Since I had my first sexual experience at 16 until this year (I'm now 20), I have had a reasonably strict rule about women; no sex unless I love them and will be with them.

This was never bourne out of any guilt imposed on me by parents or a church, but more that the idea of casual sex made me feel gross; that it would be uncomfortable if it wasn't with someone I loved, and that a protective/loving instinct had kicked in after sex which would be inappropriate for casual encounter.

Then there's also the more practical considerations of accidental pregnancies and STDs.

This year however, has been different. 2007 felt like a whole load of loneliness and arrested development, but this year has been a year of growing. Figuring out a lot of social/woman/family issues.

Things have changed. For years I had been a loner with no social life, and since leaving school I've wandered around the country semi pointlessly, not making friends and moving every few months. Now I've been in the same place for a while and have every intention of sticking it out here for a few years. I've made a lot of friends, got back with a lot of old ones and have carved myself out some social groups. I'm not saying I'm perfect, but I am a lot less awkward and a lot more confident around people, especially women, as I once was.

Which, going back to the subject, has caused me to take a brutally honest look at my beliefs. To what degree are my sexual morals just a result of my previous insecurities and low self esteem? Maybe a part of me didn't want to fuck around for fear of rejection, or feelings of inadequacy. I have proved to myself I can socialise and make friends normally, and my morals are starting to feel anarchronistic.

That, and it's been a while

So, yeah. What do you think of my situation? Should I give casual sex a go? Been through anything similar? What are your sexual morals, and how have they changed?

We cant tell you what you will like and what you wont. But possibly one of the ways to connect and have strong relationship is opening yourself up which could include sex. You never know maybe you will end up loving that person and it will no longer be casual.

Casual sex for men is good stuff. Casual sex makes woman dirty used whores.

It feels good man, especially if the girl is smokin hot and lets you do anal or swallows your cum. But other than that, casual sex offers nothing. Its a quick release, a brag to your buddies, and a good nights sleep.

The novelty does not last long, unless you are the type of person who can CONSTANTLY get bangin' hot girls to do dirty vile things with you.

I don't regret the casual sex I have had in my life, but it added nothing to it really. Sex with a girl I love is so much better.

Yes, have sex you fool. Start looking at things this way: If it hurts no one, and isn't immoral, do it.

Yeah, have been thinking the same but I'm still caught up on a girl.

I was a total pussy and wanted to wait for the girl I was in love with. She fucked me around. So I lost my V cards and had sex with 3 girls and 1 guy with in two weeks. Since then I've slowed down a LOT. But I have no set of rigid morals. I'll do what it calls for at the time.

I still think you should go for a casual root. There's always the possibility that you and your fuck become more. A root is a good screening test.

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What?

Exactly what it reads dumbcunt.

Haha, you had sex with a guy! That is so gay!!!

Yes, it is homosexual in nature. Is it wrong? No. Is it a reason to laugh? I don't see why. Silly, immature Totseans, grow up and stop being such arbitrary moralists.

Eh, this is totse...you know what you signed up for.

Anyway, to the OP, you don't need to be totally in love with the chick. I mean, it makes it a ton more special and it's awesome, but as long as you moderately like her I think it's ok.

i thought arquin was a girl...?