If you've read any of my previous posts you know I will do anything for my boyfriend. He gets sex, blowjobs, handjobs, anything, anytime he asks. I don't care if I'm sick, tired, on my period or any of that shit. I just do my best to please him. But something happened about a month ago.

When we started dating we had sex 3-5 times a day. We'd never leave the bedroom except to work. We couldn't get enough of each other. And we'd have fun, try new things, places, props. It was fatastic, hot and completely, utterly satisfying.

But now he doesn't want any of it. I think we've had sex maybe 3 times in the last two weeks. He keeps making excuses like he's tired or has a headache or has to work. It really hurts me. I feel unattractive and replusive. The other night we started having sex, after 3 minutes he pulled out, rolled over and fell alseep. He didn't even finish. I asked him if there's something I'm doing wrong and he said we're just in a rut. But I don't understand it. I love sex. I want sex. And he can have it anytime he asks. So what's the problem?

Last night was our five month anniversay. We went to bed and I asked him if we're just going to sleep tonight. It was the usual 'I have a headache and I work in the morning'. I was so hurt I slept on the couch.

I used to think I was attractive and I believed in my ability to satisfy my boyfriend but now all my confidence is gone. I don't know what's going on. Please explain this to me. Is this just something guys go through? Is it a phase? Did I do something wrong that I didn't notice? Or is it him? Do not suggest I dump him or fuck someone else. I love him completely and he treats me well.



UPDATE:

I sat him down, showed him this post and told him to tell me what was going on. I said, "Honey there's nothing you can say that will make me mad or upset at this point. I just want to know what's going on."

And his reply... "Your pussy feels like my ex's." Fuck was I mad.

After some 'alone time' he came back and explained.

A few weeks ago I went through a phase because I started a new birth control (this is what I left out of the OP). My libido was down and for some reason it was hard for me to cum. He said he always felt inadequate with his ex because he could never make her come, so he felt inadequate with me. He agreed it was a wrong choice of words before (fuckin douche bag, uh I want to slap him, my fuckin pussy feels like his ex's, who the fuck says that? god fuckin cunt scab). Anyways...I explained that my birth control was all settled now and I was back to normal and that it was a combined effort to make me come (I can do it on command sometimes). Anyways, happy, happy, kiss, and sex.

It was good. We both came. Hurray. Fixed? Big fuckin no.

He felt the need to prove himself later that night. I never turn down sex so I was ready to go. It was fantastic, felt amazing, I almost got off, but stopped myself (if you stop yourself continuely before orgasming you get a better orgasm in the end). Then we rolled over and switched positions. He stuck it in, thrust twice and said "your vagina's unhappy'. Then he rolled off.

In case you're wondering, I have no STDS. I was checked out a month ago. My vagina's healthy, I'm clean, so there's nothing going on there. It's anytime I get a little dry he feels completely unsatisfying. I got news for you boys, we can't produce lube all the time. It's like asking you to have an erection all the time. Fuck spit on your dick, thrust slowly until it's well lubed again, or stop and turn me back on. Don't fuckin say your vagina's unhappy and yell at me for calling you an idiot.

If you've read any of my previous posts you know I will do anything for my boyfriend. He gets sex, blowjobs, handjobs, anything, anytime he asks.
Have you tried anul yet?....maybe that's what's lacking.

Pics. And bring this up with him.

Yes I've done anal. And I've spoken to him about it like I said. He just says we're in a rut and he doesn't know what's wrong.

Has he started taking any anti-depressants or painkillers? Those are very well known libido killers.

Did he work alot, then all of a sudden stop? A drop in testosterone might be affecting him.

Maybe work really is stressing him out. A week or so of letting him get passed it might be what he needs.

He's not on any pills.

His job is slack. I work much, much more then him.

Amd this has been progressing for a MONTH. How much time does he need?

pics?

He's cheating on you. No man goes from having sex 5 times per day to refusing it.

Maybe the stress of fucking two girls is finally catching up to him.


He might just be stressed by something outside of the relationship. Recent family fight, death etc.


Or, though I cannot at this point be sure, maybe the newness of the relationship is wearing off. Like married couples after their honeymoon stage can get bored with each other.




Or I'm completely off my rocker from not having been in a relationship in so long.

Wrong. Theres plenty of medical conditions that could cause something like that. It could also just be a mental thing. Maybe he gets bored of the same girl or something. Maybe he has seasonal depression disorder (some people get depressed every winter) etc etc

He's grown bored of you.

I just came to that conclusion 10 mins ago.

http://i464.photobucket.com/albums/rr10/ripstick_photos/jess4.jpg

Disagree.

How long have you been together?

It looks like you've just been having so much fun together, you need a little break from each other.

You know, when you've got your favourite toy, and you can play with it 24/7 and you're loving it, eventually you need a break from it.

Oh, and disregard my email if you're having problems at the moment - just get back to me whenever you're ready, no problems at all.

I just came to that conclusion 10 mins ago.

http://i464.photobucket.com/albums/rr10/ripstick_photos/jess4.jpg

Whoa whoa whoa, slow down. No need to cast insinuations so casually, especially if you care about the guy as much as you do. Distrust will suffocate a relationship faster than anything you can imagine.

Have you tried sitting his ass down without being naked or in bed first and discussing this? Maybe try to understand what he means by "in a rut". Talk straight, don't be vague or try to get him to bring it up. Direct talk should straighten this out, I hope.

I thinks its completly ridicoulous that all your confidence is dependent on whether your boyfriend like you. You seriously need to get away from him for a while and learn to liek yourself for yourself and not if someone wants to fuck you.

Second, Your boyfriend might just be going through a phase. As a guy, i can tell you it happens. It doesnt means he hates you or thinks youre a whale. The best suggestion i can give you is to just simply fucking ask him whats going on.

Do not make it about you "What am i doing wrong?" or someshit liek that.

Simply ask, WTF IS GOIN ON, WE USED TO BE <fill in old times here>!

And if youre not happy then simply leave the relationship.

But over all, get your confidence and self esteem up.

Okay, everybody....

I HAVE TALKED TO HIM ABOUT THIS. On numerous occassions. He just gives me nothing.

And I haven't lost all self esteem. I still excel at my job and my life. I am capable of living without a man. I just feel that he is no longer attracted to me.

Well then just leave him. It will be 100% his loss. Finding a girl that is cute and will do allt he things you did for him will be extremely hard to find and it will be a slap of reality to him. Find yourself a guy that will treat you that way you treat him and the way you want to be treated.

Im not buying this thread. Something isnt right here, And your not giving us the whole story. As mentioned things shouldnt have turned so badly for no reason. He either has some mental disorder, or you fucked up SOMEHOW. And he said "Were in a rut", Not "Im in a rut"

Leave his ass if there are no leads. But like i said......theres something your not telling us

I don't think you've talked well enough. I.e. if you showed him a printout of this thread, I'm sure he would give you more information about what's going on.

If you can't convey to him what you told us in a conversation, might want to do just that.

But I still think he (you both?) need some time apart from each other to reignite your feelings.

how long has it been? a week? two weeks?

I will take you in. We will have sex 5-8 times a day. Plus I work 84 hours a week so i will be glad to come home to you

I dunno why you posted the pic you did. Your photobucket isn't locked or anything so I peeped the other ones. You're pretty attractive, so you being ugly isn't the reason he doesn't wanna fuck you.

Post the jess2 pic or the jess12 one, you look a lot better in those. You have a good body.

how long has it been? a week? two weeks?

5 years, but that's beside the point


Agreed, there is something missing. Anything you might have done or said? Anything you might at all suspect of being the problem?

And fuck him if he can't at least tell you something. Lack of communication goes hand in hand with distrust. Get his lazy ass to talk, or go find yourself someone who can.

Part of the fun is the chase. If you give it up super easily, at first it's a huge turn on and he'll love it, but after a while, it might become boring to him. So, don't have sex with him for a while, masturbate (which you're probably doing anyway) for like a month. Wait till he's practically begging for it or something.

Part of the human condition is wanting what we can't have. Once we get it, it makes us happy for a little while, but we soon lose interest in it. So, become what he can't have.

THIS. Even if she is a 10, if she gives it up easy, she is gonna be less attractive than the girl who is making you work for it. On top of that the relationship will just be boring and will probably lead to smoking mass amounts of weed to compensate for the boredom.

"I mean, it's not like i don't like the girl anymore. We have a lot in common, many shared interests and all that. It's just that i started feeling that i'm too young to be committed, and i still drool at every fucking chick that passes by me, and i really want to be able to be with other women, and i'm not such a bastard like to cheat on her.

So, how should i go around breaking up with her? I'm pretty sure she'd be shattered (not trying to sound arrogant), she doesn't like to do much besides being with me (which, as a "plus" factor, is smothering me).

Tl;dr: Bored of relationships, currently in a 5 month relationship, want to end it. Prior experience on breaking up sucks."

he is probably thinking this ^

Do you do anything besides sex?

Maybe he just realized he's in a relationship that's only about the sex.

*ObZ

5 times a day- too much

I never ever thought this would be a bad thing, but it appears to be the case. I'm going to cringe saying this, but<cringe> don't fuck for a while, maybe do other stuff together.

And 5 times a day? Fuck, he's probably tired!

Well as said before, you're definitely not ugly.

Just tell him straight up that you don't like playing mind games and if he doesn't tell you anything in a couple days break up...

A lot of people forget that a realtionship is not ONLY based on trust but COMMUUNIICATION...

I think its cruel/immature not to say whats going on. It seems like you do everything for him and he refuses to say why the both of you are "in a rut".

Darlin', try not to worry so much. You've been together a while, its quite common that once couples get over the "honeymoon period" that things slow down a bit. It doesn't mean he's cheating or isn't attracted to you. Plus, peoples moods / sex drives can fluctuate so much. Maybe try playing hard to get yourself for a bit! Don't let this shatter your confidence, confidence is sexy, insecurity is not. Give it time, this'll probably blow over.

become an hero

Just give him some space. Stop having sex completely for a while, maybe even a month, even two.

His sex drive may be going down due to stress from things he hasn't told you.

Quite possibly he might have some sort of medical condition that he is embarrassed to talk about, you never know.

I know sometimes I will be really tired. Some days even when I don't work much, and I had plenty of sleep the night before, I will be exhausted. This sometimes goes on for a month, and can be as little as a week sometimes. Many things can cause this.

Don't put pressure on him for sex, just let it come naturally. Enjoy not having sex because sometimes when you've been doing it so much it will get old. It will become "just" sex, and nothing more.

Also don't think it's you, he already said he thinks you two are in a "rut" which can mean many things and I am assuming you asked him if it was you that he didn't find interesting anymore, and if he said "no", then believe him, don't think it's you, or even that he is cheating just because he doesn't want to have sex all the time.

Just because guys think about sex and want sex often, doesn't mean we want it ALL the time, sometimes the best thing is a break from sex.

Also, if none of this helps: hi, my name is cronic5.

(Inspector BK says!)
I just seen your photo's and your kinda cute.
So I've come to this conclusion.
He mustn't have issues with your looks maybe he has issues with your gender....

Sex can get boring and it sounds like possibly the fun has gotten sucked out of the sex because you feel it's a duty of yours somehow and he feels it's his job to reassure you with all of this crazy sex that you are sexy.

Find other ways to be sexy together. You don't have to have intercourse to be intimate.

I have a very good male friend who recently broke up with his girlfriend and complained to me a LOT about how all she ever wants to do is have sex and she's naked all the time and how as much as he loves having sex with her, he just was getting annoyed by her constant need to have sex. So yea, despite what some 13 yo virgins here might proclaim, guys DO have other interests and CAN get bored with sex.

(Oh and BTW you are very pretty physically, if anything just try not to let your self esteem drop so low, that seems to me like it's the only thing working against you.)

http://i464.photobucket.com/albums/rr10/ripstick_photos/jess12.jpg
http://i464.photobucket.com/albums/rr10/ripstick_photos/jess2.jpg

You're cute, but 5 times a day.... I'd die.
Is his dick covered in scabs?

Big part of the problem with him not talking to you is that if he's not capable or interested in having as much sex as you want, he's probably having considerable self-image problems of his own. He might be questioning his own virility, or even his own sexual identity.

If you really want to keep this guy-- if you think you can live with less sex-- I'd suggest making sure he feels like you still consider him manly and attractive, without pressuring him on the sex.

Five times a day is a lot for any man. I know I'd have to be cocktailing vasodilators and stimulants to have a chance of keeping up with that.

It sounds like he's depressed or anxious. Those both cause dick troubles.

I used to take a cocktail of 4 medications a day (anti psychotic, antidepressant, mood stabilizer and benzos), now these seriously fucked up my dick. I'd either not be able to come, not be able to get it up, not be able to keep it up, come too early. It seriously made having sex HELL. The worst thing was this continued on for about 2-3 weeks after I stopped ALL my medications suddenly, which was when she thought everything would ok. So because I never knew what was going to happen there was no way to adjust. I felt inadequate so I stopped having sex.

Now you told me he pulled out after 3 minutes? That's just a fucking weird thing to do, unless...he felt problems coming on for him. He includes him self in "we're" having a rut.

Just so you know, if this is case, there is light at the end of the tunnel. Everything was fine about 3 weeks after stopping and returned to having a very healthy sex life. Two times a day is a great amount of sex. Guys have hobbies, friends and interests as well. Don't over do that shit.

I've heard people say that they get over having sex with the same girl again and again.

You said that you happily gave him everything he could possibly wanted whenever he wanted, so basically you gave the whole game away, and now theres nothing new there for him to find.

That's just one idea anyway...

By the way, it's pretty bad that your self confidence is based around this so much, if only some people understood the unseen effects of their actions.

^I could understand a confidence problem is she was fat/ugly/fugly, but shes pretty damn hot. If it doesn't work out just go get another boyfriend. It shouldn't take you long.

I've heard people say that they get over having sex with the same girl again and again.

You said that you happily gave him everything he could possibly wanted whenever he wanted, so basically you gave the whole game away, and now theres nothing new there for him to find.

You're right that it does happen, but it's also a good thing if this is the case. She gave the whole game away in 5 months and IF he's already bored of her, she's saved her self a lot of time had she taken 12 months to give the game away.

Dipstick, you need to talk to him. Don't be a fucking pussy and say you already have, because you haven't. Fucking interrogate the kid. Your emotions are being toyed with, which puts you in a position to know why, or to leave. You don't want to leave, so I guess you need to figure out why, huh? Be more persistent, thorough and invasive. You let this guy stick his dick in every hole of your body, what's a little invasiveness on your behalf?

^^^ Done and done.

I am so not putting out for a long time. Of course now I'll have to masterbate... more.

I am so not putting out for a long time. Of course now I'll have to masterbate... more.
Good for you! that's the totse spirit. ;)

"Your vagina is unhappy"?

Is your boyfriend a five year old autistic kid?

Actually yes. Children with mental retardations turn me on...

He just is one of a kind.

Honestly, it sounds like his inability to communicate properly with you, or like...make the whole sex rut thing a joint effort, seems indicative of bigger problems and incompatibilities. He's having problems, and he's projecting it onto you (we are in a rut). And it doesn't seem like he's willing to be open with you and work together to fix the problems in your sex life. It's not the fact that he doesn't want to have sex that is so much of a red flag to me, it's the fact that he gives you vague explanations and expects things to be perfect immediately, and when it isn't, he rolls over and goes to sleep rather than making an effort. And that shit sucks.

expects things to be perfect immediately, and when it isn't, he rolls over and goes to sleep rather than making an effort.

How do you know?

Just back off and give the bloke some time. We're all human.

How do you know?

Just back off and give the bloke some time. We're all human.

Because that's what she said? She said that they talked about it, and when they tried having sex and it didn't go perfectly he was like, "your vagina is unhappy," and gave up. That's not how it's supposed to work.

Maybe he gets bored of the same girl or something.


This is exactly why he would cheat on her.

He said "your vagina is unhappy"? Then rolled off you?

I...I am having a hard time believing that. Not that I don't trust you word, just...I can't imagine any man saying that. :o

/
Seriously how can I make that shit up? Or rather why would i?

I can't imagine any man saying that. :o

I can:

"your vagina is unhappy" (http://tinyurl.com/5vxf47) :(

Your boyfriend is an immature young boy. He sounds like the guy I dated when I was like 15.

That's what I was trying to tell her.

You have to leave this guy. He doesn't appreciate you at all.

If you were my girlfriend...Ugh...

You just made my day, girl.

Your vagina's unhappy.

:D

If you were my girlfriend...Ugh...

...what? You'd kiss her, cuddle her, then suck off a dude?

lol

Her problem was she's not getting enough dick.

Maybe invest in some lube..?

...what? You'd kiss her, cuddle her, then suck off a dude?

lol

Her problem was she's not getting enough dick.

lol.

I'd tell you to stop teasing but you're pretty fucking funny. :o


Edit: In all seriousness, I want to have intercourse with ripstick.

lol.

I'd tell you to stop teasing

:) I'll try and keep it to a bare minimum.

actually yes. Children with mental retardations turn me on...

orly?

If you didn't make me a sandwich I wouldn't reward you with cock either.

This

Just do post-op tranny style...lube it up in the bathroom before you fuck him hahaha.

He stuck it in, thrust twice and said "your vagina's unhappy'. Then he rolled off.

What the fuck, who says that shit? You should not feel like a failure for having a sub par boyfriend. Seriously, pay someone to slap some sense into him.

I dunno girl, I probably aint much help - but maybe you should lay off bein so sex hungry crazy every day all day, cause, you know, sometimes if you go for a week or even a couple days without - then it gets way better, and you get way wetter. Maybe 5/10/29 times a day and now your vagina just is real dang fricken tired and you don' know, cause emotionally you want more, but maybe physically that ole cunt's just plain worn out. Maybe if you gave'r a bit of a rest, it'd be a good thing, and then when you get on the ole bull again you'll be all sloppy juicy dripping on his ballsack, and he won't be all 'your pussy feels like ma ex bitches.'

wtf..??
uhmm first off...why would he say to you that your vag feels like his ex's. that's fucked. sorreh he said that..
and then 'youre vag is unhappy' holy moly...
he has some guts after all you do.
i mean you practically give everything to him.....
what if you told him that he kisses just like your ex....
wtf...
i understand you love him and all...
but he has no respect.
you should blow up in his face.
tell him what's what.
you don't deserve that treatment.

ps...do you really have a thing for the mentally handicapped?

like, i know you don't, but say that the last person on the earth was an autistic 5 year old, and you could either hit it or never ever ever for the rest of your life ever have sex again (oh, and you're gonna live for the next 500 years, so it'll be a long fricken time without sex, and there's nothing in the world left that's solid enough to pleasure yourself with, cause everything is made of cotton candy and you don't have any hands anymore) and the kid's totally willing to do it, would you? what if he had downsyndrome?

Hey, I actually have a good idea now. K, show him this thread. K? Then he'll understand how you feel without you putting on that really butthurt face you get sometimes, cause no offense, but you get kinda defensive and really really fuckin mean when you're hurt about stuff.

It'd kill my boner if you were mad at me cause I didn't want to have sex with you, cause your angery face is scary...and I'd also be pretty resentful, like you couldn't just enjoy my company, I'd feel like you were using me because I was a kinky walking boner.

I'm suggesting that maybe he can't man up and get it in because your vagina's eshausted, his dick is exhausted, he's scared that you'll get really fucking mad and probably eat his face if he doesn't perform, and he's scared that he's not performing cause you wanna bang other dudes and have other dudes watch you bang, and cause your vagina is dry (probably jus cause it's exhausted)

maybe...let it rest for a bit, appreciate him for who he is as a human being, not just as your lover, don't get mad at him, don't make him feel like he can't satisfy you. I think he'll come round to that, and not nagging and posting and whining and getting mad and refusing to put out cause he's not putting out and stuff. that's the kinda thing that lunatics do.

and i'm not trying to be a dick jrip, i'm just layin it out cold.

He must be really fucking good looking for you to treat him so good, despite his retardation and tactlessness.

Either that or he's your first boyfriend?

There are better guys out there you know.

Actually yes. Children with mental retardations turn me on...

*beeps...beeps* oh shit, my bullshit detecter is detecting something.

That's crazy...I never knew there's such a girl who get turned on by disabilities guys.

My GF better not be dating me because of my disability.

*beeps...beeps* oh shit, my bullshit detecter is detecting something.

That's crazy...I never knew there's such a girl who get turned on by disabilities guys.

My GF better not be dating me because of my disability.

that's interesting to think about. Are retarded couples more attracted to each other because they're both retarded? If anything they must feel like they can understand each other better (at the same pace..slower)

LOLZ everyone just lolz.

Captain Kirk I love you. Let's have sex.

Lolz, K, I love you too.

Lolz, K, I love you too.

Shall I call you tomorrow?

Shall I call you tomorrow?

Please do!

that's interesting to think about. Are retarded couples more attracted to each other because they're both retarded? If anything they must feel like they can understand each other better (at the same pace..slower)

My girlfriend isn't a retarded?

Ripstick doesn't look retarded to me.




I'm sorry...."Your vagina is unhappy"

LOL, That man should apply as comedian.

My girlfriend isn't a retarded?

Ripstick doesn't look retarded to me.




I'm sorry...."Your vagina is unhappy"

LOL, That man should apply as comedian.

I'm not really attracted to handicapped people.

And yes he has his moments. But sometimes I don't know what he's trying to say.

It'd kill my boner

Hey you quoted my thread, how bizarre.

On-topic, you could always get another girl and ummm, give him a threesome?

Hey you quoted my thread, how bizarre.

On-topic, you could always get another girl and ummm, give him a threesome?

This.

You either get sex from him, or you get sex anyway from the girl.

It's a win/win.

This.

You either get sex from him, or you get sex anyway from the girl.

It's a win/win.

I actually wanted to do this for a long time and suggested it. I'm very bicurious. He's not too keen on it. Doesn't want to fuck another girl in front of me, or watch me be intimate with someone else.

.......Dump him.

Thanks but no.

Thanks but no.

Dump him.

Note to everyone telling her to dump him: that won't magically make her hook up with you.


Just thought I'd let you guys know.

I know that. But if she wants to fuck 243 times a day, and her current boyfriend doesn't, there isn't a lot she can do to make him. A better solution is just to get a guy who does wanna fuck a ridiculous amount (most of them).

Plus, her boyfriend is a fag.

More so than me.

lol, and trust me, this guy is a fag (see his thread about it!).

Burn. A fag is calling your bf a fag.

lol, and trust me, this guy is a fag (see his thread about it!).

Burn. A fag is calling your bf a fag.

lol. Seriously.

I would do ripstick if I was her boyfriend. He's a faaaag.

I actually wanted to do this for a long time and suggested it. I'm very bicurious. He's not too keen on it. Doesn't want to fuck another girl in front of me, or watch me be intimate with someone else.

What the hell?? No further explanation is required, he's a full blown fag.

What other reasoning can you do? He has a good looking girl there to fuck, even with the chance of getting a threesome with her, and he still declines?

Seriously ripstick, if you don't dump him I'll make a thread about it.

And you know I'm a good thread-maker.