In high school I had a lot of friends, a couple of girlfriends, went to and played shows at least once a week, went to parties all the time, basically had it pretty good. It was probably the most fun time period in my life.

I'm turning 21 this year. I have exactly zero friends, I haven't hung out with anyone in a social context in multiple years. My day goes something like:

1. Wake up

2. Go for a run

3. Return home and waste my day working on hobbies/reading/building stuff/etc

4. Go to sleep

5. Repeat

Seven days a week. I don't have a job or go to college (I got decent grades and good SAT scores, I was accepted to multiple schools, I just never went, though I guess I eventually need to at some point in my life). I live, rent free, in my dad's house. We rarely speak to or see each other. He doesn't bother me, I don't bother him. I don't have a car or a phone or anymore.

Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not exactly complaining. I have it pretty good, it's just that every once in a while I get these pangs of loneliness, like it would be nice to have people to chill with again, but when I think about the ridiculous amount of work that would be involved in basically restarting my life, I always come to the same conclusion: "fuck that".

How do I get over this apathy? I consider myself a pretty intelligent guy but I can't, for the life of me, figure this out. I have no motivation to do anything beyond what I'm already doing, but I know that to be truly happy, I need to.

I'm not depressed. I'm actually fairly content most of the time, which I think may be part of the problem.

..you still sound pretty depressed.

Set some goals for yourself man. Something that will make you happy when you accomplish it. For example:
-Get a job.
-Save up $xxxx.
-Find a place of your own to live.

You've gotta be self motivated. Think about it, if you get into the habit of taking the easy road, it'll just get tougher to do something with your life. Do you really wanna end up a 30 year old guy living at home with his dad? You're still young, there's still lots of shit you can do with your life, but you're reaching that point where anyone that knows or meets you is gonna think you're just some lazy kid living off daddy.

Ask yourself what you want out of life, and go for it. Unless you seriously lack ambition, there must be more you want to accomplish than messing around all day, right? A social life will come with time, obviously your current situation isn't the best for making friends. Work before play, first find some sorta job then worry about improving your life in other ways (buying a car, phone, finding friends, etc.).

I would say step one is finding a job, you'll meet people that work at the same shitty place you do and eventually you'll start getting invited over to their place to drink or whatever.
From there I would say maybe start going to community college if there is one near...

..hang out with people?

Go to college.

You are bothering your father.

He doesn't want to see his son loafing around all the time on his dime.

He doesn't have the nerve to tell you this.
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I wont tell you that, while attending college, your life will be any different.

I think you will find that you're life will only marginally improve.

You will still feel as though most of your time is being "wasted" into hobbies/etc, but
I would imagine that your sense of purpose will increase, if you enter an area of study that suits your interests.


Whatever your "hobbies" are now, study them.

Did all your old friends move away?

Go to the doctor your depressed.

Join the military, they'll get you motivated; you're already fit so it shouldn't be a problem and you'll pretty much be forced to make friends. Unless you're like Lee Harvey Oswald, the guy that shot JFK, that mother fucker was one emo commie.