I don't know if this belongs in headshrinkers, but it has to do with sex so I'm gonna post it here. First off, I don't mean violent like slap around. Every time I fantasize about sex, I think about raping/murdering the girl. It doesn't get me off unless that is how it goes. I've had sex before, but it wasn't any fun until I started hitting the girl I was doing it with. Anyone else feel like this?

no, i think u are one of those prisoner types.

Seek proffessional help.

I'm not quite in the same boat as you. I can cum from vanilla sex etc, but it's a lot better if the girl is scared. The best sex of my life involved choking the girl to the point where she was passing out. Fortunately, some girls are into that sort of thing.

Honestly, if you're dependent of violence for sexual gratification... Professional help might be a good idea. That depends on how strong your urges are. If you could be happy with a girl who has rape fantasies, then you might be fine without. If you feel the need to tear flesh though...

Ichi the Killer is coming for you

Shit, I swear I viewed the thread title as "Violet Sex" and I had this surreal image of a couple fucking in a room covered with Violet Velvet at moonlight.

I'm not high.

I used to be a lot like that. I had a lot of violent fantasies, and I still do to a certain extent. I still have no problem cumming from sex, though.

There's a good chance you'll grow out of it.

Do you watch porn a lot? If so, I'd recommend watching less. It makes it easier to devalue women and validates a lot of aggression towards them. I'm guessing you watch really demeaning porn/violent porn.

Like others said, find a girl who'll let you mess her up.

Whereas....

- your post adresses issues which actually are the real-life experience of a small but worthwhile minority of the population, and...

- you didn't try to blow the credibility of your role in your first post...

I give your introductory troll an 8.75/10. Seriously. Good job. The best trolling attempts credibly raise real and substantiative issues for discussion - the very issues that &totse is here to discuss and adress. It is win! Props2u!

That said...

1. There is a BDSM community. Rape-play and violence already have well documented protocols to be handled in a safe, sane, and consensual fashion.

2. You're probably fucked on the "murder" part... but, hey. You can kidnap, rape, and beat the shit out of someone you're fucking in an established sexual relationship pretty much all you want. All you have to do is honor the occasional safeword when it happens (and yes, some people will leave a partner forever if they ever use the safeword), and find someone with the corresponding kinks, and it's no problem... you meet in a bar, you exchange safewords, you part company. Six months to a year later, without telling her or even talking to her inbetween, you drive up, kidnap the bitch, drag her back to your dungeon, and beat the shit out of her with a belt while forcing her to the ground and shoving it up her without lube. She wins, you win, profit.

...you may wanna talk to an attorney about "documenting intent" regarding the edgier side of sceneplay, but seriously... you are not the first traveler down such a path, and there are options out there for you.

fixed.


man that sucked.

I don't know about the whole rape/murder thing, but my I let my boyfriend slap me/call me names during sex, and I like it.

I guess you just have to find a girl who doesn't mind a little violence.