So basically I've been with my girlfriend for four months. We haven't had any fights or arguments, but about two months ago I started feeling less and less "in love" with my girlfriend. These doubts were brewing in my head for about a month then I got drunk and had sex with a very good friend of mine we stopped after a bit because we recognized it was wrong. I felt terrible and threw myself back into my relationship again. Then about three weeks later we had sex again, sober this time, and it was alot more sex, alot more enthusiastic, and we did not stop. I felt little guilt in the morning, except for messing with her relationship because her boyfriend is in the other side of the country and we vowed to not hang out alone at night together for that reason alone. I've also almost hooked up with several other girls since then but stopped at the very intense I'll get laid in ten minutes if this flirting keeps up state.

So I don't feel the same way about my girlfriend as I used to. I still really like her as a friend, but I don't think I love her anymore. I really care about her feelings and want to let her down as gently as possible. She has a pretty important play coming up so if I pull the plug on this I'm going to wait till after that. No major arguments happened, I just feel we drifted apart, and the worst part is I still act very into the relationship and she is very into it. How can I start sending signals that will make it hurt less?

break up with her. You both deserve someone you love and who loves you back.

I don't understand how some people can't come to this conclusion themselves.

I don't understand how some people can't come to this conclusion themselves.

hes a new arrival....new arrivals tend to post obvious questions....but i cant be talking since my status is new arrival but iv been with totse a good 2 years before having last account banned.:(

I don't understand how some people can't come to this conclusion themselves.

its new arrivals. they are young and fucking retarded

You have been with her four months and aren't 'in love' with her anymore?

You were never in love with her. You might have lusted after her, or enjoyed her company, but those are completely different to love.

This.

And you aren't doing her any favors by staying with her, you know. Because you obviously can't return her feelings, give her what she needs, and be faithful to her. The longer you stay with her the harder it will be when she realizes that those few weeks she thought everything was fine, you were cheating on her and planning to dump her. Trust me, you think you're doing her a favor by not breaking up until after the play, but you're not. Cut her lose; she deserves someone who she can have a relationship with, as do you.

I got drunk and had sex with a very good friend of mine we stopped after a bit because we recognized it was wrong.

Then about three weeks later we had sex again, sober this time, and it was alot more sex, alot more enthusiastic, and we did not stop.

Well, at least you learn from your mistakes.

I've also almost hooked up with several other girls since then but stopped at the very intense I'll get laid in ten minutes if this flirting keeps up state.

So I don't feel the same way about my girlfriend as I used to.

You came to that conclusion all on your own? Good boy!

I really care about her feelings and want to let her down as gently as possible.

It shows. Especially what with all the cheating on her and not considering her feelings. You are indeed quite a sensitive guy and any girl would be lucky to have you.

OP you are pretty much scum. I'm sorry. I'm not sorry because you're scum, but because everyone else has to live on the same planet as people like you. Hopefully something in this post will make you recognise that you should a) not be such a pathetic excuse for a human being, or b) kill yourself.

Agreed with malkog, you are spineless fucking scum. You say you don't want to hurt her feelings, then you cheat on her? Go down some fucking cyanide. :)

I feel bad for your "gf" You cheat one her that many times... You piece of shit..

Gimme your gfs location and number so me and some of the other Totseans can go run the train on her and see how you feel about it..

Scum

Hopefully something in this post will make you recognise that you should a) not be such a pathetic excuse for a human being, or b) kill yourself.

Hopefully this post will make you recognise that you should a) not be such a pathetic excuse for a human being, or b) kill yourself.


Hopefully this post will make you recognise that you should b) kill yourself.

make you recognise that you should b) kill yourself.

that you should b) kill yourself.

should b) kill yourself.

b) kill yourself.

kill yourself.

kill yourself.

kill yourself.

kill yourself.

Thankyou.

Your all pretty dumb, I clearly stated that I cheated on her once, and caught myself nearing that line several other times. Do you understand the concept of flirting? Its "romantic" chatter that ranges from innocent to, if I keep this up for a little bit longer, I'm getting laid. I recognized what would happen if I continued, and I ceased my actions anyone that would consider that cheating is quite stupid.

Also what is wrong about caring for someone as a friend yet no longer wanting to be romantically involved. That would leave me in a situation where I would in fact want to hurt her as little as possible. I understand I need to break up with her just figuring out how to do it is difficult.

Your all pretty dumb

Hahaha.

The english language: learn it.

I clearly stated that I cheated on her once, and caught myself nearing that line several other times.

And you're calling us dumb? Cheating once is bad enough. Flirting up to that point is the same as the kid who's told not to push the button, so he sticks his finger right up next to the button, but doesn't touch it. Sure, he's doing nothing wrong, but he's still a little fucktard who's looking for an arse-kicking.

Also what is wrong about caring for someone as a friend yet no longer wanting to be romantically involved. That would leave me in a situation where I would in fact want to hurt her as little as possible. I understand I need to break up with her just figuring out how to do it is difficult.

As much as you say you care about her, your actions show that you quite clearly don't. Think about it like this: if you kill yourself, you never have to break up with her. Just ponder that one for a while. If you really care about her, you'll make the right choice.

Don't try to justify it. Cheating is wrong, no matter how many times you could have done it, it's the times you did that matter.

Tell her that you cheat on her, and you think you should break up. Seriously, there's no nice way to put it.

And you're calling us dumb? Cheating once is bad enough. Flirting up to that point is the same as the kid who's told not to push the button, so he sticks his finger right up next to the button, but doesn't touch it. Sure, he's doing nothing wrong, but he's still a little fucktard who's looking for an arse-kicking.





hah!! GREAT analogy! LOL

He's right, too. You were with her for four months and have already full on had sex with someone else and came damn close to it "several" other times? And you claim you "don't love her anymore"? I'm gonna go out on a limb and say you never did - stop stringing her along and stick with the sluts that won't care.

the answer is right in front of you all you have to do is open your eyes

It may not effect you much now, but one day, you're going to find one who you think you legitimately love, and then YOU will get cheated on.

Make sure you post about it when it happens.

Don't try to justify it. Cheating is wrong, no matter how many times you could have done it, it's the times you did that matter.

Tell her that you cheat on her, and you think you should break up. Seriously, there's no nice way to put it.

I'm not trying to justify it I was actually trying to make a point. I have been in one relationship before and would not have been caught dead doing anything more than talking to another girl, the point I was trying to make is that my heart really just isn't in it.

I'm sorry Mr. Grammar Nazi. You're all pretty dumb. Is that better? Can you sleep at night now?

Also I know the answer is to breakup with her I'm just having trouble with it.

I'm not trying to justify it I was actually trying to make a point. I have been in one relationship before and would not have been caught dead doing anything more than talking to another girl, the point I was trying to make is that my heart really just isn't in it.

I'm sorry Mr. Grammar Nazi. You're all pretty dumb. Is that better? Can you sleep at night now?

Also I know the answer is to breakup with her I'm just having trouble with it.

uhm i thought this was pretty obvious? if you dont love her anymore, break up with her?

durrrr

uhm i thought this was pretty obvious? if you dont love her anymore, break up with her?

durrrr

Also I know the answer is to breakup with her I'm just having trouble with it.

Its a difficult task...

Also I know the answer is to breakup with her I'm just having trouble with it.

Its a difficult task...

well its like going to the dentist

you dont want to do it, in fact you dread it, but at the end of the day you are still gonna have to do it so you might as well man up and get it over with

Thank you for the first reasonable, non-judgmental, piece of advice I have heard so far.

Who me? heh thanks...well I try to be as non-judgemental as possible

It's funny because it's WAN.

But seriously, it's not hard. You never loved this girl, you cheated on her because you are a wanker, and now you are going to break up with her because you got bored with her.

Oh well, what doesn't kill us makes us stronger I suppose.

It's funny because it's WAN.

But seriously, it's not hard. You never loved this girl, you cheated on her because you are a wanker, and now you are going to break up with her because you got bored with her.

Oh well, what doesn't kill us makes us stronger I suppose.

lol@jugementalness

seriously, aint nothing wrong with cheating. I know that from a legal standpoint cheating on one's spouse is condemnable but other than that i personally don't see the harm in cheating. well maybe it will hurt your partner, but since you've already decided to cheat, you probably don't have feelings for him/her anymore, so it's a moot point.

also, he wants to break up with her not becuse he's "bored" with her, he wants to do that because he doesn't love her anymore, or something.

lol@jugementalness

seriously, aint nothing wrong with cheating. I know that from a legal standpoint cheating on one's spouse is condemnable but other than that i personally don't see the harm in cheating. well maybe it will hurt your partner, but since you've already decided to cheat, you probably don't have feelings for him/her anymore, so it's a moot point.

also, he wants to break up with her not becuse he's "bored" with her, he wants to do that because he doesn't love her anymore, or something.

Life revolves around judgement, I'd get used to it.

It's not a moot point, just because you don't care about their feelings doesn't somehow justify it.

And maybe bored was the wrong word, but love doesn't factor into a 4 month relationship, especially when the guy cheats.

put you penis into her warm, inviting, loving anus with both hands on her tits and your tongue down her throat, and then re-evaluate these thoughts.

i did this with one gf...
after rolling and meeting this girl at a rave, im like marika i dont love u anymore, we gotta go new ways... and she started balling ......=[

Also I know the answer is to breakup with her I'm just having trouble with it.

Its a difficult task...

*clears throat*
You: I don't want to be in a relationship with you anymore.
Her: Ok.

Atleast fuck her hardcore and long for one last time before you go your way.

I was put in a similar situation recently, but i was dating a girl for about 4 months and I just met a girl at the beach 8 hours away from home. She wanted my dick like it was going out of style, but I turned her down. I told my gf about it and she didn't believe me and held something I never did against me for the next 8 months. In retrospect I regret not fucking that fine ass girl's brains out.



do what feels right, just do whatever you want. Sure it might sting, but people eventually get over it.

I love how at first he's being insulted and told to kill himself for his insensitivity but then it slowly goes in to the
Atleast fuck her hardcore and long for one last time before you go your way.
kinds of advice.

Whereabouts in St. Louis are you from? I, too, am from St. Louis...except now I live in Maryland.