TL;DR at the bottom, for you lazy bitches.

Okay, so right now i'm on a 5 month relationship with a chick. It's been great and all, but i just don't find it... "entretaining" anymore, and i just lost the feeling of being in a relationship.

Prior to this one, the current girlfriend, i had been in an 11 month relationship. Same shit happened back then, and it didn't end too smoothly. She cried over me, and stalked me for like 2 months.

I mean, it's not like i don't like the girl anymore. We have a lot in common, many shared interests and all that. It's just that i started feeling that i'm too young to be committed, and i still drool at every fucking chick that passes by me, and i really want to be able to be with other women, and i'm not such a bastard like to cheat on her.

So, how should i go around breaking up with her? I'm pretty sure she'd be shattered (not trying to sound arrogant), she doesn't like to do much besides being with me (which, as a "plus" factor, is smothering me).

Tl;dr: Bored of relationships, currently in a 5 month relationship, want to end it. Prior experience on breaking up sucks.

Hi Anna. It's not working out. I hope we can still be friends.


Done.

And you can add onto that that you are far too sexy to be tied down to one insecure chick. You need to spread the love a bit.

It's pretty easy. What WAN said.

Just outright tell her that you don't feel like being tied down. And good on ya for not being an asshole and cheating on her before you broke it off.

The thing is, i've been in the exact same place before, and lemme tell you, it's not easy. Even harder taking into consideration that she will most likely cry and make me feel like shit.

Other thing that i wonder is what is the best place and time to do so. Doing it over the phone seems a bit asshole-ish, but on person can cause her to make a scene.

Damnit, why did i get in a relationship again in the first place? :(

Do it at her house, so she can break down in the privacy in her own home. Yes, she will cry, she's being dumped.

And as for the relationship question, I'm assuming its for the reason most people start them. They are guaranteed sex, and don't have to hunt for it.

Make sure she knows that there is no gray area, that it's over and there's no chance of getting back together. Save her and your self some time.

videotape it then post it on totse.

I usually use two different techniques -

1. I talk to her and gently explain that I felt we "connected" more as friends.
e.g, "don't you remember when we used to just talk for ages and ages?"
Then i tell her how much better it would be if we break up and stay friends.

Of course, that never happens.

2. Over a period of weeks, months if you want to be sure, be gradually but surely more and more annoying. Little things. Every time she says hi, jerk your head to the left and mutter "cunt".

This clone speaks the truth.

It's been said and I'm sure you know from experience...it's just like a band aid...they say it doesn't hurt when you rip it off, but it does, only for a short while though.

The faster you go from "breaking up" to being "broken up" will determine how long it takes her to heal.

fuck that, not when you're 15.

I wouldn't dump a chick if she loved me that much. There's a chance you might regret it later, because that type of girl doesn't come along ALL that often.

Think about what your dumping.. Your going to dump a girl who is similar to you in many ways.. AND UNDERSTANDS YOU?

Like.. wtf?!

She sounds like a chick to stick with..
As crazy as this sounds.. Get a piece of paper and write
PROS NEUTRAL CONS



Then make a decision from there.

I'm not sure, but i've been here before. Last time i broke up, i was thinking of the same thing. But i ended up finding another girl afterwards. And after 5 months, i start getting the same thoughts. Why am i getting committed right now? When i'm not with my gf, all i can think of is how much i'd like to party.

Maybe she even deserves something better for herself. And i wouldn't want to end up cheating on her.

The grass is always greener type mentality eh? You need to figure this out for your self, on your own. This experience will be very important because this is the second time you've done it. Now it's a question of how many more times will you fall for the same trap before you learn to not get into committed relationships you can't actually commit to.

Good luck. Try and learn something from this whole ordeal.

I'm going to elaborate moar.

A chick that puts you first, and enjoys you more than anything, is so fucking valuable and you're an ungrateful fuck for wanting to give that up, though I do respect that you didn't cheat...

And your reason for wanting to dump her (wanting to fuck other chicks without a serious commitment) is so fucking stupid. You WILL regret it.

I don't know about that.

You'll do it for a while and either like it or you won't. Then you'll learn a valuable lesson and not take your next partner forgranted. Seriously, there are some lessons you have to learn yourself, and if you never do it, you're always going to be like "Damn, I wish I'd have dumped that girl and got some pussy while I was young."

You: I don't want to date you anymore.
Her: Ok.

Now everybody is posting like i'm some sort of asshole or something. I just don't feel anything anymore. I feel trapped and want to feel free. Is that a bad reason to break up with someone?

no one is calling you an asshole, it's better to break up with her than breaking her heart in other ways that are worse.

however, next time you really want to be in a relationship you better think twice and make sure you really fucking love her.

seriously, maybe I am an emotionally centered guy but I think the best part of a relationship is the fact that you love someone for who they are personality wise, not just physically...point is if you really don't feel anything for her, just break up, and don't do it thought a shitty TXT or phone call.

do it personally and try to understand her. If she really fucking loved you she is going to cry.

God it's going to suck dumping her though. Especially in person.

She's going to be like "Omigosh! HAY U! I'm so glad to see you! *hugs n kisses* i love youuu.."

Then you're gonna be all "Ugh..Here's the thing...*breakup*"

Then she's going to be like "........:("

Then you find out she's dead

Srsly, she will become An Hero and have her own ED page.

Dump Her Now.

An Hero

FUCK it pisses me off when people write 'an' before a 'H'. I've always wondered, is it because North Americans consider the H silent? Seriously, it's a fucking letter, how the fuck can you consider it a silent mother fucking letter? It has a sound. It sounds like H. Like a fucking H god damn it.

FUCK it pisses me off when people write 'an' before a 'H'. I've always wondered, is it because North Americans consider the H silent? Seriously, it's a fucking letter, how the fuck can you consider it a silent mother fucking letter? It has a sound. It sounds like H. Like a fucking H god damn it.
hi welcome to the internet, enjoy your stay.

1) Committing suicide over something really stupid.

2) Failing to commit suicide over something really stupid.

3) Doing something stupid, which results in accidentally killing yourself.

4) Also sometimes used on the work safe boards for someone who deliberately posts porn, which is considered both "suicidal" (due to the ban that usually follows), but truly heroic.

Term originates from a grammatically incorrect poem posted at a myspace memorial for a boy (Mitchell) who killed himself when he couldn't find his ipod. http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=an%20hero

Ohhhh arquinnnn....:(

FUCK it pisses me off when people write 'an' before a 'H'. I've always wondered, is it because North Americans consider the H silent? Seriously, it's a fucking letter, how the fuck can you consider it a silent mother fucking letter? It has a sound. It sounds like H. Like a fucking H god damn it.

lol @ self-pwn

Anyways, back on topic... Yeah, it's gonna be though, but i do believe it's the best for both. And yeah, i've been wondering why the hell did i get into a relationship again, so shortly after dumping a girl for this very same thing. Dumb me.

FUCK it pisses me off when people write 'an' before a 'H'. I've always wondered, is it because North Americans consider the H silent? Seriously, it's a fucking letter, how the fuck can you consider it a silent mother fucking letter? It has a sound. It sounds like H. Like a fucking H god damn it.

It's a channer thing afaik. For the record 'an' is correct if the following word starts with a silent 'h' e.g. hour. But I believe it's fading/ed from common usage because it sounds dodgy half the time.

It's a channer thing afaik. For the record 'an' is correct if the following word starts with a silent 'h' e.g. hour. But I believe it's fading/ed from common usage because it sounds dodgy half the time.

But I've heard Americans call things youmans, or erbs when they're obviously not silent H's.

And of course they'll put 'an' before those words.

I hoped this was going to be about kidney stones.

this...

But I've heard Americans call things youmans, or erbs when they're obviously not silent H's.

And of course they'll put 'an' before those words.

Grammar does not apply in America.

Chichi is right, except you HAVE to dump her.

The only way you're going to learn to appreciate the greatest person ever is if you go out and expell all the other stuff that's caught your mind.


Sucks for you in a way, more so for her though...

more so for her though...

For being the greatest person ever and still being rejected? Yup.

OP, I know it takes experience to learn the kind of shit we're talking about, but I really really think you should just reconsider. I know I'm being really stupid, but you really should take our word for it. You're going to wish you hadn't dumped this girl when you realize you aren't the awesome pickup artist you thought you were.

Maybe we should introduce the OP to ripstick.

Okay, an update on the situation, for anyone that may care to know what turned out.

So i broke up with her. It was just like i imagined, she was really hurt and started crying. I just went ahead and told her it was all over, that she still was a wonderful girl and all of that.

What i found amazing about this thread is that everybody started defending the girl, as if just because she was a nice girl i was supposed to be with her. I never believed she was "the one" or some of that bullshit. We got together, shared a lot of cool things but it's not like at some point i decided i was to be with this chick forever.

It was eventually to be over, i just decided to avoid wasting both of us' time when i didn't want to be in that relationship.

Everyone was getting pissed off at you not because of her, but because of your reasons for dumping her. She loved you a lot, and you gave her up because you thought you could turn into an awesome pickup artist.

Bump this thread when you get laid. I won't be holding my breath.

That's called reading between lines, something people did here a lot on this thread. Something that maybe shouldn't have been done, given that they totally misinterpreted me and my intentions.

First, this was obviously not the only reason to give her up, it was rather the one reason to really consider it. At times i found the relationship flat and somewhat boring. Maybe it was me, maybe it was her, but the point is that maybe a lot of people like a quiet, nice relationship, but in my case, and at 18 years old, it seemed like missing out.

And finally, why did everyone assume i was just referring to fucking chicks when i said i wanted to be "free"? Obviously i'd like to fuck more chicks, but it includes a whole bunch of things apart from that. I like the feeling of not having to report to my girlfriend everywhere i am, at all times. See, i like just going anywhere i please, without anyone getting upset or jealous because of the POSSIBILITY of chicks being there.

Besides, i was to end up cheating on her, thing i wouldn't have wanted to do. It's just an asshole-ish thing and pretty retarded.

You should've paid more attention to my post and less attention to their posts.