And of course it follows the cliche thread topic of "How do I get this girl?" But i am asking this question after much thought and confusion of my own, and id like some input from you guys.

This girl happens to be one which i have liked for around 3 years now. I've asked her out before, after talking kinda casually, but it didn't happen. She goes to my high school, and is 2 years younger than me. She actually comes across as fairly complicated, but not stuck up or bitchy in any way. She's a very sweet girl, and we both have quite a bit in common.

Anyways, background aside we ran into each other a few weeks back and started talking again, and it felt alot more legitimate and serious. I told her I really like her alot, and she told me the same, but 3 nights ago when i asked her out she said she wasn't sure. I am her top friend on myspace, if that's of any significance whatsoever, and i read a bulletin from her today talking about how she "really likes this guy and wants to give him a chance, but is really afraid of geting hurt."

I've never been the type to treat females badly, and i want to show her that im not going to hurt her. But the tricky thing is, i dont want to come on as pressuring and annoying. But i also don't wanna wait and make no more moves bc this is probably my last chance to date her, As i ship out for US Army BCT right after this school year.

I would deeply appreciate any advice. Much thanks in advance

If I were you I would back down a little bit; she probably just got out of a serious relationship where she was hurt. So the wounds are still healing. Just give her some time and show her a nice time, as a friend.

Now, I'll let you try see the connection.

i say be persistant man. this girl wants that. if you are persistant it shows that you really like her and you want to be worthy of her which in turn shows her you wont use her for sex and hurt her.

Yeah i understand why you might make that connection yourself. But that's not it. On the contrary, element lady is correct, she'd had her heart broken by assholes before, but i want to be able to prove to her that i'm not like them, and that i will treat her right.

Maybe it's not ABOUT being an asshole.

Maybe it's the fact that you're leaving for the army at the end of the year.

But then again, you're saying you don't really care if it hurts her if you leave, and that you just want to be with her for your OWN enjoyment anyway. That kind of selfishness makes you an asshole in my book.

I don't know what BCT is or anything, are you going to Iraq? Maybe she does'nt want to go out with you incase you will loose her when you join the army. The top friend thing on MySpace is quite significant, it's happend to me afew times, i've found when you're up there and NOT in the friend zone then you're in. Just make sure you're not friends with her. Make sure you're not comming on too fast, too. That's a common mistake.

Chichi, come on man. I never said anything along those lines. In fact, the point i was trying to make is that I do care if it hurts her. I've already committed to the Army. And nothing i've been discussing is about my own enjoyment, i want to date her because i want to be able to make her happy for the time we would have together, because thats what this girl deserves. Just don't be so harsh on your judgements man, im not trying to be an asshole to anyone, including you.


And to diesel, BCT stands for Basic Combat Training

That's just the impression I'm getting, dude. I mean you made it sound like "Oh well she will be sad when she loses me to the army, but I guess I still want to be with her briefly anyway, because that would make me happy." If I was you, I'd either just let her go or leave the army, which is like...Near impossible.

Seriously why the fuck would you join the army in the first place? Get the fuck out of there man. I couldn't stand to leave my girlfriend to go pop some caps in sand niggers. You're crazy.

Not to change the topic of the thread at all, but i joined the army for a number of reasons. To help pay for college is one. Also, to serve my country. Finally, my father has been in the Army for 30 years, and they have provided for my family and given me advantages that i would have never had without it. I've been able to live in a decent house, and never had to worry about food on the table. I feel that it is my duty to provide my service in return.