I am usually opposed to mind games; the whole idea of this to me seems juvenile, especially if all you're trying to do is score some pussy... nevertheless, I've found myself in a situation where I need some urgent advice on how to play some mind games and lay a major guilt trip on a girl who has played me.

To make this short as possible: I befriended a girl last semester, and despite the fact that she had a boyfriend (attending school in a different state), there was a definite chemistry between us. I genuinely liked her, and out of respect for her, I did my best to keep our friendship at nothing more than a friends level. I know that if she had cheated on him, it would put her in an awkward situation, and I did not want this for her. We remained friends and eventually their relationship ran its natural course and ended... or so I thought.

Since their supposed break-up, we've been fucking a lot, and it seemed like there was a definite potential for a relationship... we didn't jump right in to one due to the fact that they had just broken up... having been there, I could relate, though I should have been suspicious.

Anyway, a source told me that not only are they not broken up, but sometime in the next couple weeks he will be traveling half-way across the country to spend a weekend with her.

Now my question to totse is, how should I respond? How should I take advantage of this inside information? I know she is planning on breaking this news to me in the next day or two... what is the best way for me to play it cool yet at the same time let her know that this kind of shit is unacceptable?

To be honest, I almost feel bad for the guy... not only is she putting him in this awkward situation, but he will undoubedtly meet all of her friends, who are well aware of my relationship with her.. this puts them in an awkward situation too, knowing that he made this trip and she's been cheating on him.

mind games are not the way to go here, you said yourself that they were childish. Don't stoop to her level, shes the one being a cunt here for playing you two like this. She probably creams herself at night thinking of you two fighting over her. Confront her and call her out on her shit, ask her wtf she thinks shes doing bringing him here and demand to know where you two stand.


Sounds like you're in college, if you're looking for a girlfriend look elsewhere its not like there isn't pussy basically thrown at you 24/7. If she cheated on her last bf you can bet she won't mind cheating on you. Find a girl who doesn't get off on attention, trust me they exist.

Don't even mention it. Just stop talking to her. She'll die a little inside.

The more thought I put into it, the more I realize mind games are not right, but I still look forward to responses...

I've decided to accept the fact that I have been her "plan B" and simply move on. Now the question is, avoid confrontation, or give her a piece of my mind? I'm definitely justified in being ticked off here.


Yes, I am in college and there is a lot of pussy.... but I honestly felt that with this girl, we actually may have had something. I know beter now.

I say use mind games if you just want to score, intelligent guys are good at mind games and it does take some skills but if you want a genuine relationship and you have to use mind games to make it work, you know the relationship is fairly fucked.

My version of mind games are more psychology that I've read about which comes out naturally at the time, if you know your stuff thinking about it will just slow you down.

Also mind games or manipulation..?

I guess I was looking mostly to manipulate the situation in any way possible in my favor. I'm drawing blanks here though on how I can achieve that.

>>#6
Even thoe you didn't know about it, your going to be seen as the bad guy here, that's just how it is.

What do you hope to obtain by manipulation?
Do you still like her?
Do you want to use her for sex?
What about blackmailing her for $ etc?

What the fuck are you worrying about?

you are having sex. she is having sex. he's having sex and trust me he's also cheating on her.

IN SHORT:

a) no relationship
b) don't stop fucking her
c)find someone else to have sex with
d)when he is around GOTO c) AND when you're not around let c) find someone else

who needs a relationship!!? you're still young!!!! relationships are for people who want to settle down.

everyones a winner in my plan!! what can go wrong?!

>>#8
Wrong her actual boyfriend is flying across the country to see her, if he was fucking other girls.. why go to so much trouble.

because he's a dumb mother fucker.
follow my plan it's infallible. don't worry about relationships! there's time for that later, with girls who aren't sluts.

don't confront her! why throw away perfectly good sex?? let him fuck her when he's around and you have the rest.