Heil totse. I have been in a relationship for about 4 months now and it has been relatively wholesome/happy/etc. until recently. My significant other went out-of-state sometime mid-August to visit relatives and while there met someone her age. He got her digits before she returned and they have been staying in touch ever since. For some time he called her on a basically nightly basis. I don't have a problem with this because I'm not an insecure possessive bastard, so I never really brought it up. I figured they are friends, as she often says. Flash forward to her visiting her family/him late October. They went to a party together/saw a movie/etc. she ended up crashing at his house in his bed (with a protective male cousin). They ended up kissing (hahah no not her and her cousin), which I only learned because I overheard her talking to a female cousin.

They still talk and he calls her quite frequently, although they don't really talk when I'm with her. She has spent alot of time with him and will probably spend more time with him: her dad wants to fly him out here and she is considering moving over there next summer. Whenever I bring it up, she just insists they are friends. She tells others " i'm getting way too attached to him"

Is it wrong for me to kick her ass to the curb? I have given her a chance to be honest and upfront about this shit, but apparently she wants to continue do things behind my back. I have turned down at least 4 girls in the past 2 months because we discussed fidelity and agreed to remain committed to eachother.

Input, thanks.

Dump her.

She DIDN'T tell you. You had to hear it from someone else (overhearing it at that).

That's not a sign of a healthy relationship.
She sounds like a bitch, you should dump her.

Drop her like a bad habit.

fuck her a couple times then drop her.

Preferably, you should drop her like it's hot. Bad habits can be quite troublesome to kick.

^^ dump her indeed


Seem likes the don't throw out your old shoes till you got your new ones girl

Not being jalous is ok, but why would he call her every fuckin night? Call her when your there, when your not there. She kissed him even...

There's no loyalty, no trust (cause she didn't tell you herself did she) and no respect (i mean, she wouldn't do it this way if she respected you), so basicly, HOPEFULLY for you, all there's left to this relationship is sex
You can get that anywhere

What can i say but, run bitch, run... while you can......

...so she wants to move to where he is, leaving you her boyfriend behind, to be with someone who is 'just a friend'...someone who she has kissed in the past, someone who she seems to be quite intimate with...

Kick the cheating bitch to the curb.

I'm a chick and I know all the games. This bitch is playing you and you're going to get hurt. Either tell her it's going too far and set some boundaries or dump her ass.

Time to Man up.. And Ditch the Bitch.. Have some balls man.

Definitely dump her. I'm in a situation where I am the other guy at the end of the spectrum, and she constantly tells him we're just friends.

In fact, if I was smart, I'd kick her to the curb too... she's playing both of you. In my situation, she won't dump him, but has no problems cheating on him.

donkey punch her then tell her how it is

How could you ever tell? I bow to your superior wisdom.

dump the ho.
Replace with new girl.

All is well :D

dump or get allowed you only cheating

What are you waiting for?

Drop it like it's hot.

Are you retarded? And I'm not even trying to be a jerk, but do you actually have an additional chromosome or something?

I don't have a problem with this because I'm not an insecure possessive bastard

That was your mistake. Girls kind of want you to try to own them, obviously you were letting her treat you like a doormat so she had to go find another guy.

abandon ship, people are giving you good advice so take it.

She's a bitch.

Tell her you think she should be honest with you about them. If she's honest maybe try to work something out if you still love her/etc. If not break up.

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yes.

please pay the receptionist on your way out