I dont know if this is in the right forum or not, but it was the best one I could find. Well back to the subject, I am going to a new highschool this year. Well it is not entirely new, cuz I went to one of the middle schools that goes to that high school. But for my freshman year, I went to a different highschool. Well now I am back, and I am having a little trouble. I never really been socially oriented, I have always been the quiet kid, that kinda has friends. I mean the problem is not in school, I feel fairly comfortable in school, with talking to people, its just I dont have any real friends, that i could hang out with outside of school. I feel like I've hung out with one of the more popular groups, but I never really made friends. I kinda just tag along with my 2 best friends, who I have known since I was 2 years old. So i need advice on making friends that I could hang out with on the weekends. Its kinda hard cuz I am probably not considered a friend to anyone in my group excluding probly 5 people. Everyone already has friends that they hang out with on the weekends, so it would be hard to get into one of those groups, but I need to get good friends. U might say hang with ur 2 best friends, well, they kinda arent really considerered great friends anymore. They now consider me more of a neighborhood friend. They even said they r gonna be hanging out with different people more. They havent even introduced me to any of there friends. They were the ones who convinced me to switch back to my homeschool, and now they r just kind of ignoring me. They kinda just showed me my classes and left me on my own. On the 2nd day of school, when I couldnt find where they were eating for lunch, they didnt even call me or w/e to help me out. I think that shows that they arent my real friends. And my school is huge 2000+ students so its hard to get classes with my friends. I would even like to find people to buy maryjane from, but the only people who really smoke that are the skaters (which I am not). I think if I could find the maryjane sellers in my school, then it might help me get friends, (and I do like to smoke it). Do you think I should just walk up to the smokers and be like hey do u know where to get weed? School parking lot at lunch??? I mainly need to get friends to hang out with. AND ADVICE ON GIRLS PLEASE. Let me tell you one thing about myself b4 I finish up I am not great with girls, (hey I'm not gonna lie, I aint bad looking) but i am terrible at talking with girls, how do I get a girlfriend w/o looking like a retarded dumbass? And I am quiet at first, but once people get to know me I can be very talkative and open. Hopefully I have given u enuf info for u to give me good advice. I would be greatly appreciate. Thanks

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Join clubs to find like minded people or make a club about something you're interested in. Keep trying to talk to people in your classes. As for girls, same thing. Most people meet girls through friends. Maybe try getting a job somewhere. You can meet people a lot easier that way especially if you have a job in some sort of small mom and pop shop or something. Like Little Ceaser's. I guess that's not really mom and pop, but you know what I mean. Big corporations like Target are good, too, but they are really big and it's easier to talk to people in places that are small and don't have as many people working at once. I remember where I went to high school, a lot of stoner's worked at the Little Ceasers across the school. Try stuff like that if it's availble.

Playing sports is can also be a good idea, if you are athletic. yeah and like iris said, talk to people. ask them how their weekend was, be real sincere. and dont be afraid to disagree with somebody. just do it in a nice way. stand up for your opinions.

maryjane: dont make friends with someone over your mutual love of tree. cause then when one of you wants to stop, be it for any reason, you will probably realize you dont have much in common with them, and youll be back where you started

girls: girls dont want the guy who is super nice to them. you have to be nice, but dont make it seem like youre a little bitch. and be funny.

all this is easier said than done. but good luck with all this

Become genuinely interested in people and what they do and you'll find you'll get same thing back. Ask people what they've been up to and listen and ask questions/share stories around it. Try and be confident in yourself and just talk to people. If you talk to a lot of people and don't act retarded, having friends really isn't that difficult.

I wasn't much of a looker in high school, I was pretty much the complete opposite and I was still considered one of the 'popular' kids. Be GENUINELY interested in people and if you're a funny person, don't be afraid to make the jokes.

Probably my best advice is to get busy. Get busy - get pussy. Remember, the more you do the more you have to talk about. Try and experience everything.

There's a quote I heard once when I was younger that I've tried to adhere to. It goes something like, "If you want your life to become more interesting, say yes more often." Do it. Say yes to every offer and invitation and see where you end up. Makes life a lot more exciting. Fuck the self-limiting beliefs.

Be social, be confident and say yes more often. Friends and girlfriends fall into place.

EDIT: As a side-note; I worked at Target through senior high school and it was the best job I had. You work with about 30 people around your own age and it's a great place to make friends, have a laugh and find people to get blazed and drunk with. Look into it. Once again; get busy. Play sport. Join communities. Exercise. Go to parties with new and random friends.

my time spent in high school was similar to your situation.
i was always a tag along, had 2 supposed best friends, and an endearing love for dank joints.

sophomore year i realized that high school was hell and completely worthless. i said fuck it and gave up on everything. i barely went to school, rarely did any of my homework, and hardly spoke to any of my class mates or friends. i better spent my time smoking a bit to much pot, experimenting with anything i could get my hands on, and progressing on my skateboard. i managed to graduate on time and enroll in college to get some higher education while staying high.

my advice to you is this. fuck it all, don't worry about making friends with kids in high school. find a hobby outside of school to make friends. it will be able to relate if you know for sure you have a common interest. to fucking scattered brain to continue.

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Ok thats all I got so far..........

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MAKING FRIENDS IS EASY EVEN IF YOU ARE SHY.


1. start by sitting next to the funny people at school, the class clowns if you will. if you laugh at their jokes they will like you. maybe try to see the funny side in what the teachers lecture is...and maybe take the information in and make a funny point my greatest time was when this happened in SEX ed. The teacher was talkin about how you(the guy, which is me) should stop when a girl tells you no. then the teach said if she says anything like "STOP. DON'T. or NO...you must stop or it is rape.." then i raised my hand and interrupted "what if she says 'No, don't stop?!" I have never heard so much laughter, even the teacher laughed.

2. If the kids are playing ball inside/outside play with them, even if you are not good, i made friends with kids that suck at sports through sports and i made friends with some good athletes through sports( i am an athlete myself)...just put yourself out there.

3. Sit with different people at lunch every day, until you find a group you feel comfortable with. Start with the cool kids /attractive ones first then work ur way down to the goths/emo/turds. never become part of a particular "cliq"

4. Don't suck up to the teachers out loud, or if you don't get something the teacher is teaching and you are asking him tons of questions and taking tons of time, people might get annoyed with you...so try to minimize that.

5. Rule number fiiive you never get high on your own supply......what I'm saying is if you sell drugs a lot of people will like you...not necessarily for the right reasons....and by a lot of people i mean some people (like cops, security, principle)....

6. If you pull good grades and subtly let everyone know, they will think you are smart....even proclaim that you never study even if you do. perfect example if a teacher is handing out papers and u got an A just leave it on ur desk....or if the teacher commends you for the good grade just play it off and say haha i didnt even study and smile.

7. Learn some jokes, yo mama, blonde, everything......if someone tells a joke or something have something new that they will think is cool.....maybe go on youtube in the computer lab and show everyone the new videos that must be seen. haha www.meatspin.com

8. Be genuine....mean every word that comes out of your mouth. well ok u can joke and play, but i want my friends to be genuine....not back stabbers.

9. when you do get friends, and you start talkin to girls.......see how they act......you dont want cock blocking friends.

10. Just be yourself, and like one guy said which blew my mind "say yes"

Talk to them alot, and when they tell you a story about something they did that weekend be like, oh shit nice, let me tag along next time. If they actually like you they will give you their number there and then, if not they might say like Im not sure if this is gonna ever happen again.

Right now Im trying to get new friends, the kids Iv been hanging out with smoke too much, where as Im more of a drinker. Be ontop of shit. All soph. year I sat in my desk didnt say a word and didnt give a shit, this is not how you make friends, this is how people make you think you're an emo fag.

Host small parties (5-10 people) if you can, with alchol. If you got a pool then this shit is awsome. Too bad for me I struggle to fit 4 people in my house, fucking sucks to be middle class

Nope.

That's great to make classmates to laugh at.. but friends...? They will probably find you to be quite a tagalong, one kid I know actually got made fun of for trying to do the same thing.. "Chuckles" they called him because you could always find him laughing at jokes outside of a crowd. He's dead now from a stroke and no one even remembers him.. so keep that in mind, this is bs advice.

Ok I can agree with this, the people that are worth being friends with will appreciate someone else to play with, give you pointers and shit. The dicks will be dicks, but those aren't the people you want as friends anyway.

Again, this is a way to never get yourself known, seen as a tagalong. I mean how awkward would that be, they're not even gonna talk to you at lunch when their friends are right there.

Good advice..


If anything this will annoy people unless you know them.

Yeah this shit works. Don't take any chances though, only the best of the best. if you tell some lame shit it will take a long time to get over that.

words o' truth.



SAY YES is SO IMPORTANT.. How are you gonna get friends if you don't put yourself out there? If you get offered to do something, even if it sounds like some lame shit, go for it. It only gets better and better.

while this is sometimes true, a weed buddy is better than nothing. and i've met some real friends through weed, getting high was how we realized we had similar views and senses of humor, and it's done in a non-awkward way since you're high anyway. but if you don't smoke weed alot don't try and act like you do, because you'll probably end up getting showed up or something embarrassing will happen. be honest.