Ok this situation is a bit complex so ill do my best to explain.

Ive been with my girl for a year now. and we have been doing fine up until i started applying for a university to go to after im done with high school. up until now according to her and all of her friends Ive been nothing short of a picture perfect boy friend to her, i treat her better then fucking royalty and i care for her till the ends of the earth. however i cant say the same from her.

i truly believe my self to be in-love with her, and she claims to feel the same way. but as of lately her pessimism has been getting in the way of everything also her cruel jokes, attitude, distrust, and disrespect make me want to club her in the side of the head with a club.

of course i would not leave you guys in to cold with out examples of exactly what she does. (all in hopes to see if its me that needs professional help or not)

Cruel jokes- She has made the choice to not have sex till she feels ready, and i have been a gentleman and been respecting that decision with absolutely no questions asked again like a gentleman. however this does not mean we don't have our fun. so she takes it upon her self to kill what little sexual fulfillment we have by convincing her self and pretending to be fucking pregnant, that joke alone is enough to kill 99% of men ( wont you agree). the killer here is that after she notices that its getting serious, she decides to say it was a joke and that i take things to serious, then presumes to be mad at me for it. (yea i know....*sigh*)

Attitude- This girl has a bad temper, that can be flared up by nothing and by nothing i literally mean NOTHING ( more on this later)but when she gets upset, she acts like a fucking 5 year old, when i talk to her with serious subjects she mockingly repeats what i say or answers me at a very temper wrecking sarcastic manner and the laughs about it, and very often just gets up and walks away laughing. then she gets upset at me when i get pissed at her bullshit.and i end up being the one that has to apologize.

Distrust- here it gets a bit personal, she thinks i have a secret life or something, cause up until recently i found out that she has hacked my myspace on several occasions, she has also checked my email, my computers files when i leave the room, and my fucking phone. Did i mention the fact that not I but my mother caught her sending suggestively erotic texts to another guy? yet i manage to still trust her, but why cant she? oh she also calls me a liar on every possible occasion, even tho as hard as it is to believe, ive done my very best to keep my relationship with her honest.

Disrespect- ok so she mentally cheated on me with another guy and my mom caught her. that disrespectful to me and my whole family. she has also got the god damn habit of calling me: cute, "you remind me of a dog", "sit... aww...good boy". the thing she does when i try to talk to her. hits me in public,and a nasty habit of slapping me. the whole mocking me when i talk to her. and pretty much every other thing on the god damn book.

TEMPER: i dont think i need to say anymore then she has actually told me that there are days that she wakes up pissed at me for no reason or for something i did on her dreams. or i looked at her the wrong way or my personal favorite "i don't know why im mad at you i just am... is that so hard to understand"... so that might give you a little inside of how bad it actually gets when i do screw up.

the list continues BTW

anyway sorry for getting a little side tracked. like i said ive been dating her for a year now. a and her friends my friends her MOTHER and even her GRANDMA!!! have told me that i am as perfect of a boyfriend as it gets. (personally i don't think its true but i do treat her like a fucking princes). so here is my issue, today she said to me out of literally now where. "you do realize that we are not going to have sex for at least 3 more years" and im like... yea i know we established this a wile ago and im going to respect it, im not going to be happy about it but ill respect it. so she flips out on me about how im lying. then she tells me that when i go to hte university, im going to change and going to become like every other guy (which she knows i take offensively because she means that im going to become a player). then she told me a story, that seems like shes been through it like 10000 times.

That im going to get out of high school
Im going to go to the university
Im going to meet a girl and like this girl
And this girl is going to give me all the things i "need"
Then going to leave her, and forget about her
then go live happily ever after with the other girl

it seemed so pre-rehearsed that it hurt me. like wow after all that i have proven to her, after all the shit that i put up with because i love her more then all the stuff i just wrote. this is what she thinks of me and this is how she sees our future together. im really hurt. and frankly at this point dont know what to do. i feel insulted and like i just wasted a year of my life on something that does not even appreciate the things i do.

guys i really need help on this one

That im going to get out of high school
Im going to go to the university
Im going to meet a girl and like this girl
And this girl is going to give me all the things i "need"
Then going to leave her, and forget about her
then go live happily ever after with the other girl



This is what you should do.

This is what you should do.

ex2.

go forth and be prosperous.

She seems to need some sort of medical help. Id just get rid of her go to college and find someone else , it isn't that hard.

How the fuck have you convinced yourself that you are in love with this psychopath? Dump her and find a girl that wont treat you like shit.

Say something along the lines of this:

"I need to tell you a few things, and I need you to listen till I'm done speaking, do you think you can do this?"

"Yes" (after this point, any time she interrupts say something like "Bitch! That is NOT listening" or "Shut the fuck up, I'm speaking now")

"Okay, so I put up with a heap of your shit, I've been doing it for a long time and I saw no problem with the occasional outburst you'd have or the cruel jokes because I love you. But now it's gone too far. I'm totally sick of your shit. You're a head case, you're fucked up and it's disgusting. I CAN do better than you, and if you don't get your fucking act together I WILL do better than you at college. Do I need to make it any clearer or do you already have a pretty good idea of how much pussy I'll be getting? You think you're the only girl in the world who could like me? No. There are better more beautiful girls out there who will like me more and treat me better. But at this point I'm blind to those girls because I love you and in my eyes you're the most beautiful girl in the world. Get your act together, starting right now. Stop and think about things before you let your self be a crazy cunt. Understand? No. More. Craziness. Next time you fuck with me, we're over." -

If she decides to stick around after this butt raping, make sure to fuck with HER head for a few days to show her what she was doing and to remind her not to do it again. Randomly get pissed off at her, then tell her "i don't know why im mad at you i just am... is that so hard to understand". Also say things like "You remind me of a slut", "suck... aww...good girl". When she's about to break, return to your normal, nice and understanding self.

Be willing to back this all up, or, just dump her. She sounds like a stupid cunt. Personally I'd just play games with this girl till she's contemplating suicide. But that's why you're a good guy.

You sound like a good guy. I agree with everyone on saying you should dump this girl, and find a better one. You don't deserve to be treated like that, and she has no right to act like that toward you. She cannot see everything you've done, apparently. There's no point in trying to show her. If you stay with her, you will be miserable dealing with that shit for the rest of your life. One year wasted is a lot better than 5, 10, even 20 years. Get out. Now.

okay man what im about to say may hurt but take these words in.

she doesnt trust you because shes cheating on you, it just makes sense. after someone breaks the trust in a relationship all they can think from then on (if they dont get caught) is that their significant other is getting away with doing the same thing.
secondly she doesnt want as much sex from you because she's getting different satisfaction from somewhere else. did you guys used to sleep together more? was it more passionate in the past?

get out of the relationship quick because you should have a girl who wants to do more for you than vice/versa. she sends flirtacious texts to other guys and your mom found them? raise your standards homeboy, you deserve better.

unfortunately it sounds like your trusting too much here guy.

I agree with this, it will cut her deep; BUT be prepared to be blamed for EVERYTHING by her, and almost certainly her friend, and maybe even a few of your friends (this is ok though, cause you will find out if they're good friends)

dude... i was in almost the exact situation like 4 months ago
we were in "love"
the girl was a crazy, did almost exactly the same things and i am now at College and it is the SHIT! Bitches left,right,behind and infront of me.

i left her ass and i am a lot better off from it. I said fuck that and didnt look back. My theory is if she isnt wiling to treat you good 100% of the time then she is not worth waisting your time on.

Only a cheater would know these things.

hey man (OP)... I think you should get out of this situation ASAP and leave her. its not healthy for you at all. she is unfair for you and immature. find a better girl for you that you deserve. PLEASE. it killed me to read that whole thing that you have to take that crap everyday from her. well goodluck mate:) hope you find the right one

I agree with the other poster who said you need to sit her down for a talk. Call her out on the bullshit.

"I need to talk to you and I don't want you to say anything until I am done. Okay? I love you but you're acting like an immature toddler. I have done nothing that warrants distrust yet you keep implying that I am unfaithful. You've become paranoid: reading my texts, myspace, e-mails; and generally a really cold person. After being your boyfriend for over a year I thought you would be able to talk to me about whats really going on. My heart still remains with you but if things continue the way they are going, I'm not sure for how much longer that will be true. "

Personally I'd just dump her, she sounds like she's twelve.

Women love bastards. Just remember that

This is going to sound a little odd. Either get some control over her(i.e. don't take her shit, never let her slap you and if she does, grab her by the wrist and ask her if it's funny now) or start to show signs of what you are feeling to the ones closest around her which will either force her to change or lead the way to a break up with it being her fault.

To be a little more clear, she walks all over you because she knows she can.

Next time she slaps you, just break her fucking nose and say it was self defense.

You could save it by trying to tell her shes a bitch, in a gentlemans manor of course, she might then understand, but from what i've heard about her, she will mock you, when she does that, turn around and just start walking away, and end it.. well thats what I would do. :p

Jesus fuckin christ...is her name Christina???

hey guys i bit the bullet and ended it. it took alot but if this does not get the point across to her nothing on the heavens or earth will. so thank all of you for reminding me where my balls where and helping me get my dignity and sanity back.
as much as it hurts is probably the best thing to do. and no her name is not christina.. lol:D

and no her name is not christina.. lol:D

thank god. For a minute I thought you were describing my ex. Shes a real psycho too..

glad to hear it worked out for you dude.

that was the right thing to do man:) now you can find a girl that will appreciate you and like you for who you are

Listen to that voice. Leave.

This actually is very common... and so is the readily available remedy.

Good News = Your the good type so will go on to meet a hotter better girlfriend who will give you what you
"need" (that's what girlfriends do)

Bad News = Your going to have to leave her,... sucks dude.

Through the Looking Glass :

Look man, this girl obviously isn't worth a dribble of piss off the tip of my dick, but we all know you adore her. To me it's like looking at a hot air ballon that is still tied down to the earth. Cept this hot air ballon thinks it's flying. Let that hooker go. Cause if that is her outlook on life and treating you like that she's on that read within 4-7 years. Ask yourself... do you really want to marry a hooker?

and here is what kills me.... Your not even fucking her. Your choice... fine and all, but they call it pussywhipping for a reason. All guys know if your smashing, who cares if she treats you like a dog. I guarantee you that if you hit it right, she's going to be the one down on all fours.... fetching and shit.

EZ-Breakup: Stop taking calls, "can't hang out... I'm out with my MOM!!!" (that one is awesome)
cost: (You'd be a liar unless your really hanging out with your mom)

Hard-Breakup: Face-to-Face, feelings and shit... (man FUCK THAT!!!)
cost: (You dignity)

My-Way: Take this bitch out to Great Adventure and leave her there... (get a pre-paid with no minutes and give it to her)
cost: ($20, some gas, a coke, and a cigarette)

Give her a chance to get her shit together now that you've dumped her ass.

People just need a reminder now and then of how good they've got it, and she might (and this is very low in chance) realise what she had, and come back asking what she can do.

But if she does that, tell her she has to have sex with you.

Well done brother.

Never, ever EVER get back with her, even if she starts so nice next time you see her it's as if she's has a brain transplant. She hasn't.

feel the control. might not now, but soon, it will feel VERY good. And she will porb never feel such a thing. boo hoo.

*plays worlds smallest violin for all the crazy bitchs out there who get better treatment than they deserve, then get a wake up slap*

well done brother.

Never, ever ever get back with her, even if she starts so nice next time you see her it's as if she's has a brain transplant. She hasn't.

Feel the control. Might not now, but soon, it will feel very good. And she will porb never feel such a thing. Boo hoo.

*plays worlds smallest violin for all the crazy bitchs out there who get better treatment than they deserve, then get a wake up slap*

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