So yeah...As the title says, I'm looking for one of my 'relationships' to last longer than a one night stand, and the conversation the morning after.

I have no trouble picking up women whilst out drinking, I get the whole six-pack-of-confidence that leads me to getting laid on a night if i feel so inclined. At the moment i am meeting up with 3 different girls on and off, but I can tell that it is mainly just for sex. They don't particularly feel as if they are people that I can connect with aside from physically. This was great for about 6 months, with other random women to fuck everywhere. Except now, I feel as if I have a sort of 'void' in my emotional life and want more from a relationship with someone. I'm 20 years old, and up until last October I was in a 4 year long relationship, and I sort of miss that stability.

I'm studying at university at the moment, so there is no shortage of people to meet, but my question is this; where do I meet people that I can connect with on an emotional and mental level, as well as physical? Where is it that I can meet those who are relationship material?

Cheers

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Try dating sites, there are of tons of losers on there who want serious relationships.

Most are ones who've been "heartbroken" want someone to love them or to love or some shit like that. Get with them and carry on as a normal bloke, just pretend you're listening to them but really you aren't, have the odd arguments with them; yep you will have yourself a "serious relationship".

Is all bullshit really, carry on with the 6 month fuck buddies; I know what ya mean though.

But most of my "serious" relationships came when I wasn't even intending it to happen and when I really didn't give a toss.

what you need is a girl your close with, not a full on relationship dude.

Try picking up a new interest and see if you meet someone through it. There's no special place that these people hang out. A lot of them are closed to meeting new people, which makes it a challenge.

I'm kind of the same... It seems all the loud confident girls just want to hump you, where-as the shy-ish girls want a relationship (but are too shy to do anything about it). I'm sure most girls that go clubbing and stuff are just sluts (whether they know this or not is another matter), so I would'nt look there, any respectable girls that are regulars in the clubs in your area are bound to get snapped up fast. I would try battering into some shy girls, at least that's what i'm trying to do. The trouble is they're quite hard to get.

Work/Shopping would be your best bet to pick up a respectable girl. I mean if you go into popular department stores in your area, theres sure to be afew respectable girls there. Are they're any girls that you work with? The works night-out would be a good time to hook-up with these girls (Plus you will probably already know a bit about them, since you're work-mates). What about girls in your classes in uni? You could organize a get-together with some class mates, get a drink and do some macking Girls in the uni library etc. would be a good place to start, too. I know it's hard to do but when you see a girl giving you the eyes when walking through town try and find something to say to her, and pick it up from there.

I starting hanging around and going clubbing with my friends big brother, he introduced me to some girls, we got a drink together, getting ready to go clubbing. This girl was giving me the eyes all night and I was just thinking 'Yeah i'd probably hit that' so after we went clubbin (I hardly talked to her in the club) she invited me and my friend back to stay, we went, and my friend went so he could let her hump me (there best friends), I just wanted to go to sleep (you know that way when you're drunk, you just feel like sleeping anywhere) anyways, in the bed we ended up humping. She was a good ride infact. But in the morning I stayed till like 3 in the afternoon and she was looking at me like why the fuck are you still here haha. I got some cheese on toast and went. Definitely outstayed my welcome.

Others might disagree with my views but this is what I have found in my own experience and is based on what kind of girl I am looking for.

you come accross as a bit arrogant and shovenistic (sp?) maybe thats why you don't have a relationship and your whole pretense on "respectable girls" could just be an illusion you have set yourself in the first place. I think you should drop this whole plan of yours and try just moving with the flow sponteanity is a beautiful thing.

Stuff like if your in a que and its taking a long time turn to the girl next to you and say "well this is taking a while" if she smiles and agrees then you can talk to her, introduce yourself etc!


My problem is that i procrastinate to the point i dont bother.....its getting better but still, i think tonight im just going to wonder round the halls and chat to some random people and maybe get a shag

Dating sites always ring alarm bells for me - personally I don't see myself as that desperate yet, I'm not having trouble meeting girls but it's just the kind of girls that I'm meeting being not the kind I want to. I know I could just keep drifting with the easy fuck girls and hope a special one comes along, but I realise that being proactive with the type of woman I want to find is probably going to pay off.

I'm really close to a lot of girls. In fact, I'm going to push the boat out and say some of my best friends in this world are female. As are all of my housemates, but I want the combination of social and physical intimacy and a relationship. A lot to ask, but I do get pretty lonely sometimes, even when surrounded by so many people.

I completely agree Diesel, that seems to be the situation I'm in. I'm a pretty loud and confident guy when i want to be, especially when it comes to the opposite sex. It just seems that the only girls which return the loud factor or the confidence are just pretty slutty, and I tend to be too loud for the shy ones sometimes. My downfall is the 'easy fuck' factor, not having the patience to try and work at a single girl for a long time and hence just going for girls I can be guaranteed to get laid with.

Like Euda said, I think a new interest or a hobby might be in order. Or maybe a job. Sounds like those might be a great way to meet sound people. Now to just find that long lost friend.....motivation.

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Haha, it's spelled "chauvinistic".

Anyway, OP, if you're at a university, go to clubs to find chicks. I don't mean dancing clubs, I mean school clubs. At the very least they'll have a mutual interest with you there.

wow i was pretty off there lol thanks

Yeah I do come across that way here, I agree. In real life though i'm really quite shy, and my confidence comes with time. Or afew beers