Is it the act? The Thought? In this day and age does having a girlfriend and watching porn count? Where does the line end? Does watching a old friend with benefits strip count?

So Totse, I ask you, What, define as broad or narrow as you want, is cheating?

as simple as kissing another guy/gurl, or having conversations that shouldent be and shit like that lol

Usually.

No... that's stupid.

No. Fascist.

Huh?

Is this a private strip show?

Betraying your partners trust. There can't be a standard definition for cheating because there is no "standard" relationship.

-F☺rd

B-I-N-G-O and bingo was his name-o.

Depends on the relationship. My ex-boyfriend was pretty uptight so we had pretty strict rules. The new guy I'm seeing is even more of a raging alcoholic than I am, so I suppose we have more lenient rules.
Honestly if he got blacked out drunk and went home with the busted bartender from down the street I wouldn't be too cut up about it. He'd be more pissed at himself than I would.

Exactly this.

I've been in relationships where we were both to drunk to care about each other fucking around. And more importantly, we understood when the other person got drunk and fucked around.

But at the same time, I've been with guys that break into screaming and tears and rage if I so much as in the same room with an ex.



As for myself, I'm fairly relaxed with the rules. A huge factor is if they're honest about it. If I end up hearing through word of mouth that my partner hooked up with his ex at a party, and the whole world knew except me, I'd be pissed. That's a relationship breaker right there.

But if he calls me one day and tells me he was really drunk and made out with some chick I'd let it go easy.

Getting together with ex's is always bad news too. Everyone knows when you hook up with an ex, even if you think the shit between the two of you is over, something always happens. Feelings come up, chaos ensues.


So for me, it really depends on the situation I guess. No laid out rules.

Jesus Fuck, why is booze such an easy excuse?

It's bullshit, I say.

*ObZ

It's not for a lot of people and wasn't for my ex.

However, if you think that lowered inhibitions will never happen then you should probably date someone who doesn't put away 19 beers in a night. Because that shit will eventually happen and I don't need it to be a deal breaker if it doesn't have to. I'm not threatened by some busted 50 year old bar trash with 9 teeth. He on the other hand will probably never forgive himself. Which would be hilarious.

If he'd fuck around drunk, he'll fuck around sober.


Promise.

-F☺rd

I used to be the guy with a rigid point of view when it came to this... if my girl was talking to an ex or fucking around, I'd be all busted up about it.

A few years out in the real world changes your perspective. It's going to happen... accept it.

I've got a current story that relates well to this thread... I broke out of the friends zone and am dating a girl I've been friends with for some time now. When I first met her, she had a boyfriend. He goes to university on the other side of the country, and before they broke up he bought plane tickets and tomorrow morning he is flying in and staying with her for the next few days.

I highly doubt she'll be telling him to take the couch. I'd bet my life that his intentions are to rekindle their relationship, and will undoubtedly make a move on her. Will she go for him? It's possible. Will she sleep with him? I wouldn't be surprised.

None of this matters though. Whatever he is able to build up with her, it'll all come crashing down once he's gone and I'm back in the picture. Honestly, I think anybody in her situation would be prone to do the same thing.

People tell me to find a girl who isn't like this... I like her though. We get along great. And if I wasn't dealing with her bullshit, I'd just be dealing with another girl's bullshit because they are all the same.


I guess my point is, whatever you define cheating as, it doesn't matter because it's simply going to happen. Don't get too hung up on it. Accept it, and hey, it makes it easier to justify cheating to yourself when you're the one doing the cheating. Just don't do it out in the open and there's really nothing wrong with it.

By the way...she swears up and down nothing will happen, but I don't care. I know better.