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| Sex and Affection Anything and everything about sex and relations. Please try to keep this forum on-topic, since things tend to wander a bit. Search through old topics before posting a new one, as questions get repeated a lot here. |
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# 1
2008-10-18, 21:46
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If this stalker move?
Hi.
I have been thinking about moving to a different city, where this guy I like lives. He doesn't know that I am moving there.
My motivation for moving there is so that I will be able to hang out with him, do things for him, drive him around (he doesn't have a car)..etc.
Is this stalker move?
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# 2
2008-10-18, 21:50
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Utah: Mountains, Mormons, Meth
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Re: If this stalker move?
Yes..
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# 3
2008-10-18, 21:51
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Yes. Next thing you know, you'll be following him around just in case he gets hurts.
EDIT: WOAH! I can post again. Holy shit.
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# 4
2008-10-18, 21:51
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Re: If this stalker move?
mention to him that you would like to accompany him, if you talk about it before then it isn't stalkerish.
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# 5
2008-10-18, 21:52
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Re: If this stalker move?
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Originally Posted by nimajneb92
mention to him that you would like to accompany him, if you talk about it before then it isn't stalkerish.
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Elaborate please?
So if I mention to him that I wish to move to his city as to spend time with him, it's not stalkerish anymore?
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# 6
2008-10-18, 21:59
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Re: If this stalker move?
I was assuming you were on a friendly basis. Explain that you like him and wouldn't want to see him go. Then say maybe I could live in X city too. Yeah its still weird... but much less creepy than just showing up and confronting him after he's moved away and doesn't expect to see you.
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# 7
2008-10-18, 22:06
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Re: If this stalker move?
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Originally Posted by nimajneb92
I was assuming you were on a friendly basis. Explain that you like him and wouldn't want to see him go. Then say maybe I could live in X city too. Yeah its still weird... but much less creepy than just showing up and confronting him after he's moved away and doesn't expect to see you.
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I really appreciate your posts, you have been the most help. Thanks.
Ok I think I should go into the situation in greater details. We have been talking on msn for almost 6 months. He says he sees me as a friend. We have never hung out in real life.
He's not moving away, he just lives in a different, far away city than I do. He has a girlfriend, actually, and he might marry her soon is the impression I get. Nonetheless, I still want to be a part of his life, which is why I want to move to his city.
Last edited by WritingANovel; 2008-10-18 at 22:11.
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# 8
2008-10-18, 22:14
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Re: If this stalker move?
Then you should definitely NOT move. He will automatically think you are a stalker, probably stop talking to you, and ruin any chance of meeting him in real life.
Since you still want to be a part of him invite he and his girlfriend over for dinner some night. It will be friendly and strengthen your FRIENDSHIP. If you become good friends a drive (I'm assuming under an hour?) shouldn't be too big of a problem.
Im glad to help
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# 9
2008-10-18, 22:17
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Re: If this stalker move?
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Originally Posted by nimajneb92
Then you should definitely NOT move. He will automatically think you are a stalker, probably stop talking to you, and ruin any chance of meeting him in real life.
Since you still want to be a part of him invite he and his girlfriend over for dinner some night. It will be friendly and strengthen your FRIENDSHIP. If you become good friends a drive (I'm assuming under an hour?) shouldn't be too big of a problem.
Im glad to help
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But the drive is more than an hour. He lives in Toronto and I live close to Vancouver. We are on opposite sides of the continent.
So you are saying I shouldn't even mention to him that I want to move to his city?
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# 10
2008-10-18, 22:22
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Re: If this stalker move?
The thing is, I like him so much and I so badly want to be a part of his life I just don't know what to do.
I figure that if I live in the same city as him, it will be easier for us to hang out and he might start to like me.
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2008-10-18, 22:26 |
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He has a girlfriend, actually.....I still want to be a part of his life
Cute but creepy. Don't do it. For her sake?
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2008-10-19, 03:23 |
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Re: If this stalker move?
I kind of misread that sorry, i thought you said "a different part of the city". Your kind of damned if you do damned if you don't.
I still suggest not mentioning that you want to move to where he is going. This will guarantee that he will stop talking to you online. If you have the money, plan a trip to Toronto. Have fun and try to work in a visit with him. Get a feel for what he is thinking about the whole situation. If you can, try to find an excuse to stay, such as work, family, etc.
Whatever you do don't move just for him (or at least don't let him know that.) But hey you don't have much to lose either way, making an attempt and failing is better than letting a potential friend slide away.
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2008-10-19, 03:44 |
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I am the Alpha and the Omega
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Originally Posted by WritingANovel
Hi.
I have been thinking about moving to a different city, where this guy I like lives. He doesn't know that I am moving there.
My motivation for moving there is so that I will be able to hang out with him, do things for him, drive him around (he doesn't have a car)..etc.
Is this stalker move?
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Well, look at it from his perspective:
There is a girl that you have become friendly with on MSN over the past 6 months; you get on well, have interesting conversations and talk often.
In fact you are getting on so well that you tell each other about your lives, where you live, what you do, and your relationships.
Now, the girl you have been getting friendly with tells you she has moved to your city and wants to hang with you.
It would come off as potentially intense. That may not be a bad thing, if your relationship is a good one he may be pleasantly surprised.
However, he does have a girlfriend, if theirs is a solid relationship, he won't see you as anything other than a friend and if you try to change that you may risk in losing the friendship.
If that comes to pass, you'll be stuck in another city, knowing no-one and being persona non grata with someone you care deeply about.
I guess what I'm trying to say is, don't do anything rash. Think about this carefully, taking a step like this without thinking it through could have far reaching implications. |
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2008-10-19, 03:46 |
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Re: If this stalker move?
i think this and that other 'how to make a guy like me' thread are a series of trolls
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2008-10-19, 03:48 |
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Originally Posted by xiamhighx
i think this and that other 'how to make a guy like me' thread are a series of trolls
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Well, I hope not. Otherwise I typed a bloody magnum opus in reply to this thread, when I could have said: STFU TROLL. :(
http://www.asktheloveforum.com/relationship-forum/showthread.php?t=3691 WAN I expected more of you :( |
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2008-10-19, 05:07 |
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WAN, you are a cunt.
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#17
2008-10-19, 05:28 |
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Re: If this stalker move?
But the drive is more than an hour. He lives in Toronto and I live close to Vancouver. We are on opposite sides of the continent.
So you are saying I shouldn't even mention to him that I want to move to his city?
Listen WAN, if things dont work out in Toronto you can just come down to buffalo and test me out.
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2008-10-19, 05:52 |
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Re: If this stalker move?
WAN, you're weird...
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#19
2008-10-19, 16:00 |
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Re: If this stalker move?
Maybe pay that city a visit and call him up cuz you don't know anyone there?
Sometimes people move away from certain people, lets hope thats not the case lol
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#20
2008-10-19, 16:03 |
King3x
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Re: If this stalker move?
Listen WAN, if things dont work out in Toronto you can just come down to buffalo and test me out.
You'll regret it.
She's hideous.
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#21
2008-10-19, 16:16 |
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Toronto is very expensive to live. Plus i think your reason to wanting to move there is absolutely retarded. Very stalkerish indeed.
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#22
2008-10-19, 19:39 |
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Re: If this stalker move?
Bad Idea.
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2008-10-19, 22:04 |
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Re: If this stalker move?
I'm sorry to tell you, but everything I have seen you say on totse, thus far, has been pretty stalkerish.
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#24
2008-10-19, 22:32 |
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Re: If this stalker move?
Well, I hope not. Otherwise I typed a bloody magnum opus in reply to this thread, when I could have said: STFU TROLL. :(
http://www.asktheloveforum.com/relationship-forum/showthread.php?t=3691 WAN I expected more of you :(
Sooo wait a minute... This guy not only knows you're moving to his city but has invited you to share his home and set you up with other men/drugs?
Orrr he has no clue what you're planning on doing and you're just going to up and surprise him one day, acting like it was just one big fat hairy coincidence that you somehow ended up in his town on the other side of the continent for no apparent reason other than to shower him with gifts and magical rides around town....
Which is it?
Or is it any of the above.... I'm confused.
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2008-10-19, 23:10 |
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I am the Alpha and the Omega
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Re: If this stalker move?
Sooo wait a minute... This guy not only knows you're moving to his city but has invited you to share his home and set you up with other men/drugs?
Orrr he has no clue what you're planning on doing and you're just going to up and surprise him one day, acting like it was just one big fat hairy coincidence that you somehow ended up in his town on the other side of the continent for no apparent reason other than to shower him with gifts and magical rides around town....
Which is it?
Or is it any of the above.... I'm confused.
My personal opinion is that this thread appears to be a troll thread, much like the attached link.
Either that or things did not work out between WAN and the drug-dealing, pimping dude and this chap is a seperate individual.
I know not if the situation(s) contain any legitimacy, that is something that I was hoping to have WAN clarify.
I dare say I should not hold my breath.
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2008-10-20, 00:10 |
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Re: If this stalker move?
Well, I hope not. Otherwise I typed a bloody magnum opus in reply to this thread, when I could have said: STFU TROLL. :(
http://www.asktheloveforum.com/relationship-forum/showthread.php?t=3691 WAN I expected more of you :(
WTF? how the fuck? I mean...how?
How did you know that was me
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#27
2008-10-20, 00:25 |
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I am the Alpha and the Omega
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Re: If this stalker move?
WTF? how the fuck? I mean...how?
How did you know that was me
Because I'm very clever.. ;)
Please allow me to elaborate my dear WAN:
I was idly browsing the ATLF and came across a post which had the same syntax to some of your posts on my beloved &T - In addition the username was similar enough for me have an inkling that it was you.
So, don't leave me in suspense, is this just an elaborate troll, or are you really in need of advice?
*bows and doffs hat*
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2008-10-20, 02:17 |
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I am the Alpha and the Omega
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*trips over and inadvertently bumps thread*
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#29
2008-10-20, 02:20 |
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*trips over and inadvertently bumps thread*
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lol lol cute
its good that you did this, otherwise i would have never seen your edit
also, i added u to msn |
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