I know all girls do this, and I can pretty accurately point it out when I see another girl doing it. But now I'm suspecting my girlfriend of trying to fuck with my head, you know like saying little things to make me jealous and acting like she doesn't care about me and shit like that. The only thing is that this is MY relationship, so obviously emotions will get in the way of my reasoning.

So anyway, sometimes she talks about how much fun she had with certain guys she knows I hate, and it gets me pissed off. And sometimes she'll purposefully jump off my lap and leave without saying bye. Just things like that.

But, on the other hand, our mutual friends tell me that she always talks about me and how much she loves me and such, and she is usually very warm to me but acts in the mindfucking ways I described occasionally.

So yeah...Is she trying to fuck with my head?

If so, is it because she wants attention?

What do I do about it?

Is it really clear that she knows you hate them? Maybe you should talk to her. She could be trying to get you to communicate her or something.

But fuck that, the best girls don't play games.

She might be feeling a bit insecure about the relationship. Maybe she feels like you're such a great guy and you could have lots of other girls, and she wants you to know that she can have lots of other guys too.

That's how I read the situation anyway.

So I would communicate with her a bit better that you and her are the real deal, or however you feel about her. Maybe that's all she wants. Still, I don't really know the ins and outs of your relationship, so I could be completely wrong. Communication is the key, it will make your relationship stronger.

And yes, she is fucking with you. I've done similar things to girls when they piss me off.

Communication is key.

So don't make the common mistake of simply assuming she's doing anything just to be vindictive, or to "fuck with your head." That's unfair to her.

If you want to avoid mindgames, ask her straight out- (nicely, don't accuse her with your tone) why she talks about hanging out with people you don't like so much, and if she's aware that it bothers you.

If you want to avoid mindgames, ask her straight out- (nicely, don't accuse her with your tone)

This has been my problem for a while. I really can't excercise any kind of tact when talking to her about these things.

Suggested dialogue?

Okay Fellas. Girls 101.

They talk about other guys, ignore you and are mean to you for one reason. Attention. They want you to get jealous, be mad, grab them and claim that they are YOUR women, no one else's and beat your chest in a manly fashion.

This chick seems like she is completely head over heels for you, talking to her friends about how she loves you. She's just looking for some assurance that you feel the same way. I admit she's using horrible tact to get a reaction, but this is what girls do. Just completely forget everything she's done. It wasn't meant to hurt you. You should feel flattered she needs such attention from you. Do something extremely romantic and surprising just out of the blue. Let her know how much she means to you.

She should stop the behavior.

Dead girls don't play mind games.

ROTFLMAO. When I meet a person who doesn't play games, I'll eat my own head. Everyone plays games, the game and objectives only change. The best girls that you speak of, play games really really well, which is why they don't appear to be doing anything. Even being straight forward is a game in itself, cause we are constantly prodding at each other for reactions to see where we, and our thinking stands with others. Everyone plays games, its just a matter of what games you're willing to play.

But fuck that, the best girls don't play games.

Dead girls don't play mind games.

So using these two arguments, we can conclude that dead girls are the best girls.

OP: the only solution is to kill your girlfriend.

So what we've learned from this is that girls are fucking retarded. You seriously think we don't know that you're fucking with us? We do. We know and we hate you for it. The only reason we don't mention it to you is because when we actually try to talk about it we sound retarded and paranoid, so fuck you you fucking scrags.

After this girl I'm getting a boyfriend.

After this girl I'm getting a boyfriend.

Hi there.

So anyway, what happens if I DON'T play along?

Will she be all "oh well this relationship sucks, I'll go find a boy who cares."

plz help :(

Well?

I had to register just to reply to this.

Let me just say, she just wants attention. Granted, she's going about it in a stupid childish manner - but hey, we're all childish sometimes.

So your choices are:

Give her some extra little attention thing to show her that you have noticed what she's craving and you value your relationship enough to want to do something nice for her.

OR

Just end it and move on.


I also had to respond to the previous poster talking about girls do this. No they do not ALL play games like this. I did this when I was like maybe 15? 16? Then we grow up and become confident women that are capable of talking to our men about what we want and don't want from them and don't need these games to get what we want.

I also had to respond to the previous poster talking about girls do this. No they do not ALL play games like this. I did this when I was like maybe 15? 16? Then we grow up and become confident women that are capable of talking to our men about what we want and don't want from them and don't need these games to get what we want.

Hahahahahahaha.

I also had to respond to the previous poster talking about girls do this. No they do not ALL play games like this. I did this when I was like maybe 15? 16? Then we grow up and become confident women that are capable of talking to our men about what we want and don't want from them and don't need these games to get what we want.

Will you marry me?

I want all the "Men" or "Young Men" in this thread to realize 1 thing and be very careful. Im sorry guys but when it comes to arguments/quick thinking/Lies/Mind Games, girls are evolutionary set up to excel in this area!

Our brains were built differently as humans progressed. Men were the fighters, and it was the men who needed to accomplish shit quickly. You dont have time to figure out a well designed plan when a panther is chasing you! You dont have time to slack on your hunting as your family starves. Examples like these, as well as our larger brains, make it so we are built to figure out shit in a timely manner.

As for women, remember they were the care givers. They cooked the meal, they watched the children, and sat on their asses all day. THis gave them plenty of time to think, and naturally they needed to multi task. Combine examples like these with their smaller brains, and women were granted the art of thinking in a fast manner, and the ability to switch subject to subject.

Once we understand this guys we can use it to our advantage. Dont try to figure there actions or conversations out! Dont even argue. Wait till the argument is over. As the man you need to relax, and watch every little tatic they are trying to do! You will figure it out, you can win the argument and even call their bull shit! But it will require mindfulness, as well as a resistance to their trickery!

It was women who convinced men to eat the forbidden fruit!

Women are the Dark side of the Yin Yang

Once you calm your mind enough to see pass the bull shit women try to use.......you will be enlightened to the fact that they are the weaker of our species. And they dont have a leg to stand on!

Sorry Jad - not today?

I don't think women being a different sort of thinker makes them the "weaker" of the species. Some could argue that being able to think this way gives us an edge.

I think we're equal but different. I think men (especially young men) have a huge misconception about what to expect from young women and unfortunately it results in a lot of stupid mind games both ways. Young women want attention and young men think it emasculates them to give them too much attention. It's a struggle both ways.

Eventually some people grow up and find that they can stop worrying about all of the dark-ages bullshit about how our "society" may think relationships *should* work. That's when things get more enjoyable and become a lot less confusing.

This has been my problem for a while. I really can't excercise any kind of tact when talking to her about these things.

Suggested dialogue?

"Hey, I've noticed you seems to bring up so-and so (guy's name) around me an awful lot. And I was wondering if you were making a point of doing so. I mean, you know that bothers me right?"

That's not very accusatory at all.

If she is doing it on purpose to get attention, it might take some coaxing to get her (or anyone) to admit it. Doing something romantic to surprise her once in awhile isn't a bad idea. She might feel like she pays more attention to you than you do to her.


Just keep in mind that girls can be oblivious too. Sometimes you need to call their attention to some inconsiderate habit they might have picked up. It's not always vindictive.

Girls need to be reassured, to be told they are cared about. It is the nature of a female to be the care giver, and the more emotional of the two... statisticly speaking. If they feel they are not getting it they may try to make you jelouse... or to try and get you to pay attention to her. But leaving without a goodbye, and shit like that just shows her total disregard for your feelings. That is pretty fucked up in my opinion.

Though I agree with you in principle and biology, this whole forbiddin fruit shit seems a little excesive. as if it were impossible to win an argument with a women, and women, EVER. and they were all fucking imps trying to take from our 'stronger' nature. they have certain advantages over us, and us them. Its not like one is better than the other from an objective point of view. at best, we might be coplimentry

The problem arises when certan women are imprevious to argument, and we keep on trying as if we will 'get thru' to them if only we could say or do the right thing. when sometimes, you really got to cut your losses, and look for greener fields

oh, and andeanbr - I'll wait for you baby

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