So this girl I have my eyes on appears to be very distant most times I try to interact with her but at other times has been close and open.

So I'm confused.

I'll point out that the latest interaction that has me thinking about this was her not responding to me on a IM client - We live away from each other but work at the same office (different departments). Is it possible she's saying if you want me you'll have to put more effort in than MSN...I know, I just wanted to talk to her no matter how I had to do it...

I really like her, and want to get to know her better...but I don't want to hassle her - I'm having a hard time reading her signals. When I see her she smiles, says hello asks how I am What I've been up to...general chit chat and seems interested - But then there's occasions (and they have all been online, she's never avoided me in person) where she just doesn't seem to register anything at all.

What's all this about? I wouldn't think I've done anything to piss her off. I'm really just wondering what's going on and don't want to ask her that straight up in case I'm somehow supposed to know.

Ask her to dinner, a drink, whatever.

Some sort of date.

If she says no, fuck the bitch. If she says yes, then good for you.

Just go for it.

If she says no, fuck the bitch.

Isn't that rape?

Some people are just different online and don't know the "norms." Don't judge her by how she acts on MSN jusge her by how she acts in person and what her body language is and how she looks/talks/acts towards you.

So I'm confused.

We live away from each other but work at the same office (different departments).

from my experience most women on the "job" are thinking about little more than the actual "job" itself. not to sound stalkerish try and see if she acts the same way around other guys at the workplace as she does around you. if so she is just probably just trying to be nice

Is it possible she's saying if you want me you'll have to put more effort in than MSN

all girls want "more" than msn, if she works with you dont talk to her online talk to her face to face, get to know her. dont be the shy type at work, and then wanna chit chat online, it says something horrible about your personal skills around people. it says you are more willing to be open when you have time to think rather than on the fly.

butch up, either stop being a pussy and ask her out, or just watch from a far trying to read her "signals"

most girls signals are nothing more than things to "throw you off the chase"

but there are a certain few who send out the right signals, like i ended up dating my friends girl after they had broken up, not saying he was my best friend, but long story short i could treat her a way he didnt think was needed.

Isn't that rape?

Yes, yes it is.

from my experience most women on the "job" are thinking about little more than the actual "job" itself. not to sound stalkerish try and see if she acts the same way around other guys at the workplace as she does around you. if so she is just probably just trying to be nice



all girls want "more" than msn, if she works with you dont talk to her online talk to her face to face, get to know her. dont be the shy type at work, and then wanna chit chat online, it says something horrible about your personal skills around people. it says you are more willing to be open when you have time to think rather than on the fly.

butch up, either stop being a pussy and ask her out, or just watch from a far trying to read her "signals"

most girls signals are nothing more than things to "throw you off the chase"

but there are a certain few who send out the right signals, like i ended up dating my friends girl after they had broken up, not saying he was my best friend, but long story short i could treat her a way he didnt think was needed.

Noted :p But I'm no stalker I'm just going off the time we do happen to get to have together and she's not nice to everyone at work nor a worker drone, which is a trait that has made me like her.

I just don't see myself going up, walking into her cubicle with all her workmates in earshot and asking her out from nowhere. That's what I'd consider a bit suss.

see if she acts the same way around other guys at the workplace




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If not, she might be playing games. If it's the latter then I suggest you fuck her and ignore her from then on. Play with HER head a little bit.

Noted :p But I'm no stalker I'm just going off the time we do happen to get to have together and she's not nice to everyone at work nor a worker drone, which is a trait that has made me like her.

I just don't see myself going up, walking into her cubicle with all her workmates in earshot and asking her out from nowhere. That's what I'd consider a bit suss.

ok i see

well maybe sometime if you both are having conversation at work, and she is talking about something "interesting" (doesnt matter if you really think it is or not) ask her when you are about to split ways, if she'd like to talk more about that over coffee. if she says yeah, she might have some interest. if she wants to but is busy in the near future she either might be trying to get you away, or seeing how hard you want to meet with her.

BUT IN NO WAY CANCEL ANY PRE-EXISTING PLANS TO HANG OUT WITH HER

you need to show her that you have a life with or without her in it, that you can fit her in when its easy for both of you.

if she says that she is not interested then, you have to rememeber that dating is a numbers game, some will say yes some will say no, but no matter what happens you are still you, no need to make you're life ride on as simple an answer as yes or no.

If not, she might be playing games. If it's the latter then I suggest you fuck her and ignore her from then on. Play with HER head a little bit.


but if he cant even get together with her for a date how is he going to fuck her? and in turn play with HER head, and it seems like he wouldnt want to play with her head, he wants to get to know her and be with her, at least IMO

but if he cant even get together with her for a date how is he going to fuck her? and in turn play with HER head

Simple misunderstanding

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If not, she might be playing games. If it's the latter then I suggest you metaphorically fuck her and ignore her from then on. Play with HER head a little bit.


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That's only if she is playing games though.

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good fix, that would be alot more realistic

Isn't that rape?

Ahh sorry. I meant fuck as in forget about. Fuck it.

Not sexually.

Ahh sorry. I meant fuck as in forget about. Fuck it.

Not sexually.

Well, I say we make rape an option anyway.

Um. This is going to sound absolutely fucking crazy, but how about you stop being such a hardcore MSN pickup artist and go fucking talk to her?

Maybe catch her at the water cooler \ coffee machine \ friday drinks? Then you wouldn't be worried about her co-workers and could perhaps get a better read on whats going on!

Well for one, you should thank her for even responding on an IM client....alot of people stick to the comfort of their own home and take the lazy path to meet new people. Sort of shows your character, that you are lazy and possibly too much of a puss to meet people in person.

I had that happen before many times over, doesnt mean anything, sometimes people leave their computers on and shit/never respond...or maybe shes testing you...you wont know so do not think about shit like that. Shes prolly not playin any games and your just making the shit up in your head !

As soon as you make progress with her put up the "hard wall", dont give in to her, dont drop your shit for her etc.....

Im on the professional level like you as well, many nice looking chicks out here but its on the clock, on the job....it can still be done but has to be in a professional manner. Find her once by herself somewhere away from her job(walking around etc.) and just finish the job.

haha hardcore msn pickup artist :p I've tried it as an icebreaker and that's it.

So you're saying I should 'accidentally' happen to bump into her somewhere so I can talk to her face to face? Yeah that sounds a lot different. Maybe I should stand by her car and wait for after work...she totally would find that less intimidating then saying hello on msn...

And I met her through work not online, as I said I do have her on msn and if I see her online when I am I'll say hello. Is that wrong

I'm not trying to sound like a negative prick, but I can't help it considering I am one.