A cool chick friend of mine spent the night last night, but we didn't do anything. We just studied, ordered food, play halo, etc.
When it started getting late ( too late for any of the busses 'round here), she asked if she could stay the night. Of course, I said yes.
Thing is, I kinda like her, and although she calls me dude ( which to me implies friendship and whatnot), I'm willing to bet money( but I won't) that she has some romantic feelings for me. Maybe I'm an idiot, but I kinda thought that if a chick who isn't your mum, sister, ant, grandmother, cousin, etc, was to stay the night at your place.... then, hell, SOMETHING is bound happen. But nothing did.

Should I have tried to make a move? I considered it,but fuck, I guess maybe I chickened out. In case this happens again ( her staying over, and me not pussing out) what advice could you give to casually get things rolling.
Thanks.

You are supposed to judge women by their actions, and she stayed the night. What does that tell you? You fucked up.

Also, don't be put off by "dude". My ex used to call me that all the time.

But hey, if the tension wasn't there, and hasn't been created during the night, not much you can do at this point, right? You can't just whip it out, you have to work the way to it throughout the night.

you really did miss an oppurtunity shes at home right now wondering what she did wrong.

OP: Ya if you just whippped it out or something or just reacted of course it will feel weird in a sense of thinking about it after the opportunity was missed. What I mean is I agree with others that said you had to advance all night to come up to the point to do shit.

Examples: Say you're studying at a table and you're across from her. Just be like hey do you get this? If shes like ya. Say can you show me. She'll be like of course. Get out of your seat and go lean basically right up next to her and have your hands by her when shes showing it to you.

Playing halo: Let her kill you, but make it look like you were trying very hard to stay alive. When she does kill you freak out a little but like noooo wayyyy then give her a little nudge or something. Ya no make contact.

Eating: If you got something like chinese fling some rice on her or something. See if she reacts in a playful manner like you were intending to create.

All in all if she has responded well all night all this building can be created into one structure. Say you end the night with halo. You're probably playing it in a room with a couch or bed even. When you think your ready or after a finished round and it's late just kinda be like damn we've played awhile and place the controller down. Slouch back into the couch and see what she does. If she does the same just look at her the whole time. Say it again damn we played for awhile. ** You can bring up that it's late, but don't recommend sleeping. Sit there on the couch just looking at each other, and make the move!** Hands, kiss, whatever. See what happens.

Ok sorry for the shit writing and stuff.

**BUT OP YOU HAVEN'T MISSED OUT. IF SHE COMES OVER AGAIN YOUR IN! YOU KNOW SHE'S INTO YOU THEN. IF YOU DON'T DO ANYTHING THIS TIME SHE'S GONNNA GIVE UP AND THINK YOUR GAY. FOR REAL NO JOKE. SHE'S JUST AS SCARED AS YOU. FUCKING MAKE ARRANGEMENTS AGAIN, AND GOOD LUCK BRO!**

ok I'll admit, I'm an idiot when it comes to this sort of thing, but I'm improving somewhat.
I'll see this girl in class in less than an hour...I'm considering saying something about last night, but I'm not sure if she wants everyone knowing that she spent the night.
In all honesty, I'm really don't want her to want everyone to know ( in our particular class, everyone is pretty much like family).

Here's why:
If she doesn't mind our friends knowing, then it's as if her staying over was a "sleep-over" type of deal.... which is exactly the opposite of what I want.

So of course, if she's apprehensive about telling everyone, then, to me, it's like she's wanting it to remain between the two of us, thus creating a bond/commonality of some sort.

Comments?

Also, do any of your "search for vibes" before making a move on a chick? I pretty much use this as a crutch, so to speak.
But considering my (bad) luck with these sorts of things, I think I need to just drop the crutch and go for it.
It just feels odd making a move when I"m unsure as to the outcome, ya know?

Thanks.

She's probably going to tell all her girlfriends about it and how you did nothing.

Seriously 'dude', it's a big hint when a girl asks to stay over. She could have took a cab or found some kind of ride or whatnot. She wanted something to happen.

Did you sleep in the same room? Same bed? Or did you just offer her the couch and throw some pillows at her while you went to your room alone, to masterbate?

Thanks. Didn't even see this 'till now.
I'll get her over again and try this.
EXPECT RESULTS


Thanks again.

Damn right i expect results i didnt read all this shit for nothing

Next time get her to stay over again. Sleep in the same bed and spoon her. If you can't make something happen from the spooning position I suggest suicide.

It doesn't sound like you've fucked it up beyond repair. Just wait for the next time.

However, you may want to think about things...Would you like to keep things the way they are, i.e. friendly, easy going and fun or would you risk a friendship to get a girlfriend/fuck buddy?

If you're okay with the risk, just move in for the kill next time you get the chance.

However, you may want to think about things...Would you like to keep things the way they are, i.e. friendly, easy going and fun or would you risk a friendship to get a girlfriend/fuck buddy?

You know how sometimes when a guy posts here and people say "Dude you've fucked up, it's not going to happen/she's wasting your time/she's playing games, move on!" even though he's really good friends with the girl? He just bails because he wont be getting pussy? Girls ARE like that sometimes as well.

She sounds like she's in this to get him. I've had girls end friendships after I made it clear nothing more would come of it.

I call my girlfriend dude all the time..

You answer your own question, this thread is pointless.

we didn't do anything. We just studied, ordered food, play halo, etc.

This is where you went wrong. Just kidding :p Don't worry about it, it happends to the best of us and sometimes can be a good thing. Maybe now she will trust you in that you don't just want her for sex. The second girl I ever slept with, I must have fucked that up the first few times... did'nt even kiss her or anything, and I knew for SURE she wanted to hump me. Maybe that's what was making me nervous about it. Anyways, another time will come. I can bet on it. (with money;))

You know how sometimes when a guy posts here and people say "Dude you've fucked up, it's not going to happen/she's wasting your time/she's playing games, move on!" even though he's really good friends with the girl? He just bails because he wont be getting pussy? Girls ARE like that sometimes as well.

She sounds like she's in this to get him. I've had girls end friendships after I made it clear nothing more would come of it.

Fair point mate. I agree.

Every situation's different I guess.

That's because she has a 7" cock, it's just not the same.

Did it occur to you that you'd been friend-zoned, never had a chance to begin with, and that she legitimately had no way to get home and needed to crash?

Your insecurities and uncertainties lead me to believe that she judged you for what you are, and decided you'd be no more than friends.

Did it occur to you that you'd been friend-zoned, never had a chance to begin with, and that she legitimately had no way to get home and needed to crash?

Yup. I thought this all last semester and much of the current one. And I tend to think out every possible, reasonable outcome for anything, and after doing so, make a decision.


Your insecurities and uncertainties lead me to believe that she judged you for what you are, and decided you'd be no more than friends.

わかない I don't know what you mean by insecurities... could you reiterate?
But for the most part, I think I kinda see where you're coming from.

Anyway

I call her up tonight just to see what's going on...ten minutes into our conversation she not only invited herself over, but invited herself to stay the night.cool. So I can rule out her staying over by need, as she clearly wants to stay over. Now totse, I have two problems/questions/issues....

1. Her motives..... I know I shouldn't be nit-picking, but she invited herself over right about the time I mentioned getting off the phone and begin making dinner. She isn't poor or anything, but I think most college students ( or anyone) would jump at the chance for a free meal...and if that meal is to be enjoyed with a friend, the all the more reason to jump at it. I'm prolly just overthiking this one. :)

2. I ain't got no condoms....:(
or cash...don't get paid till thursday
and I'm pretty sure that the service station down the road doesn't take personal checks.....

I guess there's really now 'question' per say that this post was built around... just wanted to keep yall updated.

Now if yall have suggestions, I'm all ears.
suggestions are nice


Thanks for reading...

Did you sleep in the same bed, or did she/you crash on the couch while the other slept in the bed? If you were both in the bed, was she facing you/looking at you or did she look like she was just there to sleep?

Answer those questions and you should realise if she's interested in you.