong) and I'm no longer a fuck up. Only the part of me that she loved remains, all the bad traits have been replaced.

The thing is, she's also changed. She now works very hard and is excellent at her job, goes out rarely unless it's for dinner/drinks, she doesn't do drugs, she is now really friendly, she's going back to school, she's currently volunteering in a hospital in a 3rd world country and she's basically an amazing person.

She's made it clear she'll do what ever it takes to make me trust her. She wants to get back with me. I want to get back with her. One thing to understand is that this girl is the coolest girl I've ever met. Ever. Funny as fuck plus she laughs at my crass totse-ish humor, a total intellectual from a very accomplished family, gorgeous face with a killer body, we have similar ambitions, doesn't mind getting fucked up with me, great music/movie/book taste, amazing in bed, willing to get on one of my dirtbikes and ride with me/snowboard with me/go camping, the list goes on. I have met a lot of girls since her, but none compare. None.

Downside is she cheated on me and left me with irreparable trust issues. I'd like to think she's changed, because I've done some horrible things in my life, things worthy of prison time, and I'd like to think my change was real as well.

When I look back I would have cheated on me too, she had all these options all these people around and every time she'd try and take these opportunities I'd get all drug fucked and make her feel guilty. Fuck, maybe I'm trying to justify getting back with her. I know what she did was FUCKED up (there's a lot more to the story), but I'm not to go with out blame.

I knew by making this I'd get the shit ripped out of me. But Rabbitweed wanted me to reconsider and hoped you guys would talk me out of it.

TL/DR: My ex cheated on me a long time ago. We were both in fucked up places in our lives, mentally and emotionally. Now we're both in a much better place and want to give it another shot. I have trust issues and will find it hard to trust her, but she is the epitome of awesomeness. Not enough info is given in the tl/dr, but any way, what's to do?

*Puts on flame retardant suit*

Originally Posted by pleasure_to_burnv2

dude its just pussy. How bout you find yourself a new girl, and save yourself all this needless drama bs.

Originally Posted by jadexheartsxguitar

I don't think i read it properly.

But you were on a break weren't you...before she started having sex with this other guy?