So this guy had given me his number a while ago to go bowling with friends, but at the time I didn't know if he was asking me on a group date because he was scared of one on one or if he just wanted to be friends so I declined. Well, I found his number in my phone (which I didn't make a contact) so I texted him to see who it was. He texted back, and kept texting which was odd but made me feel good. On like the seventh text, he told me, "All this texting is crazy... you want to just come downstairs and hang out for a bit?" I did and we talked and listened to music for a good amount of time. There weren't any awkward pauses, and I left in good spirits.

I texted him the other day saying that we should play ping pong or get lunch sometime next week (he went home this weekend for a tournament). He said the typical guy response, "Ok sounds good call me." So, I don't really know how to gauge his feelings, but from everything online that I've read it seems he might.

Would he have asked me to hang out if he didn't like me in some way? He could have just cut the texting off completely after I had found out who it was. How can I gauge his feelings? How do I make this not just friendly? How should I approach calling him Sunday night?

put out for him, stop being a bitch

If you like him call him. If not don't. If he likes you he'll keep wanting to hang out. It's some pretty basic shit.

We're simple creatures.

If we like you, in any sense of the word, we keep you around.
If not, we either use you for a fuck or tell you to fuck off.

Which doesn't really answer your question.

But you know, go hang out with him, what's the problem?

are you a chick or gay. I couldnt figure it out?

she's a gal, i was also confused in one of her other threads a while back.



i always cringe when people flirt by text messages......

i wouldn't like to have a record of the meaningless shit that's exchanged. It just screams "i'm to weak to talk live to you" and smells of cheapness.

Just go for it, what do you have to lose?

I don't see the problem.

I don't have anything to lose, I just want to know if I am being used for a fuck, if he's genuinely interested, or if he is just wasting my time. I want to know how to tell... and how much I should flirt without making myself look like a total retard.

You cannot read his mind, and neither can we. All we can see is that he enjoys your company.


Flirting never hurts.

Five ways it can go:

1). You flirt, he flirts back, you connect -> relationship.
2). You flirt, he flirts back, but you don't really connect apart from the physical side of things -> "used for a fuck".
3). You flirt, he doesn't flirt back -> he doesn't fancy you; then if you turn the flirting down you can be friends, or you'll lose contact - either way, it seems you're not interested in a friendship, so it doesn't matter.
4). You don't flirt -> friends, depending on how much he fancies you maybe a relationship. But that'll leave you to be reactive, making the decision entirely up to him and the size of his balls, not making his life any easier if he fancies you.
5). You overthink it and don't even give it a go -> lose contact.

Choose the one that suits you. Looks like it's the path number one that you're looking for.

...just go overf to his place and start flirting :P

Chill the fuck out and stop being a woman. At the slightest hint of failure, smallest bump in the road, chicks are ready to jump ship.

"Ok sounds good call me." So, I don't really know how to gauge his feelings"

Why? To me it sounded like he gave you a pretty straight forward answer. Or are you that special he needs to say "OH MY FUCKING GOD YES! Oh wow I've been waiting for this for eons. You've made my day, my week, my year. <3 <3 <3!!!!1!!one!"

No. Didn't think so. He said, "yes, call me". Fuck woman....didn't realize that being straight forwards gets interpreted as encrypted messages.

When you ring him just ask to hang out. When he gets there touch him. Touching actually stimulates a release of chemicals in the brain that create and lead to attraction. The scientific explanation behind it is when you touch him little floaty things fall out of your brain into your blood then they float to receptors and go GADOOSH!!!1!!!!1 and make him want to stick his dick in you. I'm assuming this is the reaction you're looking for, no?

...kudos:D:D:D

You cannot read his mind, and neither can we. All we can see is that he enjoys your company.


Flirting never hurts.

Five ways it can go:

1). You flirt, he flirts back, you connect -> relationship.
2). You flirt, he flirts back, but you don't really connect apart from the physical side of things -> "used for a fuck".
3). You flirt, he doesn't flirt back -> he doesn't fancy you; then if you turn the flirting down you can be friends, or you'll lose contact - either way, it seems you're not interested in a friendship, so it doesn't matter.
4). You don't flirt -> friends, depending on how much he fancies you maybe a relationship. But that'll leave you to be reactive, making the decision entirely up to him and the size of his balls, not making his life any easier if he fancies you.
5). You overthink it and don't even give it a go -> lose contact.

Choose the one that suits you. Looks like it's the path number one that you're looking for.

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lol

On like the seventh text, he told me, "All this texting is crazy... you want to just come downstairs and hang out for a bit?"

do u gais lyk live in the same house or something

go with him girl.

he doesnt want to be rejected, thats why he said "call me" he put the ball in your court, so to say.

he wants something more. but wants to get to know you better.


go with him get to know him, thats what he wants.

you always have the upper hand but dont hurt him. show HIM a good time, girl.


i love you babe, listen to ,my advice. dont be scared. remember you are in control but dont abuse it! ;)

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lol

Lol, that's what life is. Except in real life there is a third choice, which is "Not make any decision at this time". And it seems to be the most popular one.

Thanks guys, you are making me feel better. I am a typical woman with feelings. I overthink everything. I just have one last question... when is a good time to call tonight? 8pm? 9? I don't want it to be too late but I also don't want it to be so early that it looks like I am desperate. I haven't texted, called, or talked to him in anyway all weekend.

who the fuck cares? he'll be happy for the call, everyone's day gets better when they talk to someone who wants them on the phone.

The real question here is whether you should phone him before or after calling dibs on a month in the Totse Calendar 2009!

You can read more in here: https://www.totse.com/community/showthread.php?t=2165673
Or get in touch with me here: agent008t@gmail.com

Well put my brotha from down unda.

OP,

after you hang out,

be sure to post nekkids!


kthxbye

he probably just wants to fuck. but that does not mean it cant go some where from there. from what i read it sounds like the guy is into you.

so it really depends on what you are looking for.