It is said that one definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results. Every relationship I’ve ever been in has crashed and burned because I keep going into them for the wrong reasons - being lonely, horny, and most of all because I keep casting the woman in the role of Damsel in Distress and myself as the Knight in Shiny Armor.

I’ve met a new lady on Plenty Of Fish (www.plentyoffish.com). She’s almost 10 years younger than I am, has three grown children and is raising her oldest grandchild (a 5 y/o boy).

It’s just fucking scary to be on the verge of starting a new relationship and I feel especially weird that the woman is younger than my youngest sister.

Should I trot out the “dirty laundry” of my fail relationships to see if it scares her off?

Even though I know it’s absolutely the wrong thing to do I keep wanting to push for immediate intimacy. I understand that’s common among control freaks and I surely do have control issues.

It is unbelievable that I’m posting this on TOTSE. I miss the days when the author could delete a thread.

Flame away.

You've made the most important step, which is you have realised your mistakes.

Now, all you need is to concentrate, and to sort yourself out. It's all in the head.

Are you Meta?

Are you Meta?

I'm not 100% sure what you mean by that but if you're asking if I am a person with that username then the answer is no, I am not Meta.

It is said that one definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results. Every relationship I’ve ever been in has crashed and burned because I keep going into them for the wrong reasons - being lonely, horny, and most of all because I keep casting the woman in the role of Damsel in Distress and myself as the Knight in Shiny Armor.

I’ve met a new lady on Plenty Of Fish (www.plentyoffish.com). She’s almost 10 years younger than I am, has three grown children and is raising her oldest grandchild (a 5 y/o boy).



Who are you? Captain save a ho? Cut that shit out. Besides being lonely and horny is an acceptable reason to start a relationship. I used to go for girls who needed "saving" too, it may fill some fucked up niche somewhere deep within your soul but it's not worth it. You can't save them, they don't want to be saved.



It’s just fucking scary to be on the verge of starting a new relationship and I feel especially weird that the woman is younger than my youngest sister.

Should I trot out the “dirty laundry” of my fail relationships to see if it scares her off?



Who does that? No one wants to hear about your various fuck ups, especially some random broad you met over the internet. Either commit or don't.



Even though I know it’s absolutely the wrong thing to do I keep wanting to push for immediate intimacy. I understand that’s common among control freaks and I surely do have control issues.

It is unbelievable that I’m posting this on TOTSE. I miss the days when the author could delete a thread.

Flame away.

There's no need to blame your desire of immediate intimacy on your controlling tendencies, it's most likely just because you have a penis. It comes with the equipment bro, you should figure out what you actually want before you start irresponsibly fucking some Gilf.

First of all, picking such a potentially baggage-filled, high maintenance target (a single mom that is) on your quest to fix all your relationship woes is probably a bad idea. Hell, I wouldn't date a single mom even if I had no relationship hiccups whatsoever, but that might just be me.

You haven't given enough information on the way your relationships usually end for me to give you much advice. With that said, I don't think you're looking at this the right way. Seeking a relationship because you're feeling horny/lonely is actually very normal. If whatever you've been doing has been getting you into relationships, then you're probably doing that part right.

As for trotting out the dirty laundry, no, try to keep the horror stories to a bare minimum. This doesn't mean that you should pretend to be perfect or untouchable. Showing a hint of vulnerability here and there is a good way to build trust between two people. It's all about balance. Give and take. Common sense. That seems to be your biggest issue.

Go with the flow, it never hurts to have access to children.












































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