Im hoping im not the only one with this problem. My entire childhood/teenage years (23 now) was covered in obesity and low self esteem. I topped out at 380 pounds at age 17. I was constantly made fun of. I have never had sex, or a date. Now, I have gone through a COMPLETE transformation. I am down to 205 pounds. I am tan. I look like a completely different person. Girls stare at me now. It feels great. But, I have no trust, self esteem. There is a REALLY hot girl that likes me. First time in my life. She tells her friends she wants to go out with me. She even sent me a mypsace message saying "do i have to beg you to go out?" But my self esteem and trust is so low. I probably won't even end up asking her.

I know exactly how you feel.

Until the age of 16, I had a 44" waist.

Then I discovered martial arts and started training 7 days a week.

That summer I met a girl who'd been in my class at school for the last 5 years, who hadn't seen me since the June. She didn't recognise me.

But even now, I tend to end up buying clothes several sizes too big.

Why would you not ask her out? This could be the great self esteem boost that you need. And if she's begging you to ask her out, then she won't say no. This should kill any fear of rejection. Stop being a pussy and go for it.

Until the age of 16, I had a 44" waist.

Hahahahahahaha. Fucking owned.

. And if she's begging you to ask her out, then she won't say no. This should kill any fear of rejection. Stop being a pussy and go for it.

Yeah dude, you'll be kicking yourself forever if you pass up such an easy offer.

Seriously dude, what's the worse that can happen? If your insecure/awkward side shows you can resort to humour and reflect on the awkward situation (which will hopefully make it less awkward)

Just do it. If you look good and feel good why should this be a problem? If you never go for it you'll never get any experience and things will just be hard for you forever.

Hahahahahahaha. Fucking owned.

You have no idea just how badly...

Me at 14

http://i18.photobucket.com/albums/b116/horta/age14b.jpg

Girls stare at me now. It feels great. But, I have no self esteem.

You make no sense.

You'd be a fool to pass up such a golden opportunity. Stop being a whiny bitch and do it.


*ObZ

I went through something similar, about a year and a half ago I was a total nerd, pretty fat and with an OLD beatles style haircut. Basically someone who could get nothing.

But I got into weight training after a class I had and lost a significant amount of weight, got contacts and a haircut and now I'm actually facing relationship troubles, which is nice but also sucks of course. Basically I'd say life sucks either way.

i kinda know what you mean (although imma girl) and im 21....I was like 12-13 and weight about 140 and i was one of those depression eaters..well I straightened out bad shit that was going on..got into volleyball at a new school and lost weight..by the time I was 14 I was down to 92 pounds-96 pounds...guys started thinking i was hot n so i pretty much never thought I was worth ya know getting a dude but one day i just put it all aside to see what the fuck ya know and it worked...u just gotta go for it dude or else you will be in the same place forever (mentally)

u can do it!

You should had stayed fat and in school.

You have no idea just how badly...

Me at 14

http://i18.photobucket.com/albums/b116/horta/age14b.jpg

Not bad :o

Why do you need self-esteem or trust? It's free pussy. Stop thinking and go for it.

"oh look at me totse im so hot and the girls stare at me but im afraid to go out on a date when a girl is practically begging me."


grow a pair faggot.

Well, she may have something that is similar in her history. Maybe she was made fun of as a teenager and is terrified to ask you out because she thinks she is not good enough.

A lot of people were made fun of in school and now are much better looking or financially better or started taking showers. Whatever it was that they were made fun of over. But that hurt and lack of trust does not go away.

In my opinion, it sounds to me like she may be going through the same issues that you are.

Go for it man, just take it slow and it will feel pretty natural after a bit. Everything is weird the first time you do it.

I had the same kind of self esteem problems but from the opposite end of the size spectrum. I was 15 5'4'' and 74lbs, then I hit puberty and became the 6'2'' 162lb person I am now.

Go for it. She's begging you, it doesn't get easier than this. At first its wierd but then after a while it will make sense. At 18 i was 250 and showed it bad. Worked it off after HS and am at 160 now.

If you don't ask her out, there's always someone else that will.

Go after some big girls to build your e-peen irl.

I agree. Practice on some fatties. Then when you get with the hot girl you'll know what your doing instead of disappointing her and bruising your already shitty ego.

IMO, you're going to be awkward about your first girlfriend no matter what your weight or self-esteem issues. Might as well go for it. Better to have loved and lost.

try to camouflage your loose skin with fabrics

Look at yourself in the mirror and try to pick out things you don't like about yourself.
Compare it to what you used to look like.

Ask out the girl. Sounds like she's mad keen.

It could be something new, something to boost your motivation. Something to work for.

this might sound strange, but its people like you that I have the utmost respect for. Keep it up. :D