One of the main factors for my current relationship being so great is the fact that my missus gives me time to myself and I give her time to herself.

Space is good.

Y'know I once had a similar experience and was literally besotted with one chick I met at a club. She was definitely one of the sexiest girls I've got with in my entire life and I screwed it all up by becoming a clingy freak who scared her off. At first she was showing signs of attraction to me, but it later faded out because of my addiction to her.

Oh well, at least I'm a lot more careful with how I act towards chicks I like these days, I make sure I'm not too full-on anymore. I had my insecurities and now I'm gradually getting over it.

So yeah, I'm in base 1 of being clingy:
first symptom is she will start to make you feel distant.
Check.
But what if the time she spends with me is really short? Hell, I'd count it at as about 5 hours per week in total. We go to the same school, live 15 minutes apart. I always try my best, at everything that has to do with her. I always walk her home, always come for her when she finishes late.

But I see it's time to stop being the 'mr. where you are, so am I', 'mr. protective', 'mr. gentleman' etc.
Fucking hate this, thought that love means that both people can't get enough of eachother. If it's not love than I'd rather dump her.

So yeah, I'm in base 1 of being clingy:

Check.
But what if the time she spends with me is really short? Hell, I'd count it at as about 5 hours per week in total. We go to the same school, live 15 minutes apart. I always try my best, at everything that has to do with her. I always walk her home, always come for her when she finishes late.

But I see it's time to stop being the 'mr. where you are, so am I', 'mr. protective', 'mr. gentleman' etc.
Fucking hate this, thought that love means that both people can't get enough of eachother. If it's not love than I'd rather dump her.

This is what I thought. I thought that people who loved each other so damn much would do stuff like be 'clingy'
of course I fucking worry when she goes out to huge concerts and shit, because I know what can happen there. Of course I want don't want her spending more time with anyone besides me.

Fuck.

Spray yourself in perfume, she'll never let you out of her site if she thinks you're cheating. Or just stop being a needy pussy.

She broke it off today. Saying she needed time, because she's so busy with school and everything. I completely understand, but it still hurts. :(

She says she won't try and get over me or look for anyone else, and I suppose I trust her. I'm pretty sure she'll come back. I'll be waiting for her.

:(

This fucking sucks.

She's lying.

I was in a relationshipwith someone for basically 4 years, and now we have split up i feel so dependant on him because my life had blossomed around him being there, and now hes not i dont know what to do with myself, im just, dealing with it.. and it hurts so much and i miss him more than anything, so if u get real clingy and dependant and ure other half ends up unhappy with you, stop there.. and make sure u dont get that far because ul be lost without them if they do leave and if it gets really bad ul end up becoming obsessed :S

Course i'm male but... more then one sms a day (besides the let's do somethin txt's)

And interest in someone's day is ok. Who they talked to, and specially added interest if it's man is...... going the wrong way hard


Look , it's simple, get over your insecurity or this is gonna cost you your relationship... and the next.... and the next, wich will hurt a whole lot more then what can happen if you don't hear from her every 20 seconds.

That and.. she can cheat while sending you a message so no use wastin 'm for that


edit : ok, didn't read enough. She broke up. Sorry dude. But remember... CHILL.. and chill, like you said, all will be fine (and don't send panic messages cause they always fuck up your life)

Ok first off, being female, that's a famous line for you're smothering me and getting on my last nerve. Everyone needs time for themselves whether it's to hang out w/ their friends or just recharge and be lazy and eat a pint of ben and jerry's. My suggestion to you is find a hobby. Find something that you enjoy ON YOUR OWN and pursue it. Part of a successful relationship is managing time. time for each other and time apart. you worry about her going to a concert... so who died and made you her dad? That's her parent's job to worry about what she's doing and if she's ok... you obviously have no faith in her ability to make decisions for herself or think she's so utterly naive that she needs you there to tell her where to sit and where to walk and who to talk to. Until you get over this clinginess thing, you're gonna have the same problem over and over and over again. Best way I've found to get over being clingy? Date someone who's even more clingy. Then you get to see first hand what it's like on the other side of that fence and will quickly learn how to change yourself to be a better suitor.

It depends on the type of girl. Some like the whole clingy thing and are suited to be that sort of girlfriend. And many women aren't... some like some level of space, or they take an intellectual or dispassionate attitude towards relationships in order to preserve individuality and to not feel stifled by someone's (possibly too possessive or annoying) affections. I understand it. I need some level of space in a relationship, as well. It's pretty important, the person I'm seeing not getting that generally ends in failure, since it's just a character trait of mine, one that's not likely to change.

Different people want different things from relationships. This is pretty crucial since it tends to determine theoretical viability of a relationship between two people, ie: if it can work long term, fulfilling both peoples intentions through seeking a relationship in each other. Be more perceptive of her. Realize you're making certain demands by perhaps trying to take possession of her time, and keep in mind her perspective. People can be pretty varied and interesting. Some people are so complex they're full of tonnes of inner contradictions and dualities. A person like this may be difficult to sort out, but if you expect this relationship to fulfill your intentions (your image of a relationship/romance/whatever) then you have to fairly access where you stand, and pay increased attention on if clingyness, and perhaps dependence or possessiveness is a wanted thing for her.

I seen it coming, tried to tell ya..

I seen it coming, tried to tell ya..

You did, and I took your advice, guess it was just too late.

This thread reminded me that I'm probably becoming a little bit clingy. At least it's not emotional clingy though. That shit is irritating. I just want to have a fuckload of sex. I imagine thats a reasonable excuse for wanting to hang out a lot.
I bet he understands.

OP, you sound like the bad kind of clingy. Take up basket weaving or some gay hobby.

Grow some testicles.